I totally agree on the respect thing, Laura, completely. Thats exactly my point.
I consider hijacking someone's carefully thought out thread topic with something completely irrelevant to that same topic, to be disrespectful, but thats just my humble opinion.
And as regards me knowing what other people think, I know because they have told me.
And, also I may add, what Ive seen over the past couple of months on here, has been absolutely disgusting. And, I would say, judging by the amount of people who have left, either to go to other sites or simply to take a breath, Im not the only one who feels that way!
And I also have to say, because its very clear to see once you've taken a step back from here for a while, that there are a number of members who seem to just want to post stupid, pointless comments, totally undirected to the tone of the thread and consequently completely disrupt its flow..
Its not necessary to have love to live, no, but its always nice.
Love, in all its guises, generates good self feeling, an aura of happiness with yourself and the world in general, and is always a positive emotion.
Love for a partner, a pet, a platonic friend or a relation is something that is precious, and enriches our lives.
Romantic love, which I assume is what the OP is talking about is a wonderful emotion; but you have to bear in mind that sometimes it becomes a strong passion, which needs to be handled with care..
Maybe he didnt have enough money to fly you over himself, and felt guilty asking you to shell out..
Maybe he got scared, realised he was falling for you too, and panicked..
Maybe he did what alot of women do too (because I have seen it said on here by ladies themselves), and decided the easiest way to back off was to just ignore you...
I noticed your exile! I was watching the forums over the past couple months..some of what I saw disgusted me, and prompted me to write my "essay", to be honest..
Remembering to take a breath, occasionally, whether voluntarily, or enforced, is always a good thing. Prioritising one's life needs to be done sometimes!
Im not going to comment on the general bad feeling posts in here, because I dont care to, but I think when you say "People can read what they like, and post what they like" is so important. Think the point is, no one is right here, and no one is wrong here; everyone was just expressing an opinion, Losty is not wrong for doing that, neither are the people who disagreed with him.
Anyway, its a lovely day in Cork, so whatever y'all are doin' have fun and enjoy the weekend.
Hi all. I have been taking a break from CS as I have had things in my personal life that were of a higher priority to deal with recently. During this break I came to realise couple of things that I’d like to share, if you would indulge me.
Firstly, I realised I had been spending way too much time on the forums, and, on reflection, was starting to place far too much importance on “logging on”. Part of that has been down to not working, and being at home all day. I found, again on reflection, that I was starting to use it as my main source of social networking, rather than being out in the Real World, so to speak. Don’t get me wrong; CS is a great site! I love the forums, and love the chatting, but perhaps the “chatting” side of it can make us perhaps lose sight of other things. I now feel refreshed, and more able to put the things in my life in better priority.
As much as I love CS, and appreciate the friends I have made here, I have to say though that it can become addictive. I see members who appear to be on 24/7, and who then complain about not being able to find a date. I believe a lot of people are placing too much stead in the internet as a dating tool, rather than using it as just “part” of their social network. How can you spend time emailing and privately getting to know someone, if you are constantly on forums? Also, if someone who may be interested in contacting you sees you constantly chatting away to everyone else, they may feel they will intrude upon this if they profess their own interest in you. A balance needs to be made, I think, between enjoying the forums and using them as an instrument of connection and also knowing when to step back for a while. The exception is, of course, if you are purely here for the forums, and you have stated that clearly on your profile.
As much as I have made friends here, I now realise that a lot of these lovely people I will probably never meet, and although I value them in my life, one must remember to take one’s part in the Real World as well. If someone is on the forums every day and every evening, it can be easy to lose one’s perspective of their own place in the scheme of things.
I have nice things happening in my personal life recently - THANKS TO CS FOR THAT!!, but I have decided not to broadcast them on the site for a couple of reasons. One, is that they are personal to me, and also that I feel it is ridiculous to claim you are “taken” by a fellow member you have NEVER EVEN MET, or only JUST MET. I personally would rather wait until things have become “real”, as in you have actually met the person, and spent a DECENT period of time getting to know each other in real life situations before going public. I have seen people on here one week still apparently looking for that “special someone”, to literally, the next week claiming they are taken and that they have found their soulmate... Or someone do a “Goodbye Thread or a Congratulate Us Thread”, and then the next week or so, be back on and single..Its crazy, and anyone who TRULY believes this could happen could be construed as being naïve and unrealistic, surely??
What I am trying to say here is two-fold really. Firstly, that I feel much better having taken a break from CS and re-establishing my foothold in Real Life; I believe it is most beneficial to take that break occasionally and would humbly counsel some people to do the same (or at least take a breath, occasionally!);
Secondly, to reiterate the point that real love does NOT suddenly plant its seed in your heart over the course of a few days’/one week’s emailing; it requires time.
So, is that saying that all WOMEN are looking for the same, when they get involved online with someone from the US? I think not..
I got to know someone in the States, and I wished to God that he didnt live there, because it was so far away for me, but I fell for him anyway. I had no "hidden agenda", I was a strong, confident, solvent woman, who just happened to click with someone in America.
Im sorry, but your statement is sweeping, over-generalising and a slight on those (both male and female) who generally simply wish to follow their hearts. I understand TOTALLY that there are people out there who just want a Green Card, but to say that that applied to ALL people conversing with American Citizens is out of order.
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A guy that fancied me, would go for it.