HuggerMan4U Forum Posts (1,806)

RE: Thoughts on LD relationships

Some people can handle a LDR, and some can't. My opinion is that for most people, LDR's are okay as long as it's only for friendship, but if the LDR is expected to eventually beyond friendship then I think most would nix the LDR idea. I don't mind having LDR's for just friendship, but LDR's would never work out for me for anything more than friendship. Of course, web camming helps to some extent, but I don't have any web cams in the house.

RE: lady in the short red dress

In grandma's day, she would have said, "She's a tart", but in these modern times, a woman can wear whatever she feels like wearing.

RE: lady in the short red dress

Amen!

RE: what do you think about a woman in casual clothes

There was a country song that talked about tight fittin' jeans.

RE: what do you think about a woman in casual clothes

What's the deal? I wouldn't judge any woman for wearing casual clothes. It shows that women can relax and enjoy themselves, without having to be dressed up all the time. In fact, I wear knee-length jeans every day. Talk about casual!

RE: jokes

Good ones, Country. I especially like the middle one, although I would never harm a wife.

RE: Have you ever had a thought that you might be that person who never find that right person?

I have occasionally thought this, and sometimes think I should play the Apostle Paul thing and just be single. But I just keep plugging away, hoping to find someone some day. If it's meant to happen, it'll happen. If not, it wasn't meant to be. I've been married and I've been single. Between the two, I vastly prefer being married, and enjoying the closeness of two people who really love and care for each other. There's always hope in the human soul.

RE: what you don't know will not hurt you...so..you really don't wanna know?

Very good thinking. I agree with you.

Another post said that if someone didn't like them or whatever, they wouldn't want to know. In that case, I think it's important to know, because they could be spreading untrue rumors about me that could cause great harm to me and others.

RE: A dilemma

Monkey has a point here. Often times, we set our priorities so high that no one, or few, can meet them. On another site, a woman had a sister who had a huge list of qualities she demanded for her guys, and guess what? She couldn't find anybody! Well, duh! She then had the audacity to to complain that no men were availabile, when it was her overly-long list that was messing her up. It's okay to have some expectations, but let's not go overboard. For example, I can't stand cigarette smoke and I'm a non-drinker, but I wouldn't hold it against a woman if she had an occasional social drink. Monkey also mentions honesty. Wouldn't you rather have an honest partner, even if some of your other expectations weren't met? I sure would. I hate when people try to "fake it", instead of being honest. Finally, Monkey mentions reexamining your expectations to see which should really be priorities...excellent advice. Some priorities are more important, like safety, honesty, commitment level, etc.

Manroe - I can't play a guitar, but entertain you? Oh, most definitely I could entertain you. I've a very funny guy.

RE: Would you date a local man who e-mails but never calls?

My last ex said, "Off with his head. Off with his head. It's the only way." Wonder what she meant by that.

RE: Would you date a local man who e-mails but never calls?

I'm afraid a lot of us are in the same call-free boat, Jeepers.

RE: When Do Attempts At Persuasion Become Controlling and Manipulative?

When a person feels trapped in a corner. When someone feels that they have no options. When people feel like they're being browbeaten.

RE: puzzle comments

I love the puzzles, also. They're so much fun. I usually pick ones with colorful scenes, or ones that I think are challenging, and I just discovered that you can change the size of the puzzle you're doing by manipulating the little boxes in the puzzle. Cool!

RE: Thoughts on LD relationships

I wouldn't be afraid of a webcam if Serendipity was on the cam! I would be the first one to grab the computer!

But, to answer the question, long distance relationships wouldn't work very well for me, because I tend to feel closer to women who I can see on a regular basis. I need the physical closeness, which is not possible on an LDT. You can hug an image on the monitor, but it isn't the same as hugging a real person.

Having said this, I have a longstanding friend from another site, and I've known her for 3 1/2 years. This has worked out extremely well, and we email from zero to 9 times a day, depending on what we have to share that day, She will always be just a friend, though, as she doesn't want to marry, and we both have complete understanding about that issue.

RE: What's your name?

"No!" was the most popular word in my family's home. I made up a song when I was a kid: "Can't do this, can't do that, can't do anything at all."

And how about "Hey, Stupid!" A teacher once asked, "Have any of you ever had someone say, 'Hey, Stupid', and you turned around to see who was talking to you?" Believe it or not, several people raised their hand, including me. And I know I'm not stupid.

RE: I follow my gut

I blocked a couple of women because they used poor English. One of them wrote twice. Whether they were legit, I don't know. Almost always 30-something women who write me. Hmmm...maybe I should check out my profile again. Someone mentioned that certain age groups could be eliminated from writing me. Although I've experienced this, I don't know how to do that.

RE: What's your name?

As Popeye or Bluto would say, "I am what I am what I am."

Shoot, I've used screen names so long, I've forgotten my name! Ask me adduder one.

RE: Endings can hurt but sometimes . . .

After my first marriage, I did neither. After the second marriage, I did both.

RE: Endings can hurt but sometimes . . .

What a great philosophy!

RE: Configuration

HP Pavillion Media Center TV PC with 160GB dual core HD, 8 MB ram, 19" monitor with built-in speakers, DVD-ROM, Lightscribe DVD/CD writer.

RE: What would you be doing now if internet was not invented?

No Internet??? You gotta be kidding me!! This is my lifeline to the outside world. If there were no Internet, I would be riding my bike, walking, reading, or watching TV. I have no car, and it's too far to go to anyplace that has nice women. I see plenty of women at the local grocery, but most are either married, married with kids, or jailbait.

RE: What would you be doing now if internet was not invented?

Probably because you're quite the catch.

RE: Do woman now days seek younger men??

My sister is a political nut who knows everything about politics. I'm totally disinterested in politics whatsoever. So our family joke is that at every election, we would ask my sister, "How are we voting this year?", and that's the way the family would vote.

RE: Ladies defence System

Our beautiful Country Lady is a crack shot with a rifle, and if she ever gets ahold of an AR-15...use your imagination.

RE: Things You Never Bring To Bed

An extra-curricular woman.

RE: Honesty

"God does not grade on a curve"

RE: Marriage is unnatural

Bravo, Muffin! Our little Muffin has it right!

RE: Which one of these two is likely to make you more nervous?

If I had a date with Serendipity or Summer, I would be so nervous my knees would be shaking!

Jonnt - You get CHOCOLATE at test centers??? Man, the U.S. must be way behind in the services department! So you get chauffered rides with the police, huh? And how often does this occur? Ladies, the bad boy sounds like a wild one - have fun!

RE: How long should take before you Skype

Wow, Country works fast!! Too bad I don't have Skype. The only one who worked fast on me was my first mistake (er, I mean first wife), who said after we met, "Oh, by the way, we're getting married in three and a half months." "MARRIED?????!!!!" "Yes". She meant it, too. Carson City, Nevada, August, 1983, a day that will live in infamy!!!

How are you doing on CS?

For me, it would be #2, hopeful.