Everyone seems to only woory about or comment on the aesthetics of the problems overweight people have without any concern for the overall health risks and problems that develop over the amount of weight a person has, not even from those that are "a bit overweight" to those that are "abundantly overweight"....the strains on the vital organs, such as the heart, the liver, kidneys, arteries, the spine and other bones that have to bear the weight, etc, etc. The amount of extra, un-needed weight does affect a person's life span...yet, it doesn't seem to bother anyone, other than their "cosmetic appearance". Seems, to me, that priorities have been turned upside-down.
EXCELLENT ! Bravo! Beethoven could not have expressed it better banging away on his keyboard!! Helps doesn't it! We all must do this at times; better this way than going outside with all the frustrations ,anger and/ or rage.. Hope you feel better now!? :D
Excellent; wonderful post actually; actually feels good to read it! We are all human and and are all prone to levels of depression of one sort or another throughout our lives for many resons. Your post is a good reminder to all of us that none of us are imune.Thank you for this. :) (and I hope that you don't get "cut-off" while in your prime; that is a horrible road to get left on)
Freedom In A Dumpster In this sprawling drunken city the best ideas are left to rot. The people drift and scroung the dirty streets. The beggars pick through the garbage looking for a living; for freedom; Flexing his arm for another needle he staggers off happy to be alive; To be fed is their desire. They lie in an alleyway' and yell and cry..... The purity of an old dream still burns in my blood. Tonight the crowds still gather at the dumpsters. Emotion shreds itself.... My thought is of food; perhaps even a flower somewhere... Desires demand fantasy...
Good rules to follow, but how does one determine if the person is really "free" or is really looking for an exclusive "committed relationship"; surely not by simply taking their word on it, not in this day and age where for the most part, truth, honour and integrity are just tools to use and discarded along with "the conquered woman"...:)
Good observation; I've found the same. I have had a few aquaintences that had this conception also and started wearing wedding rings...and started having more women talk with them than ever before and yes, a couple of them did "enjoy the fruits of their labour: of wearing the ring...:) sometimes it does seem to work...:))
Interesting topic, as I've wondered the same thing. Photos, pictures are a form of communication, therefore a message(s) is being sent; but just what is the "message"; what are we to make of it? What are the possible messages/ interpretations of someone who has chosen to post a photo with "an ex"; there is no need to, when one can obtain a good and cheap photo from almost any dept. store, photobooth or camera store for under a couple of dollars; the old excuse of "it's the only one I have..." doesn't cut it and neither does the " but I don't want to cut-up my photo..";even a Wall Mart has a photo department to get fast good and cheap photos done for a nominal cost... This has been posted several times before by various people for people who say they "can't get a photo of themselves..."which has led to one other message from the poster, that they are perhaps not really making an effort, nevermind other possible messages...
For ALL fantasies, after the showrooms for the Bugatti's etc. take it down Friedrichstr. to the Galleries Lafayette, absolutely the best department store in Europe, and visit their Lingerie section....for men and women :)
There is a nice showroom and dealer for Bugatti's just 2 blocks down from the Berlin gate on Unter den Linden, with a medium strip for walking; great place for the "trench-coat" exposure promenade....
Yes, absolutely, invite the husband also; he must know what is going on, so he may as well be included; btw, who wrote this script and which film company is making this movie??? Disney...:)
For what it's worth, I'll put in my cheap 2 cents worth; even the most successful and agreeable unions, there are differences, (some irreconcilable) and incompatibilities,(some vast), which are the mysterious "unresolvables" upon which that relationship becomes a kind of medetation. Most of the time, we live with these difficulties as a kind of wearying background noise to the interplay of our relationships. They haunt us as sorrows, frustrate us as unfulfilled needs, prickle our consciousness as irritating secrets and unexpressed resentments. How we handle, or don't handle, them has a great effect on our relationships. Keeping the difficulties to yourself,( whether they be imperfections of your partner or on the relationship itself) won't make you feel any better, nor will it move you toward bridging the distance that your difirences represent. What does hold the possibility of creating change is facing your differences head-on and lovingly talking about them, face-to-face. What this means is that you will dive into even that most risky of emotional waters---sharing with your partner the things that are irritating or disruptive. This involes, first of all, being truthful with yourself about what these things are,ie. "Is it really ok that he wants to date others but not ok for me?" Once you've faced the truth by yourself, hold on to it. Don't blurt it out; instead, perhaps write it out on a list. Then, with your partner, pick a time to talk about these things, You might want to do it on a regular basis, a week, a month, just to keep the emotional slate clean, or perhaps choose a single, specific time when your secret "grudges" have mounted up. The format, then is to say very simply, "I need to tell you what is difficult for me right now." Then state, without any anger or judgement, what's bothering you. It sort of becomes a "ceremony" ; each partner takes a turn, both in revealing what is hard and in responding. It isn't about making promises to change behavior, just about saying and acknowledging the difficulties, accepting that they exist and believing that the desired relationship is strong enough to contain the truth of what you both reveal. Afterwards, the "ceremony" may even end with an "I love you" to each other. It may be worth a shot...:)
