The only reason that we have gone public, is because we were SICK AND TIRED of being emailed, rang up and generally bothered by other members wishing to be nosy, basically. We would have preferred to keep it private for a while longer, but both felt, that if we were going to be gossiped about, we might as well give the facts, so there was NO MARGIN FOR ERROR. Its a shame really, but there you go.
As Siren said earlier, at least we are finding out who our true friends are, who are happy for us.
I have just listened to a telephone conversation, via webcam, between the guy that I have fallen in love with and a fellow CSer, who felt the need to ring him and question him about my relationship with him.
My guy was put on the spot, made to feel that he had to defend both me AND himself, for our decision to be together. Im sick and tired of this gossip. Why is it any body else's business???
I am not mentioning any names here, because the person who rang him KNOWS who they are, and also knows who I am talking about. So, I am not going to break forum rules by naming them.
But ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. This is the story. If people want to gossip, at least they can gossip about the FACTS, rather than what they THINK THEY KNOW. Myself and my man are in love. We are going to, hopefully, spend a LONG LONG time together. I am flying to the USA on the 12th August, to be with him. The reason we have kept this quiet to this point is because we were BOTH SICK AND FEFFING TIRED of the interference and gossip that was going on.
I love this man, and he loves me, and knows I am posting this thread, has given me his blessing and watching me via webcam while I do it. We have both agreed this is a thread that needs doing.
So, if people are happy for us, great. Youre wellwishes would be received with a smile on our faces. If not, then fine.
It is OUR LIFE, and we will do with it what we choose.
Reminds me of that scene in Briget Jones's Diary!!
I know what you mean though, luking...
Even in this day and age, alot of the time a woman's success is based on her ability to get, and keep a man. Utter rubbish, of course, but STILL the way of the world, sometimes..
Only you know where you are in life, so just ignore the ones that judge you for only what is hanging on your arm..
This is an international dating site, as we all know, so we just contact who we find interesting or attractive, wherever they are from. They may just want to be pen pals, at the very least..
I have made friends from all over the world here, and Im glad that I didnt block them straight away, because they were thousands of miles away, because Ive now got some great pals.
Some may be scammers, but not all, so we all just have to use our common sense and weed out the weeds, so to speak!!
Not sure if this is for guys only, but here goes anyway..
As far as Im concerned, if Im in a committed, long term relationship, we share everything. I am quite happy to have one joint account, where we each contribute toward utilities,etc, and food bills.
It would be nice to also have a seperate savings account for myself, from which I could buy my "girlie things", or His birthday and Christmas presents. That way, he is not paying for his own presents!! And just for any other little things that I would rather pay for myself.
But in general, I am more than happy to just have a joint checking account. Thats what marriage, or just a long term committed relationship, is all about..
I DO care what people think of me, yes. Im not afraid to admit that, either..
As regards CS, I get hurt by insults on here just as much as I do in real life. Perhaps I shouldnt, but I do.
I dont expect to be liked by everyone all the time, and I dont live my life trying to please others all the time either, but I do get upset if someone is nasty toward me; I dont think I would be human if I didnt. Some people say they dont give a fig what people think of them on here; I find that quite hard to believe really, but there you go.
As I say, there will always be some that take irrational dislikes to you, or even rational ones, if they dont agree with your views, but what can you do? But in general, Id hate to think that someone hated me..
I think its healthy for each person to do whatever they wish, but personally I think security in a relationship is paramount - to my own health, anyway..
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RE: August 22- Get-Together in Cork City
Due to the fact that I am flying to the USA on the 12th August to be with the man I have fallen in love with on CS, I wont be attending the meet.Sorry, Mary..but have a great time, all, and thank you for those who have posted on my announcement thread in the Intl.....