Like in the dog world, the REAL "alpha" is hardly ever pushy or asserts his dominance unnecessarily - he is calm and confident. I've noticed it's the same with people.
thats actually the description/behavior of a dominated submissive dog. Pack leaders/alpha, are generally quite aggressive in the dog world.
oooooooh ... geee an alpha male battles for the position, his calm periods come from there not being any more challenges to his dominance, so if you like aplha males and then challenge them in any way, you might well expect the dominance to come forth ... rabidly Goes for alpha females as well. Just challenge one .. and it's not so calm anymore.
Its still pretty much the same thing I think, there are some people who detach emotionally in a more immediate way to keep the 'feelings' away, while others see it entirely different and a way to experience life.
Actually emotional detachment is quite common in most relationships. I did it when I first learned my father was terminal, until I realized what I was doing. Had I not realised it I would have missedsome of the greatest moments of my life with him. But there are people who for whatever reason dont, wont or cant see it.
I understand what you're saying, in a logical sense.
The paradox is; however, that both the sentences I highlighted are contradictory...." my role is to enhance and increase that happiness. " ; because, that self assumed "role", is "being responsible" for another's happiness. In fact "enhancing" another would be choosing more responsibility than just allowing another to find happy on their own.
I would ask ship, are you disillusioned by rejection of people who dont feel they can handle it and are now assuming ALL cant or won't?
What if ... pushing ALL people away, also pushed away a person who does not see the suffering, but the great love in being with you? Love is after all, surrender and giving.
reading your post and ships shows a certain 'choice' of suffering. One chooses to stay alone (suffering immediate loss) despite the possibility of love, though for a only a short period (suffering eventual loss)
While some see their direction in a more positive light it still boils down to chooing your poison so to speak, immediate loss or eventual loss.
That consideration, no doubt enters the mind of the one with the illness as you say. How much suffering they would want to be responsible for in others; because that too would create an additonal suffering.
I think this is a microcasm of relationships, the choice of existential suffering, whether there is an abnormal ingredient or not. Choosing to love someone will always mean sacrifice, if we're honest with ourselves.. me thinks.
Nah, its just theory, but the most successful theories have known variables, unlike quantum and string theory :eyesroll:. And this theory has some known constants, the rest (what it means as to possibly a much larger 'being') is conjecture. Not suggesting gods at all
Energy is the medium of consciousness,(wiring for lack of a better word) Awareness doesn't happen without physio, biological material and interaction and that, to our knowledge, is fact. Genes carry information, synapses create exchange in them, voila! awareness, put in simple terms.
Is the universe aware and of what is it aware? That sensation, is a localized event, - relative consciousness.
The proof of this 'wiring' was what I wanted you to see the other day in the thread I suggested you look at in the 'healing' thread.
I understand your penchant to hand everything to psychological dynamics, (psycho-somatic), but you might want to consider it's inverse as well, somato-psyche (sp) as well; because the exchange between those two is not psychological at all; but a process of energy in motion.
well now it a sure thing. theories are like that sometimes, you think you can but then you know for sure you can ... not at all like quantum theory, which says you can't pick your nose until after your fingers arrive and then after your nose arrives, and maybe your fingers have left by the time that happens so... its messier than nose pickins..
I'll talk to someone,or shake their hand, ask them if they've seen my dog, no biggie, so what if you get a dead fish... its a sardine tin world and we're just little kippers on our way to the slaughter.
RE: I Think I'll Start
anything that annoys jjust one person seems to be all that is needed for survival of relevance.