So did I. But I'd have to say that it was very rough. He had a brain injury from a motorcycle accident. He had constant mood swings. His temper could get out of control at times. I gave it my all for 3 years though. But don't think I want to go down that path again. So, I'd have to say it would depend on the disability.
I'm a textaholic. I text people all the time. I find it easier to tell someone what I'm feeling in a text rather than to verbally tell them. And I'm not much for sitting on the phone with endless "blank spaces" filling the so-called conversation. Anyone feel the same way?
I've been here since April 2008. I've had one very promising prospect. But we didn't work out. There's always hope on the horizon, my dear friend. But you already know that. Chin up & always be optimistic!
I also had an alcoholic father, who abused each of us in the family, especially my mother. Luckily for me & my siblings, I had a very loving, supportive, nurturing mother who was never short on handing out the hugs after Dad handed out the punishment.
Today, my dear mother is gone & I've moved my father back here from Mississippi after Hurricane Katrina. I'm the child who visits, makes sure he has what he needs, takes him out every other weekend, etc. While I can never forget what he did in the past, I try to attribute it to his alcoholism (which he's stopped because he isn't allowed to drink in the home now). The nurses love him, as do his friends in the home. People can & do change... sometimes. He chooses to let the past in the past & that's where I feel most comfortable letting it. If I don't, it'll only eat at me & make me bitter, not only toward him, but toward men in general. That wouldn't be good for anyone & I choose not to live that way. I've chosen to forgive him for what he's done in the past. He's an old man who only has his children to be there for him. It's time to let the past be just that. My mom's gone, he's the only blood-parent I have left. I don't want to lose the 'good years' with him.
I can so relate to this. I'm starting a relationship right now. But this morning I heard from an ex who told me he's started dating someone new & I felt that hurt again. I never want to hurt the new guy, as he's been so sweet & wonderful to me. But I also don't want to give him up for the possibility of not being ready. This, for me, is another dilemma...
I think many times, Dru, we believe that someone else can or will help us to heal from a previous relationship. Unfortunately, all too often, in doing this, we drag someone else into the mess & actually usually create an even bigger mess. I once had an ex-boyfriend tell me, "I don't think any of us INTENTIONALLY sets out to hurt anyone, it just happens." He was very right.
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I've been very busy here at work. 
And now my computer's acting up today.
I'll be sure to call you if I get lost. 
RE: whats that you're eating 09
I switched to whole wheat bread & pasta.