Hmmm...married people, just how happy are they?
Out last night at a friend of mine father's birthday party, I noticed some married couples that have been married for several years.I am a person who believes actions speak louder than words and as it has been said by many professional conversationalists, that the non-verbals speak about 80% of the true message being spoken.
The one friend of mine has been married 20+ years and I noticed late last year...since I just moved back in the area then...that whenever he says any endearing words to his wife, she either told him off, or just turned away with a repulsed look on her face. When talking with him, I can see he has that deer in the headlights look. I get that he loves her, but she...well, hate is a strong word...but, she seems to hate him.
The other friend last night, I have known him since he was a little boy, always a nice person. He came from an affluent family background, and is about 5'3" in height. He is a good looking chap. He married a very beautiful woman, one could look at it as a married made in heaven for these two. Well, at least I thought anyway. I noticed they didn't talk much with each other. They were at the party, but that is about it...a physical level. The whole night, she was out talking with random guys. I noticed that every so often, my friend would go out looking for her. Near the ending of the night, I was going to my car, and there she was, talking off in the dark and in private with another guy. Speaking with him, he just did not seem all that happy. I have never spoken with her, so I could not get much of an impression....but, the combination of both of their actions kinda gave me the picture things were not good at home.
In both cases, the men loved and wanted to be with their wives, as it appear to me, but the women seems very distant from the relationship.
In your opinion and from what you have seen or heard, who do you think would be more apt to leave a marriage, the woman or the man. From what I have heard, most always it is the woman. If that is true, why? Is it something about her biological make up...maybe she gets bored? I know once you loose attraction with a woman, it is a very difficult job to regain it.
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Good point about the public image. I also do agree, if two people in a relationship are not truly happy, they should not remain together. However, there is a difference about maybe one being in a bad mood for a day or a week....and one just outright despising the other they are with. We should all be pursuing happiness, I think.
...but, for some people, especially the chronically depressed, happiness might be unattainable.
With the high divorce rate we have today, it seems as if selfishness is the order of the day.
I am just curious which gender is more willing to jump ship first....and maybe why that is.
It seems to me it is usually the men who are holding on to the mirage of a relationship, doomed to fail for sure at some point in the future.
That I definitely see over and over again.
A lot of the reason women dump men is because of men's selfishness and of their putting their own needs and wants be for that of the relationship /family.
I wish to know how often I choose wrong.
That is an interesting point. I think it would be a great discussion to find out more about a common factor or factors that drive marriages apart.
Women tend to stay in bad relationships either for the kids and/or financial reasons.
Men do so as not to be alone.
Women are better able to survive alone.
This is even proven in the fact that married men live longer than single ones.
... one may be connected to the machines ....
In regards to your first comment, I would think if two people are madly in love with each other, both of them wanting to be closer with each other would make them closer with each other.....rather than driving them further apart.
But I do not know that for a fact.
I can see where somebody could reference a marriage or a relationship as a prison...but if it is a healthy relationship, I would think it would be anything but a prison.
Again, I do not know that for sure.
But, I would think a healthy relationship would make both people in more fulfilled then if they were alone...or at minimum, make them as fulfilled if they were alone. As soon as the relationship starts robbing that fulfillment, a feeling of a prison might be felt.
I think anyway.
That is how good relationships survive and thrive.
But Both have to work on it.
Relationships, and people, cannot be taken for granted, or they flounder.
What is your experience in a relationship? May I ask?
Measured in years.
I would suggest people be weary of the person who has everything handed to them without earning it. They may not understand the responsibility portion.
...or the one who has had the opposite flocking to them just for being beautiful, they may have a misconception of what it takes to love.
Maybe it's just the way it is.And next time you might notice some one was noticing you.
can ask you lots more questions,ok? Happy Halloween partying!
Not hurting the woman, that is a perspective I have not thought of or looked at before. That really is something to give some talk and thinking about.
Thank you.
Better than say
Robert?
With that being said, it sounds like the husband was not happy in the relationship....of course making their spouse unhappy by doing what they should not be doing. Misery loves company?