petalbabe Forum Posts (3,101)

RE: Who 'needs' a partner?

Do you think that is a common male trait, BJ? To be as open as you appear to be with your feelings?

"Going out on a limb" takes a lot of courage, and risks being hurt..I feel the same as you about things, but I am unsure as to how men feel in general about being this frank..

RE: Who 'needs' a partner?

You are welcome, oztrack, and yes of course you can use it, if you wish!

RE: Who 'needs' a partner?

Agree, BJ

Thats why I mention alot on here about feminism having a negative effect sometimes..

A lot of modern ladies think that they have to prove how independent they are, and say "I dont need a man, no way..".. Because they think if they admit they do, it will be shown as a weakness. Its not.

Needing someone so much it hurts, is a beautiful feeling. As you say, "go out on a limb"..Most of the time, it will be appreciated and returned ten fold..

RE: Who 'needs' a partner?

I don't know about men liking "needy" women, but speaking for myself, I find a woman really, really wanting to be with me to be a turn-on. I want to know that she's not just "casually" missing me - but that there's a pit of heartache, etc., when I'm not around. And if I didn't feel that way toward my "SO" then I would suspect something's missing between us.

Exactly, Ambrose...I agree..

RE: Who 'needs' a partner?

I think "need" is a basic human trait. We are generally sociable creatures, and the desire to connect with someone is grown-in characteristic. Its not a weakness, or something that make us less independent.

I too can change a fuse (just), and carry heavy bags (if I have too ) and generally look after myself. And I can stay reasonably happy and content if I am single for any length of time. I can also satisfy myself physically, as and when I want to..

But I cannot deny that I feel happiest when Im with someone; purely because it allows me to give and receive pleasure, physically and emotionally, and giving is a lovely feeling..

RE: Who 'needs' a partner?

Oops, sorry, pressed the wrong button above!!

Yes, I do, Sommer..

I do have an emotional "need" to share, definately. I think its a natural urge to want to have a mate to share those feelings with, and I certainly dont consider a weakness or being "needy" in the general derogatory sense of the world. I admit, I love that feeling of "needing"; its lovely. Its lovely to feel that strongly about someone that you ache for them, and need them to be near you.

Neediness is often a word used wrongly; it can be a very positive, and empowering feeling. Desperation and neediness are two different things, arnt they?

A physical need is something you cant deny, and I dont want too!!

RE: Who 'needs' a partner?

RE: Who 'needs' a partner?

I did when I was younger, or thought I did. When all my girlfriends were getting together with someone, I felt I had to, even if I didnt really want to..

Now, however, its very different. Ive been single for a while now, and loved it. But I WANT the intimacy, both physically and emotionally that you get from finding the right guy..

Cant beat it.

Need - no
Want and desire - definately..

Good thread, Sommer..

RE: Age Difference...

Exactly, SO

I suppose it does effect things a little if you have kids, and you meet someone a similar age to them; I could understand a little reticence then.

However, if no, then age doesnt matter. Older or younger, if you have common interests, then go and get 'em...

RE: Ok... No Politics,No Religion, No Fighting. Just A HAPPY Thread!!

Bloody council!!!

Hi, LL

Hope you had a good Paddy's Day...

RE: Ok... No Politics,No Religion, No Fighting. Just A HAPPY Thread!!

Who's taken all the green beer away???

RE: Do you think you're attractive (good looking)?

I dont know if I am "perceived" to be attractive or not. All I know, or really care about, is that I am happy with what I see in the mirror, and, more importantly, what I know is behind the reflection.

Yes, I like to keep myself looking as best as I can; I would be lying if I said I didnt. But more importantly to me is how I am perceived as a person.

RE: Women, or lack there-of

This is an INTERNATIONAL dating site. If you sign up, you have to take the chance that there are not many people local to you who are on here.

Putting a distance limit on your profile will also put off other members who are out of your range, who in other ways may find you attractive and interesting.

Keep your options open. You never know what will occur if you de-limit yourself.

If you only want someone within 100 miles of you, then you are likely to be disappointed.

Good luck, OP.

RE: hey hey hey

Welcome, welcome!!

We were all New Kids at some point or another, so good luck and enjoy!!

RE: thinking about him or her

A love message when I wake up in the morning and check my emails..

RE: Hallo

Welcome to CS, Alena!

The Forum here is good fun, and lots of cool people, so enjoy!!

RE: Hi, can anyone help me. Windows Vista problem?

Ah, Dru's a very learned lady..

You will learn alot from her - she's a star!

Glad you got sorted.

RE: Hi, can anyone help me. Windows Vista problem?

Hi.

Right click the desktop, point to view and then click on large, medium or small icons.

Hope this helps.

RE: what kind of sports do u love?

No, you didnt...

How very interesting....

Maybe I'll visit one day - in the name of research of course..

RE: what kind of sports do u love?

Thanks, BJ.

Ive heard the term, but never really knew what it was!

We tend to be more into the Formula One Grand Prix racing here..

RE: what kind of sports do u love?

Love watching rugby, tennis, both the olympics (but they make me feel unfit!);

Dont understand American football.

Hockey is brutal, but fun..

Used to play netball and swim at school; before my mermaid's tail turned into a pair of legs..

Can someone PLEASE tell me what Nascar racing is???

Excuse my ignorance...

RE: what a man/woman wants

As much as some people are just not suited to each other, alot of the time it fails due to self-imposed barriers we put up and unrealistic expectations - many times influenced by past events.

Be open to all possibilities; dont limit yourself.

RE: what a man/woman wants

Right on, Dru. Agree, completely..

RE: You can do all steps shown in KAMASUTRA, are u believe in this book ?

Typo!! Im still DOING the research...

RE: woman approaches man first in a bar

Id say most men would be delighted!

If I saw a man I liked the look of, Id go for it.

Id rather take a knock back, than have him leave and have missed my opportunity and wonder what could have come of it.

A woman can still make the first move and remain a lady.

RE: how much is important freedom in relationship?

To really benefit from all a relationship has to offer, you have to be truely "free" before you go into it. No mental or emotional restrictions..

Once in a relationship, independent interests are essential. Different things to talk about, different faces to see...

A "partnership" is two different souls meeting, and savouring each other. Its only a singular entity. Be individuals, and you will flourish together..

RE: Which guy do girls prefer?

A caring guy, definately...

Looks can fade.

Money can disappear.

He doesnt have to be a NASA scientist to appeal to me; some of the smartest men in the world are cutthroat characters.

Caring is definately best.

RE: Hi, my international introduction

Hi Zombie! And Welcome to the Intl CS Forum!!

Its much more diverse here, and lots more people to make it more mixed. I only post on the Intl Forum now, and have made lots of great friends.

Keep posting, and have fun..


PB

RE: Life long Lessons, from being single!

Being single after being in a long term relationship is a MUST. You need time to regroup, analyse yourself, rediscover the "self" which can easily be absorbed when you are in a partnership.

Time passes so quickly, and what you wanted 10 years ago is not necessarily what you want, or need now. Priorites change, desires changes and rushing back into another relationship does not give you that chance to re-evaluate what you now need to fulfull yourself.

Being single strengthens you; I would not change my last few years of singledom for anything. I am a much stronger, more confident person than I was and I have also looked into myself, and tried to address my faults and negatives and realise what it is that will bring increased happiness to me and my future partner.

Being single is not a lonely existence. It is empowering. It is only lonely if you spend time regretting the past, rather than anticipating the future.

JMO

RE: How did you come up with your username?

Petal - because I always had flowers everywhere in my house

Babe - because I was the youngest in the group I used to hang out with in my 20s..

Just stuck, I guess..