BnaturAl Forum Posts

Nov 4, 2008

RE: 5 best and worst things about you

another example of human diversity

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Nov 4, 2008

RE: 5 best and worst things about you

oh geee ... the waiting for opinion drives me nuts

Well, I don't really drive nuts, more like just steering them...

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Nov 4, 2008

RE: 5 best and worst things about you

knowledgeable
patient/stubborn
common sense
intent
wet wit

best or worst is for others to assume/presume

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Nov 4, 2008

RE: Say something to anyone and no need to mention the Turkey....... Thanksgiving style!!!!!

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Nov 4, 2008

RE: McCain or Obama? FIVE DAYS MORE!

smart and prepared is the death knoll for republicans, he must be a dem

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Nov 3, 2008

RE: What´s the worst revenge?

you folks is answering whats the 'best' revenge

redo!

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Nov 3, 2008

RE: Betrayal and Blame

oh... I always get a say, even if its just 4 ums or 5 ohs...

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Nov 3, 2008

RE: Betrayal and Blame

phew! you are now officially the new smartass

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Nov 3, 2008

RE: Say Something to Someone.......Halloween Style!!!

fast service ... must be take out

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Nov 3, 2008

RE: Say Something to Someone.......Halloween Style!!!

I just like the center of a pie, I leave the crust stuff

al a mode

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Nov 3, 2008

RE: Betrayal and Blame

When the phone's broke you don't ask plumbers for advice....

You will only get resolution in one of two ways;

1)Talking it out with the phone guy, (your confidante?) because that's what is broken

2) In the event that no communication is happening, no measure of response from plumbers, aside from ' human comfort' will be achieved. The event won't be resolved you know? The brain responds to what we want and or we tell ourselves we want. It pays attention to what we are focused on. As long as your focus remains on the event you know your reactions are event centered. It is then more about changing the event or perceptions or the people involved in it, rather than on resolution.

If the other isn't communicating or you're not, and when you want resolution, that must be the focus. The brain won't care how you do it, though some attention to consequences is wise. I mean it's not a good idea to murder anyone just to have resolution

However; symbols will help. I have used the burning of photos to symbolize the end of and resolution of matters. Its not so much the articles you use or how, it's about focus, about intention to resolve it personally and let go.

For most of us, there are stages involved in emotional response to events, so I realise that we get upset and it's not so easy to just turn it around in a second, especially when we feel truly hurt. Time is required so I don't mean to just flip a switch and get on with it. I mean at some point you will have to realise that communication is either over or it's not, if it's helpful or it's not and then focus on personal resolution if it isn't.

I'm not sure wrong or right matters and if does, winning that plum won't resolve it either. Maybe validation is the issue? Shot in the dark

Your plumber (not taking sides)- BnaturAl