I agree with pretty much all of it, apart from the emboldened part.
I think you can only find out who you are while you are single. Try and find out where you went wrong in your last relationship, and try to work on those things. Then, maybe, we are ready to date again.
Thats what I meant about "constantly worrying" about your partner in my previous post.
However, I really dont think jealousy is ALWAYS a negative emotion, per se... I just think it is a natural emotion when you care deeply for someone. Its like love and hate being two sides of the same coin. Whenever strong emotions are involved, then deep feelings will arise.
As I said, its HOW you deal with any jealousy that matters. And just because it rears its ugly head from time to time, it DOES NOT mean you are insecure in yourself or in your partner. Its just called Being Human.
A small amount of jealousy is natural, when you care and love for someone deeply; its just a sign that your feelings run deep, and anyone that says that they have never felt jealous in their lives I find hard to believe.
Its HOW you handle it that matters. If it just makes you realise how much you care for someone and gives you that "warm feeling", and it is left at that, well great.
If you are constantly worrying about where your partner is, or who they are with or with whom they are talking, then its destructive. For both yourself and your relationship.
I know where you are coming from, and Im not going to go into who's where and who's "aligned" with whom, and I SIMPLY DONT CARE. Its time we got over this Cliques Business.
Suffice to say, I have people in my Friends who I converse with on a regular basis, who SPAN ACROSS THESE SO CALLED CLIQUES.
So, in consquence, it makes no difference to me who is friendly with whom. Cliques are only created by the jealousy and resentment of others.
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RE: DO YOU BELIEVE IN ONLINE DATING?
Well, sorry to dampen your day, but dont look for any webcam action in this direction!!Not me, Im afraid!!