Ok, I've just burnt my 5th witch of the morning, genuflected until my knees ache, and, I'll have you know, only just managed to get into reverse shift off the Express Elevator from Hell, with only a minor singe on my spotless, virginal lace shift...
The Beloved Anam Cara: Communion Soul to Soul Anam cara is Gaelic for “soul friend”. The anam cara is a Celtic concept of friendship.
"Relationships with an anam cara are not made but rather seemingly unfold or are discovered. The anam cara relationship is the awakening of a friendship in which the anam cara sees you as your highest, most beautiful self and with whom you may share the intimacies of your spiritual journey through life. An anam cara may or may not be physically present in your life to serve in that role."
I've found my time here so far very rewarding, in the main.
I've gone on several dates, travelled a distance to meet someone outside of Ireland, and had some enjoyable times. And, of course, made lots of friends.
I find, however, personally, that most of the guys that catch my eye are far, far away..
STOP CHANGING YOUR PROFILE PIC, SULTRY, Its confusing me!!
I agree with the above point, and also just wanted to say you are a very welcome addition to these forums. Its nice to see yet another woman with beauty AND brains here...
Yes, of course trust is a big issue for males AND females.
In answer to your general post, I look at it like this..
Say I met a guy, and spent time with him, fell in love with him, and wanted to be with him long term. He then asked me to marry him at some point down the line, because he wanted to legally commit to me and because he loved me enough to make that legal commitment, and because he wanted to make it formal rather than just co-habitating.
I think it would be a great shame to miss out on years of wonderful happiness purely because I was unwilling to sign a piece of paper.
The emotional fall out from a long term relationship is no less than from when you are married, so you dont save yourself heartache there. Neither, in some cases, do you save yourself financial heartache, given the more recent legislation in co-habitating couples and property division, etc. Obviously, though, that varies according to country and/or State.
I would say that until you feel that you would, hypothetically,if you met the right man, be able to LEGALLY commit, you are are better off to date and keep it light.
Sometimes "smooth talking" or flirting, is simply a way of hiding a person's deeper desire to be serious with you. Its easy to make a joke, or to "sweet talk" if you are nervous with someone, rather than really be yourself.
"Smooth talking" men are not always what they appear to be on the surface, and I mean that in a good way, because sometimes all they want is to get to know you, but are embarrased to be themselves and show their deeper self...
Im simply looking for what we all are;someone caring, loving, perfectly imperfect, and who is genuine. Someone who can see past the looks and the clothes and who just loves me for me..
I think by simply talking about it we are increasing the awareness..
Its easy for the CS forums to become a cozy, fuzzy, warm and snuggly haven, which it can be, but its also easy to forget that we are all behind pcs and laptops, saying whatever, and it can be a cruel, sad, hard world out there..
These threads are a sad wake up call of what CAN await you, so any reminder is good.
Exactly, Sommer..as I said, the distance you travel doesnt matter. Getting assaulted takes but a moment, if the person is of that frame of mind.
Im not going to hide behind my net curtains for the rest of my life; you gotta take a few risks. The important thing is that those risks are well considered, thought out and calculated.
Thank you for posting this sobering reminder, taino..
Its a sad world sometimes..
The really worrying thing is that it doesnt matter whether you fly to meet someone, travel 50 miles or meet someone from two blocks away, if they wish to do you harm, they will do, given the opportunity. How far you go to meet a person is irrelevant.
All we can do, both male and female, is to try our damndest to be sensible..
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RE: How Deep is Your Love...???
Thank you, sweetie...