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RE: Say Something.... You Know the Rest...??!!

no just a throbbing "wrong" head

RE: Say Something.... You Know the Rest...??!!

yes but only nekkid .. check with hugz, but I think thats the rule

RE: Say Something.... You Know the Rest...??!!

ok I'll try to think of the maker of the Sumatra that's better .. try the salt grains too ..


a half hour isnt far at all when it comes to mochas

RE: Say Something.... You Know the Rest...??!!

just

RE: Say Something.... You Know the Rest...??!!

folgers ...strong... folgers isn't strong its bitter

do you put a few grains of salt in the basket? takes the bitter edge off?

RE: Say Something.... You Know the Rest...??!!

yes but my brain isnt working at the mo' ... sumatra is bolder, cant recall the maker though or... if theres a coffee outlet around you, theres Kona, but the real good stuff (peabody kona) is costly, about 60$ pound, any cheaper and its lower valley kona runoff crap.

then there's Tims Mochas coffee and hot choc..

RE: Say Something.... You Know the Rest...??!!

it was until I couldn't get to sleep...



I was refuse to answer the production issue in mixed company

RE: Say Something.... You Know the Rest...??!!

ohhh I thought you meant you were going to Tim Hortons ... the home brew stuff, eeeeeeeek, have to put a lot more coffee in the basket to get it strong... there are stronger blends than tims around ..

RE: Say Something.... You Know the Rest...??!!

me head keeps expanding and retracting, not so sleepy ... been a while since I was up that late ... I would take a sleep head over this throbby head right about now I see a lot of coffee in my future

RE: Say Something.... You Know the Rest...??!!

you'll be hooked .... dont even think about trying their Mochas oh I better go get one...

RE: Say Something.... You Know the Rest...??!!

morning somebabe


errr chick

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way late!!! but then I was up til errrmmm I dunno 3 ....

how are gra?

RE: Say Something.... You Know the Rest...??!!

I woked up!

RE: What a woman should know about a man before they meet in person?

Picky

RE: Say Something.... You Know the Rest...??!!

RE: Say Something.... You Know the Rest...??!!

Rubber dickie

You're the one

:music:

RE: What a woman should know about a man before they meet in person?

does he have big nose?






What ?

RE: OK, so it over - how do you let somebody down gently?

yep and I think pride gets confused with Exasperation Exasperation, frustration
, hostility, ferocity, bitterness, hate, loathing, scorn, spite, vengefulness, dislike, resentment Disgust,revulsion, contempt Envy Envy, jealousy

Kind of what I mean, when I say people generally dont know what they're truly feeling because they've been told not to feel either by society or by partners demeaning their feelings when they express them. It creates a situation of not wanting to know how you really feel and instead just lash out in the 'acceptable' anger.

Another thing that strikes me as odd is the word vulnerable and I often say you wont find love anywhere else but when you are vulnerable.

RE: is there a cure for a broken heart?

live it my dear! live it.

RE: OK, so it over - how do you let somebody down gently?

would indeed be interesting and ultimate ... not like we have done so well at it on our own either





someone else to blame tooo if it all goes wrong Kidding!, allowing someone to do that for you would be consumate acceptance of your own responsibility. Ultimate indeed.

RE: OK, so it over - how do you let somebody down gently?

yep .. it may sound trite, but people need to learn to take timeouts when theyre angry and the other wants to learn to let them have that time out to think, or decompress and then come back to the discussion. Times should be set up, like "I want an hour" whatever to think, then I'll get back to you and then do it, no empty promises, get back when you said you would. And if you havent decompressed you still call and say that and that you just want a little more time. Say what you mean, deliver what you say.... and tolerance, for me, I dont mind someone who hasn't got it down perfect, I'm not perfect, but clearly an attempt to own behavior with an effort to be functional, is far better than the current divorce rate climbing the way it is.

RE: OK, so it over - how do you let somebody down gently?

Well I agree Hugz though I dont think its necesarily romance as much as effort to understand another. And you may be right about it being "until after the honeymoon so to speak" I think both men and women experience this and then revert back to dysfunctional behavior because its hard to keep up appearances that aren't already burned in to our psyhche. I agree romance should be reworked and sprinkled liberally though, it a woman's need generally.

I meant though that I think we need to practice functional behavior, so that it becomes burned in to our psyche. We are so much more functional in the beginning, because as you say , there's a reward factor, bu then the old crap works it way back in as we become more comfortable letting out who we really are. There are lots of really good books on this I'm sure. Learning to negotiate etc. Its no so hard to negaotiate with someone who wants what we do, but when its someone who deosn't want what we do, well ... if you dont have functional skills, results will prove it.

RE: OK, so it over - how do you let somebody down gently?

That wouldnt be tooooo bad but you're still including someone you trust to make a decision for you. Kind of like finding someone you can trust to point out someone you can trust? and you cant find someone you trust to marry so .... yikes!

RE: OK, so it over - how do you let somebody down gently?

You know, I was thinking, is it possible that we spend more time thinking about how to get together and very little on how to stay together. The difference in effort alone is deafening when you think about it

Do we lose the effort we had in the beginning or sort of the desire to adjust that we had in the beginning?

RE: Say Something.... You Know the Rest...??!!

Rubber Duckie,



I'm awfully fond of you;



Woo woo be doo

RE: OK, so it over - how do you let somebody down gently?

yep not easy in a highly charged moment.. thats why I think its important to be known as someone who for the most part says what they mean and means what they say, from the heart.

ahhh perfection would make life sooo much easier

RE: OK, so it over - how do you let somebody down gently?

it is hard isn't.

I think its important that the other person feels some sense of resolution, even if they dont beleive what you're saying at the time... matter of respect really. And sometimes theyre just going to feel it their own way no matter what, but to have some self respect of not leaving people in a lurch, I think its somewhat of a personal duty to at least put it on the table, whether they eat or not is their choice.

Hello T.

RE: OK, so it over - how do you let somebody down gently?

RE: Say Something.... You Know the Rest...??!!

rubber ducky, you're the one..

RE: How do you know?

maybe your expectations create your future?