Yes, I agree with the locations..avoid, if you can, places where you went with your ex, experiences you shared together and anything that will remind you of him, or bring you into contact with him.
When I separated from my husband, I jumped straight back into the dating scene to try and occupy my mind, and, if Im perfectly honest, to raise my self esteem again.
I went on date after date, some good some not so good - as is normal.
Nothing seemed right, even though I was generally treated very well. It suddenly dawned on me that I was still mourning the loss of my marriage and relationship, and I was never going to able to move on and date someone else until I had gone through that bereavement process.
Being in Dating Limbo is like being stuck in mud. Feels quite good, but goes nowhere...
Taking a step back, even if you are lonely, is definately the best way to go..
For me, Love is respect for someone..love is giving that person guidance and protection when needed and letting them fly when they need to..
Love is being non-judgemental, even when you think that person is wrong, and offering constructive advice if asked for..love is letting someone know they are cared for, no matter what..
Love is letting someone go if they want to leave you, and not being bitter..love is just wanting someone to be happy above all things..
When I first saw the thread title, I thought you meant a "player", as in a dating player..and was going to reply relevant to that.
Then, I realised that is not so..
Are you saying that all men, with a nice car, who pose a little and have "all the cash" are players? I think not!! Somewhat unfair to guys who have simply done well in their lives, are slightly vain and like to splash the cash...
As for the two voting options, well, suffice to say I didnt even bother to vote, as something about the options struck me as being somewhat biased...
I did used to have a "type", yes. I had my ideal man, both mentally, physically and financially in my mind, and when I was younger I used to rigidly stick to that.
Now older, and somewhat wiser, I realise that love can appear in the most unexpected and delightful guises, and by opening your mind to all possibilities it really is amazing what can arise..
Im not moving away from my TV while Wimbledon is on,so consequently my pc is usually on too, but after that, I intend to make more of an effort in the romance department and less effort in the chat/forum department...
Yep, I only used those nationalities to be in line with the original post..
I personally like innuendo and flirty word play in my romantic life..I just have that kind of mind where I like insinuation sometimes when talking with my lover, than the direct approach. Its more of a turn on for me..
Seriously, though, and I know this has been mentioned several times now, but as it seems to be an ongoing subject -
I have people I talk to on here and people in my "Friends" list who I know dont like each other, but that is NOT MY BUSINESS. I try and just be friendly with whoever I chose, and not get involved in any gang bangs..
Of course, people are going to clash, and stick up for each other sometimes, such is life.
As far as Im concerned, I will be friends with whom I choose, not take sides and whether they are my pals or not, I will say if I think they are being out of line. That, in my book, is being a true friend, not sticking up for someone even if I think they are wrong.
I was so sad when I heard this, for several reasons.
I grew up with his music, had many amazing nights boogy ing away to him, and it underlined the 80s in particular to me. So, it made me realise how time marches on.
He was a performing genius, whatever other issues were going on in his life, and he should be remembered purely for what he achieved in this regard.
I dont know, is the answer to that question..I guess its just human nature.
CS is a cauldron of all mixes of people; different ages, different cultures, different religions. There are bound to be confrontations occasionally.
I am the first to admit that I have lost my temper on here before, and I dont feel good about it when it happens. Sometimes, outside circumstances dictate your mood and it spills over into your posting. Thats not an excuse, just a fact.
I have recently found myself arguing with someone young enough to be my child, and had to pull myself up and say to myself, "What the hell am I doing arguing with someone who is young enough for me to have changed their diapers for them?"..
We all have bad days, and the trick is to apologise and move on.
I live in a country that is supposedly reknowned for its "Old Fashioned Values". Well, Im sorry, but I dont see an awful lot of Old Fashioned Values when a youngster is sitting behind a computer screen giving out to someone old enough to be their parent. Its just the nature of the internet, sorry to say.
I have now decided to concentrate on what I originally signed up for; to find love. The rest of it, well, not worth my effort most of the time.
petalbabe Forum Posts (3,101)
RE: Has this ever happened to you?
Sweets, I will be honest here, because I care about you..I think you need a DECENT period of being on your own, and not dating even..
Try and concentrate on YOU. Please...