The two men I met were also from there. I wish the VERY BEST for you & Robert. I hope he knows what a very lucky man he is to have captured our hollandgirl's heart.
I have many wonderful friends who've been helping me through this. Heck, I sat at the club I work at the other night with tears streaming down my cheeks as I talked to someone about it. I had my friend remove the bracelet he got me while on vacation to Jamaica from my wrist.
Even when I'm home, I have a roommate. So, I can't be completely alone.
I just think that it's best not to date other men, because I "have baggage", as they say.
I'd always kept myself away from getting into another relationship while I was healing from a past one. But I thought maybe this would help me in the healing process. It's not. And I think to take someone along on that journey isn't such a good idea. As a friend, yes. But no more than that. I think I'm going to go it alone, for now. Healthier for everyone involved.
And I can't help but worry that I may have ruined any chance of getting back together with the ex if he saw us, which is a good likelihood.
I know I've been in this spot too many times to even count. I thought I knew what to do & that it wouldn't hurt as much because I know that it's only temporary & will pass. But it still hurts like a SOB!! So, I thought dating other men would help. Not a good idea either.
I hate to admit it, but the flood gates still open over this guy. We weren't dating that long, but his attentiveness & being so 'into' me were what made me fall so hard. And it's just hard to accept that it's completely over. But I have to do that.
Both of you have a very good point. And in the future, I'll do that. But we'd spoken on the phone & were talking about gambling & casinos & such. We decided to be spontaneous & go to the casino. After I hung up, I remembered that my old b/f's band would likely be playing there. I figured I'd be fine & just avoid him. Unfortunately, the waitresses at this casino stink. So the only bar to go for drinks was right at the stage where the band was playing. They were on break & I figured we'd be gone before they got back onstage. Not the case... they came out while we were still standing in line. We got our drinks & I made a b-line out of there.
I had a date with a fantastic guy on Saturday night. I'd met him on another site. I laughed until tears were streaming down my cheeks. He was very handsome. He drove quite a distance to see me. And he was totally into me.
Unfortunately, I'm still not over my last boyfriend. I felt so bad, but I can't help my feelings. I hate this being in limbo!! I explained this to him this morning &, although he initially was a bit upset, he's being very understanding & is still talking to me.
I thought it'd be easy to get over the last one. But I'd fallen pretty hard for him. And he really hasn't given me complete closure. He never just said, "I don't think we should see each other anymore." He just told me I need to back off a little bit.
His band was playing at the casino where my date & I went. Not good. It just brought back all my old feelings for him. And it wasn't fair to my date either, although I did tell him about him.
Has this ever happened to you? Have you ever tried to move on, but couldn't? Have you ever been caught in 'limbo'?
Yes, I hate it! Because I have many friends who live quite a distance & would love to visit them. But since I took the train to cat's place, I figure I can do that again. And it was very relaxing.
In the ideal situation, that happens. In my situation, he only bothered when he had a girlfriend he was trying to impress.
Now, he's trying to make up for lost time. Our daughter had gotten to the point where she didn't even call him "Dad" anymore, she called him by his first name.
We've been apart for 17 years & he's finally stepping up to the plate.
Yes, BOTH parents SHOULD be involved, barring any abusive situations. But that's not always the case.
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RE: The Person Below Me....
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