There's a Russian joke on the subject: on the odd days I'm an academician, on the even days I herd the reindeer. Nonetheless, they are journalists when it suits them. They are fighters when it suits them. Make your choice.
I am not a psychotherapist and cannot have any kind of opinion on the subject. But if you think that it causes you problems, then I wish you to overcome it.
Well... if you realise that your partner / spouse would like some kind of reassurance of your feelings to them, it doesn't have to be the word "love", though nothing wrong with it if you love them. You can show affection in some other, non-verbal, way: a hug, a stroke, a kiss... something, that feels right for both of you.
Doing some of their part of house chores now and then is another way to show you care.
My best - then - friend told me at the time of my divorce: get married / get a lover at once or you'll remain single. (Because being single for a woman is the best option ever.) I didn't listen to her. I thought that before involving in a relationship, I'd enjoy being single for a little more. And more. And more... until being single became my philosophy.
It's so convenient. It's so satisfying. It's so me.
It is very single. Yes. It is also very independent :)
I am a bad listener. Partly because I understand better written word, than spoken, and partly because I'm seldom interested in people and therefore indifferent to what they have to say about anything and usually it's the story of their life ***shudder***
Self-bettering in progress: I try to limit socializing with people, I'm indifferent to, and spend more time with and invest more energy in people, I like. And then really listen to them. Sometimes I menage :)
I've seen a interview with a virologist, who claimed that Covid has been designed in laboratory in Wuhan and got out out of negligence. But I never seen a second independence confirmation.
Until that: it's a virus as any other.
But if it's manmade, then I am glad that I am as old as I am and have lived the most of my life before all that.
Well... it's your trait to think whatever you want about it, of course, but I myself think that it's in a line "you treat other people as you want to be treated": you grant them benefit of the doubt in order that they will do the same.
I personally wouldn't evaluate it as something not to like. But of course, it's yours to like or dislike :)
My observation: a true love is always unrequited. Even if the both sides are involved. I don't know how it's possible. Once upon a time I was totally in love with a man who was totally in love with me, yet we were totally in love with each other in a completely different way. And the ways we were in love with each other weren't requite from the other side.
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RE: 3 hostages killed by IDF
There's a Russian joke on the subject: on the odd days I'm an academician, on the even days I herd the reindeer. Nonetheless, they are journalists when it suits them. They are fighters when it suits them. Make your choice.