That is shoddy, indeed, yes, of course, and indefensible. And it does happen, unfortunately.
My original post was not defending individual lawyer's behaviour, ready..
It was saying that lawyers as an occupation dont act on their own initiatives - they simply follow the wishes of the client and Statutes.. They can only do what they are allowed to do.
I get really fed up with seeing all the "lawyer" bashing post in these matters. Lawyers simply follow the laws of the land, and the wishes of the client.
If you wish to change this, then change the government and influence the change of law. Dont blame the lawyers. Thats the easy way out.
It wasnt so long ago, when I first joined the forums at the end of last year, that I was reminded that swearing on the forums was not on. And I respected that.
Now, it seems, saying the F Word on here is totally acceptable..
Depends a little on whether the children lived with him full time or not.
I was a full time step mom for 8 years, and I found it extremely difficult. You are quite often a Non Person - neither a full parent, with all the weight of words that that position carries, nor a "fun girlfriend", who poses no threat to the children's position in the affections of the parent.
In all honesty, I would find it hard to do it again. Not because I dislike children; quite the contrary. But purely because I found my opinion and requests so often ignored or overruled by either the children or the natural parent. It can cause ALOT of stress in a relationship.
If the children only lived with the natural parent occasionally, say every, or every other weekend, then that would be somewhat different.
I dont think it is JUST a piece of paper, personally. The piece of paper just comes along WITH getting married.
The act of loving someone, and being committed enough to someone to pubically stand up and declare your desire to make someone your wife/husband is very special. Just because you just live together doesnt, of course, mean that you are NOT committed; but marriage is the ultimate step, in my opinion.
I think "most men" are more afraid of asking alot of modern women because they are unsure as to whether we still desire that state or not, in our new, allegedly "emancipated" generation..
Personally, I think its a wonderful thing, for someone to publically declare their love for you and be willing to legally commit, but thats just me..
One thing I've noticed since being on the forums, watching and reading posts and talking through email with people from other countries and cultures, is how DIFFERENTLY we see things. Its really interesting, and it does make me see why alot of people are seeking prospective partners from other countries, because they are disheartened with people from their own.
I have been told that women from a certain nameless country are far more controlling, "My Way or the Highway" type of outlook. Others are at the other end of the spectrum; wanting to be submissive and protected.
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RE: Should Irish laws change to give single dads more rights to there children.
"Lawyers simply follow the laws of the land, and the wishes of the client."I thought that was fairly clearly worded..