petalbabe Forum Posts (3,101)

RE: hello

Dont snap..

Stay with it, have a nice, friendly positive attitude and persevere..

RE: Ladies are you scared to...

Dont sulk....

RE: Relationships

Well, Hi There yourself, Loverboy!!!

RE: Relationships

Quite...

What do they say?? The Best Things Come to Those Who Wait"...

RE: Would you date with a woman/man who is 20 years older than you????

Yes, I would, if I liked that person, and we had enough in common. Dating someone does not mean you are going to necessarily marry them straight away; you can soon find out if the age gap is an issue.

I have no preconceptions about anyone! I find my life is simpler that way, personally.

RE: are you affectionate in public..

Crazy kids, yeah...

Ive never grown up!!!

RE: are you affectionate in public..

Depends how cold it is out!!!

RE: Ladies are you scared to...

Making "First Contact" by a woman to a man, is not being forward! It is simply sending a little sign that you have noticed them..

I consider myself a lady, who always acts in a "ladylike" way, but I would hate to think I missed out on happiness by not sending a simple flower..

RE: Ladies are you scared to...

I dont "pursue" either..not in a predatory way..

But if I see someone I like the look of, I will have no hesitation in sending a flower, or an email..

Life is too damn short to mess about too much..

RE: are you affectionate in public..

If Im out with my man, I love to hold hands, or have our arms around each other...

I love being kissed and love kissing, but I would be fairly discrete about it if I was out in public. I believe its lovely to show affection, and I dont feel THAT constrained by being out in public, but I wouldnt grope or allow myself to be groped in public view. That is for private moments.

Im very tactile, and always want to be touching my partner at all times, even if its just my finger through his belt hook slung around his waist...

Its great when you see lovers out in the summer, having a discrete kiss, and see that look pass between them..Makes me smile always, and it reinforces the fact that love is in the world, and there is something good after all.

RE: What should I do?

Life is too short. Its a cliche, but very true.

Depends a bit on what you fell out about, but generally nothing is worth breaking a friendship up for.

Be strong, make the first move, and heal the rift.

Good luck!!

RE: 3 Hots and a Cot....and more

I tend to agree with you, Pretzelman..

Im sure if Sharia Law was proposed to be introduced into western society, it would be vehemently opposed..

Some tolerance and the hope of rehabilitation HAS to pervey, in my opinion.

RE: Say something nice to Big John......

Big for you, John...

Be well....

Being Penalized for Being Childless

Thats it really! Without sounding paranoid, I do feel that single people get a raw deal in general, when it comes to receiving grants or welfare.

The old stigma of receiving social welfare has be blitzed off the face of the earth now, with lawyers, doctors and other "professionals" joining the dole queues. I am a professional, I have qualifications, and am purely a statistic of the credit crunch.

I fail to see how, or why, I should receive less assistance, if I needed it, than a pregnant woman.

What you say is so true, unfortunately. Just because we are single, does not make our wallets hurt less. Medical, utility and other statutory charges are the same for us.

Right, Im off to get preggers!!!

NOT!

Being Penalized for Being Childless

And you, my friend!!

Good to see you, and enjoy your weekend!!

RE: 3 Hots and a Cot....and more

Trouble is, alot of prisoners, particularly thieves and burgulars, are in there BECAUSE of the state of the economy. Normal, law abiding citizens are more and more feeling that the only way to survive is by breaking the law. This is something the polititians have to look at. The prison authorities are only following legislation.

Also, I personally believe in rehabilitation. I think some inmates can be turned around, and end up contributing something positive to the world. By treating them like animals inside, will just make them behave like animals outside.

Some prisoners are inherently "bad", yes, and there are always going to be some that dont change their tune, but I think in general making attempts to rehabilitate is better than the alternative.

JMO

Being Penalized for Being Childless

Well said..

Thank you, Comrade...

Vive La Revolucion...

Being Penalized for Being Childless

I know!! Thats what I mean!!

Its bad enough a system like this being proposed, but the fact that:-

1. Its not means tested; and
2. There are no guidelines as to how the cash will, and should be spent once with the recipient

Means that it will just be another form of fun tickets for alot (not all) of pregant mothers, who have made a conscious choice to become pregnant.

