But it certainly doesnt seem to be a gender thing. A thread was started the other day by a lady member, who posted several times that she didnt think it was possible to fall in love, or even develop very strong feelings for someone online.
I think, due to the recent batch of success stories, that theory was blown out of the water, personally...
But I think they make excuses for not getting involved due to fear, rather than the fact that certain (in fact, most) barriers are surmountable, and can be overcome..
It was more down to the large amount of members who seem to find it very difficult to accept that online dating can work. We join a site like CS, it is an international site, so the chances of finding someone close are remote - more likely it will be with someone further away..
So, in consequence, one has to take risks. If one isnt prepared to even "think" about this concept, surely joining a site like CS would be rather a waste of time??
Well, it just struck me because I really do think some do put up barriers that really are sumountable, but use them as excuses not to further a relationship..
So many threads are put up about falling in love online, and the consensus is divided, for sure, but so many seem to be of the opinion its not possible..
Having seen several CS success stories recently (myself included of course), I thought I’d throw out a question for you all..
Why is the level of sceptism here so high when couples match up? Why do people join a dating site if it is not to either find a prospective partner (as is the case with the majority)? I am not talking about members already in relationships, but those who are single..
Has the spirit of belief in online dating really sunk that low that when success stories are published, so many seem to disbelieve? Or was the spirit of belief never really there to begin with?? Yes, there are scammers, there always will be scammers, but I would hazard a guess that for every 1 scammer there are 5 genuine people looking for love..
I find this anathema to me. Why join a site, if when a romance blossoms and is then spoken about, so many believe falling in love online is not possible??
Are many of us really too afraid and unsure of our own and others’ levels of commitment that we are fooling ourselves into thinking we really DO want to find love? Do we place unnecessary barriers in front of us because we really DONT want to hook up? Is our sceptism simply a defence mechanism?I’m curious.
My own case in point - some may have thought I and Jesse were totally crazy to do what we did, but neither of us regret our decisions for a moment. Life is for taking risks; for us, it has worked out so far. How many of us are prepared to REALLY take a leap of faith, and live our lives, or do we make excuses for ourselves as to why we cannot take that leap?
How many of the reasons we give for not “going for it” are really legit?? Or do we just try and fool ourselves, because we are deep down afraid of opening our hearts?
Thats why its so cool if you meet your partner on CS; you can both post, either together or seperately, and there are noooo secrets..
I would delete my profile if my partner found it upsetting, because I just couldnt be bothered with arguing about it - my relationship is more important. Its not a question of lack of trust; just pleasing each other and compromise..
Some of my dreams definately mirror my concerns or worries at a certain time; I remember dreaming regularly about being lost in a big old house and not being able to find my way out - that was when I felt trapped in my marriage.
Some of my dreams make me smile, if Im happy in my life, and some - well, not for forum reading..
I think my dreams, certainly, definately reflect my current state of mind, to be sure, to be sure..
Stop using the forums as a medium for bickering, slanging, general Facebook-type chit chat and go back to using it for what it is MEANT to be for; that is, flirting, flirty connecting and topical debate.
Perhaps that way, the members that find it difficult and frustrating finding a potential partner might actually start having some luck..
Sorry to hear of this, Don Don and Pub, but what do you expect??!
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Yep, there will always be the regrudgers, and Dave and I know that full well, but as with us, all this begruding will just make you both stronger, not weaker, so embrace the horror, as they said in a movie once..
Most people on here are as happy for you both as they are for myself and Dave; the others are not worth the effort thinking about..As Morgan said, sad little lives!!
Thank you so much, Lindo..it means alot to both of us.
I would just like you guys to know that I this morning received, in my hotmail, about 10 nasty stirring messages from a FORMER member of CS, who still considers it necessary to attempt to spoil our happiness. If it wasnt so pathetic, it would be funny.
These messages have already been deleted.
Dave and I are happier that we could have ever imagined so far, and we thank immensely all the people who are pleased for us.
We have been through alot, and have come out the other side stronger, and better for it, so in a way I thank this person who still wastes her time trying to sabatage someone else's happiness, because if it wasnt for her and the likes of her we would not have been able to obtain the strength of relationship we now have. Quite pathetic.
Thank you, Shirley!! That was very nice of you to start a welcome thread. I understand it was pulled, due to something about stalking issues, but I never saw the thread, so I dont know..
It was a lovely thought, though, and I much appreciated it..
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