It would seem that for most people it is our first determining factor, even though some would insist that looks don't matter.
I'm sure that there are looks (JMHO) that we all gravitate to and they dont necessarily have to be "beautiful people looks", but there is a tendency to shed more attention on and or include people who were blessed in this way, which may lead us away from a more 'appropriate' match. I mean one that is based more on a connection attraction than a overall looks attraction.
I dont necessarily disagree with you in the eventuality, but in the meantime, how many opportunties are you getting if the 'pre-judged favouritism exists and is true, you have less chance at the eventual, yes?
So why if we are so aware of this totally baised situation, do we continue to uphold it? is it because our own sense of the perfect 'looks' is so much more important? Because the truth od the matter is really that, the 'beautiful people' are actually in the minority?
There have been many studies done on looks with findings that society approved 'good looks' often translates to more opportunities and success in the material world, for those who were blessed at birth. How many great movies do you see without hunks or babes in them, doing well at the box office... not many, unless theyre comedies.
There is however a 'modifier' in self esteem, environmental things that cause one too see themselves as a imperfect, despite their good looks. Exception proving the rule as it were.
Do people who are considered "better" looking in "looks" judgemental society also presented with more opportunites (aka suitors) to find a partner because of the numbers they attract? I'm not asking f they end up happier. Does society's measuring stick favour them?
I think so too. As I said some people tend to internalize and personalise a lot more than they should, and some tend to externalise more than they should, like its always the other persons fault. If people weren't accusatory in their tone and people who do something hurtful, owned what they did, things would be easier. The need to be right seems to over ride common sense; but emotion rarely sees common sense so...
Personally I find some women to be more 'subtle' most often and less apt to 'own' let alone apologize for their words and actions, but that's just my experience. They seem to expect men to just get over it and thats not really what being accountable is.
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RE: Libby questioned on forged letter linking Saddam to 9/11
ya , well , I only did that because Conrad hates moving ... as chancellor of job descriptions I like to piss people off ..