Im single - but, please can I have £190 for my cat's future kittens please??

Being Penalized for Being Childless

Hi, Lady..

Its in the UK at present (or is planned to come in).

I believe it is a one off payment, yes, and I agree that it wouldnt take one very far.

The point is, its the principle of it. Where is this money coming from? And why is not being spent on dealing with the present problems people are suffering financially?

Being Penalized for Being Childless

That really cheered me up, Lagoona!!

Being Penalized for Being Childless

Because single people, with no kids, who are struggling financially in the current climate, get absolutely zippo help from anyone. And yet, the next moment, you are hearing about future incentives to give to ladies who get pregnant.

Its not just single people. Its old age pensioners, who cant afford to pay their electric bills, and gas bills. If the current climate demands emergency measures, which I believe it does, then for God's Sake put something in that tackles the PRESENT problems! This incentive for future pregnancies tackles exactly that - the FUTURE.

Lets get the PRESENT sorted out before we deal with the FUTURE.

Jez, the world has gone mad.

Being Penalized for Being Childless

And having children is a CHOICE. If you cant afford to pay for them, dont damn well have them.

Being Penalized for Being Childless

Hi Morgan. I know, the system is crazy. The Benefit Trap personified..

RE: LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO BE LONELY

Is that a trick question??

Better not hijack the thread, or we will get shouted at!!

RE: LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO BE LONELY

Ah, right - Im sorted, so!!

RE: LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO BE LONELY

Yes, I get lonely, and miss having a man in my life. Yes, I want to be with a partner and grow old with them. Yes, I get frustrated because I have so much to give and no one to give it too (at the moment).

As we have discussed before on the forums, need and want are different. I dont NEED a partner, I WANT one, for all the reasons I have gone into before on here.

Life IS too short, yes. Its too short for regrets, bitterness from past relationships, and bigatry to hold you back from finding happiness again. I for one do not intend to die lonely. I know I will find my partner, and give as much love as I hopefully will receive.

Being Penalized for Being Childless

Exactly, Tam. I am not anti-children, and do not have them due to personal circumstances, but I have felt for many years that the system is unfair. Ladies, who are abandonded, or divorced should receive Child Support etc, and I am very against men who try to dodge maintenance. Existing children SHOULD be looked after, I totally agree with that. However, this incentive seems to give out the message that its is fine to become pregnant because you will be able to receive this lump sum to help you put fresh veg and fruit etc on the table.

What makes me angry is that I feel abandonded myself, and penalized because I do not have children.

Being Penalized for Being Childless

Yesterday, in the UK, a new incentive was announced. A payment of £190 was proposed to pregnant mothers, with the intention of helping them with their diets, heating, etc. This payment is NOT MEANS TESTED, which means that irrespective of the size of your bank balance, you would still receive it. This, of course, is in ADDITION to normal Child Benefit (or whatever it is called these days..).

Im absolutely incensed by this.. Im SICK AND TIRED of being penalized because Im not married and have six children. The benefit system (certainly in the UK and Ireland) is very biased towards single people or couples with children, and single people get no help whatsoever. I am a victim of the credit crunch. I was made redundant from my legal position a couple of months ago THROUGH NO FAULT OF MY OWN. I have always been self supporting, I have NEVER claimed unnecessary benefits. However, I too have rent to pay, food to buy, general utilities to pay and do not get, OR EXPECT assistance.

I am in this position through NOT THROUGH CHOICE. There are thousands and thousands of people suffering at the moment due to the terrible economic situation, who have to somehow find money for bills, to put food on the table, bla bla bla...

Becoming pregnant, is a CHOICE. Why are they being given this unofficial message that becoming pregnant entitles you to additional help. Women should think about the financial consequences BEFORE they decide to become pregnant.

Alot of pensioners, particularly, are really struggling to pay their heating bills and keep a roof over their heads. It is they that need the most help, not ladies who decide to become pregnant (AGAIN, THROUGH THEIR OWN CHOICE).

Why do I feel penalized for being single? Because thats the way it appears to be.

RE: tights

Yuck...

Hate them!

Stockings, or bare legs in the warmer weather for me..

RE: Happy Birthday Tina / sxc666

Happy Birthday, Tina!!

Have a lovely day...