and I'm not sure that that is 'better' in all cases, since our, lets say moods change daily or our tolerance level morphs in and out. We may sometimes miss or dismiss to readily (in RL) people that we may indeed be suited for.
I think the possibility to 'fool' ourselves in ' facing our dream images' exists in both.
For me there is a huge difference between 'intent' and behavior and most times engrained behaviors take over, so the dream image is thwarted in some weird self-destruct event, and in both worlds
but thats not the question.... can you acquire enough information online VR, to create a desire to go for it.
As time evolves anything can happen whether you meet in RL or VR first. Thats a given but if your focus is on the future, how much of your present is being wasted?
Oh you're right if rely totally on "presence' as the determining factor. And I agree, another's presence will flood your senses with many more answers and more immediately so than VR can, UNLESS, you rely on intuition or that connection (you know the universal force thingy ). Some people are much more adept at intuition than at linear assessment, needing to take each step one at a time in order. You call that a no brainer because you are primarily linear. For them and in a truer sense of 'no brainer', they dont respond to linear brain requests,- they control intuitive brain receptions in the decision process..makes sense?
I think what you're referring to and I dont mean to be critical, is ego getting in the way. Emotions are ego driven and that's where the 'cloud' comes from. I dont think everyone operates from an emotional position, even though they want to experience it, they trust, the 'force'/spirit to use your words, in guiding their choice and seem to have a real good handle on communication with their selves (their I or ego) and hence their 'sense' of things.
you may be right and for me, getting to the decision part, though it sounds rather calculating, saves some time.
I think also that people who are slower (for lack of a a better word) in RL, find VR somewhat more helpful in ensuring that the process is slowed down to their liking, but in the end may become more enamoured with the 'sentiment' they build up overtime, because the RL experience isnt there. Not saying its wrong, just is what it is.
Too bad. I have had those experiences as well so dont even know if there was going to be a connection. But lies and misrepresentaion aside I think your no brainer comment is unjustifed in cases where people are being upfront and maybe following instinct or intuition?
I agree by and large with you of course that its true.
As I said I have had 3 where, enough information was gleaned, safety backups in place and the meeting went through full steam ahead, one even met me blindfolded and to this day still does not know what I look like, save her 'touch' experience. Its not for everyone, but some seem to be eager to umm maybe jump without a net so to speak, trusting themselves maybe?
Oooo I think many people are willing, provided there is attraction, availability and no personal impediments to getting together. I think the www makes it take so much longer to decide; and doubt creeps into the equation so often; because of it , we think others are not making an effort.
A committment or decision that takes less time RL but takes much more time in VR.
Ok, so you will get the notion though, eventually, from online experiences with someone. What you're saying is that RL will confirm it or chase it away? that there is a final decision and that for you lies in RL.?
I think most people do, though there appears to be some people for whom the thought of boinking, once they have had it, means a desire to bring it to fruition, barring some horrific RL meeting of course.
ok gotcha, now answer the question ... would you ever have that 'transfer", that feeling, notion of yep I'm going to boink him (provided he agrees) when we meet?
5 secs=2months!
a long way from my theory 1 RL day=10 VR days may have to readjust me figures
so you dont find that the 'transfer' can happen before, at some point int VR experience, so that you know you want to when you meet? (their decision aside of course)
I have a lady from germany visit and another from australia, both for a month, both slept with me, nekkid but I kept the 'sensual' out of it, though they were quite willing to 'do it' ... The other one was even wilder and prob not details I should post but some people seem either more adventurous, or less complicated and dont require large amounts of 'get to know you time'
I agree, some will over complicate a rather smple process, though consideration of 'well being and safety' should be a must, me thinks
I have had 3 experiences in my vr/rl life that defy the 'norm', uncomplicated. Two of them were emails, and picture exchange, one was only emails All three willing to meet and .... yes, without testing the water first.
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