But I actually think, deep inside us all, that we DO care what other people think of us. I certainly don't want to be considered a nasty person, because Im not, so I therefore try not to make nasty comments, unless severely provoked into it.
Yes, its me that ultimately has to live with myself, but I still care what others think of me. And if that's a failing of mine, well, so be it..
Well, I have to say this. I ran a thread a day or so ago, which is still running. Its on page 27, or something like that now. It was started as a joke, and because of previous incidents on here where threads were turned into a battleground, I was fully expecting that one to go the same way.
It didnt. It was a great, fun, chatty and thoroughly enjoyable thread and it made a refreshing change for a thread of that length to not get nasty.
So, there is still hope. Still hope that we can all, indeed, still enjoy the fun here. Long may it last..
My sister had a fairly long term relationship with an Asian gentleman. They were very much in love, he was very generous to her and she was happy. Most of the time.
The trouble was, she was in a similar predicament to your friend. There were no children involved, but he knew his family wanted him to marry within the muslim faith, so my sister and his relationship was kept seperate to his family life.
She knew all about this, and went along with it for a while. However, she realised that he would NEVER marry her and the family would NEVER accept her, so is what she wanted ultimately, and, after much soul searching and heartbreak, decided to end the relationship.
So, basically, if your friend is happy with the situation, then great. If she is not, and knows that the relationship will never really get anywhere, she is better off to end it sooner, rather than later.
I think men can clam up because sometimes they are afraid that we WILL start to analyse them, and pick, pick pick away at their brains..
I started a thread about analysing only a couple of days ago, because I realised I was analysing too much. Ive decided to stop, and just enjoy what is thrown at me without exploring it too much..
If you find it hard to let your partner make a decision, because you are afraid of losing control, then it is you that has the issue.
Whatever way it hangs, man or woman - ANYONE who is afraid of sitting back, and letting their partner make the decision, is either insecure in themselves, insecure in their partner's commitment and feeling, or has a worrying desire to control everything in their lives.
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RE: Attitude---Can we talk?
Well, its CS???!!!