Feelings reside in us like a river and pass through our consciousness in an evermoving flow. They range from fear, sadness, shame, and anger to joy, delight, exuberance and playfulness. At any moment, we can reach in and discover what we're feeling. Saying what you feel is giving audible language to the flow of feelings, discovering and articulating the emotions that are the constant undercurrent of our lives. Revealingt these emotional tides to the person you love is a way for you to continue to endear yourself to your partner. We often think that intimacy is created merely by "falling-in-love" or by immediatly jumping into bed, or by what we do, plan,buy, or even persue together. But it is actually getting to know another person through the intricate texture of his or her emotions that makes us feel truly connected. In fact, an intimate relationship at its core is a process of trading feelings to a high degree. Paradoxically and sadly, it's often when we love someone that we tend not to share our emotions and revert to information-laden conversation. It just doesn't occur to most, that the other person is interested in what we are sad, happy, scared or angry about. In this way, surprisingly, proximity can breed not intimacy but a sense of isolation. Believe it or not, it's the experience of knowing you that your beloved wants. He or she wants to see the full kaleidoscope of your inner emotional contents, to understand how you feel, to discover what makes you tick. It's all this that makes you who you are, that makes you uniquely lovable.... If it's hard for you to express your emotions, you need to know that it will be worth it to step into these unfamiliar waters and discover the treasures at your depths. Not only will your partner be pleased to connect with you, but the experience of discovering your feelings will give you a greater sense ofthe richness of your own inner life. So, let the person you love enter this underground stream of your feelings so they can cherish you, so he or she can love you even more, by starting to say, exactly and always, whatever is in your heart and mind;say what you feel.
Vocatum tuum nullius momenti utamus eumque... Preme gulluham primam uti musicam molestam audias Preme secundam ut sonum funis occupati audias Preme tertiam uti tinnitum sempiternum lineae vacuae audias Preme quartam uti statim disungaris Sit iucundus tibi dies :D :))))))) !!!!
In this life, if it be a school, the perhaps the lesson is love and the many faceted relationships, the teachers. Indeed, more than anything else we undertake in this life, our intimate relationships are, for each of us, the pilgrimage to our own capacity to love.Call it :the emotional path to love" if you wish, to finding a way to deepen your connection and make it sweeter. If one has lost sight of the purpose of being together, the deeper meaning of your connection, or if one has become more complacent, conducting your relationship on only the level of emotional interchange, then perhaps one needs to pay more attention to those "signs" along the roads of/ to love as it were; feel your way into love, let your emotions mark out the route; your heart already knows the way and you will get there, eventually but there remains a rather nagging question which needs an answer first: How can we love one another if we have not first loved ourselves?How can we find the road to that other's heart without holding our own heart in a basket of tender care? We ourselves, really are the measure of love we can deliver, the beauty of the love that we can share.... Ummm, me thinks sometimes, I do spend too much time in idle thoughts; oh well...:)
For what it's worth, in my rather meagre experience with this, I've found that Love is a process, not a destination, which is hard to keep in mind in this instant gratification and disposable oriented society that strives for some hazy goals, like "independence" which to me is bot a synonym for irresponsibility, aka, "no commitment" to anyone or anything.But nothing short of that broad perspective is needed when we are trying to enact the full magnitude of our,(seemingly), "lovingness" on the human level, day in, day out. For we as individuals exist on the material, emotional and the spiritual planes, and our relationships do too. To keep love alive, we must deal not only with who takes out the garbage, but how we trigger one another's wounds from the past, and what we need to do to raise the consciousness of our love so that it is a reflection of our highest and best selves.And this, is no small task....
LOLLL! :) Ask awya, that is one good reason for all the various topics; ask and be amazed at the multitude of answers, from the mundane, to the hilarious, to the bizarre. Strange snacks??? Oh you bet; if people can eat anchovees on pizza, anything is possible. Oh, please spiceangel do discuss all about what you do know; don't hold back! :D I like sardines with potato chips and a dip of mustard and mayo, curied eggplant etc. If it runs, grows, flies, swims or swings, I'll try it. :)
Yes, haven't we all.....and sometimes our experiences can really warp our judgements also if you listen to those inner voices...we just do the best we can.
LOL ! Mine were the opposite, especially my daughter...but to no avai. Now, that she is nearly 17, I threaten to go hang around bars to meet some woman that wants to either split the rent or at least pay part of it,(rent just goes up next month again), boy can she yell at me!! :)))
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RE: why do men always want a size 6
Everyone seems to only woory about or comment on the aesthetics of the problems overweight people have without any concern for the overall health risks and problems that develop over the amount of weight a person has, not even from those that are "a bit overweight" to those that are "abundantly overweight"....the strains on the vital organs, such as the heart, the liver, kidneys, arteries, the spine and other bones that have to bear the weight, etc, etc. The amount of extra, un-needed weight does affect a person's life span...yet, it doesn't seem to bother anyone, other than their "cosmetic appearance". Seems, to me, that priorities have been turned upside-down.