leostartingover Forum Posts (1,685)

RE: Girls, do you check guys' buts?

I check their BUTTS more than their BUTS! A hazard of menopausal women I'm afraid!!!

RE: Am I so bad??? Please help me to see if I am so bad a person .

It does take time to get over a relationship, no matter how bad it was! Don't be too quick to rush into another one.... My mother was married 3 times, and towards the end of her life she said something to me I have never forgotten: "Don't make the mistake I did and look for a man to make you feel loved. Rather love yourself. Your man will only be able to love you as much as you love yourself anyway!"

RE: Interview The person Below

Hmmmm KidatHeart is definitely a favourite! Have a few others too.... What are you most proud of?

RE: Am I so bad??? Please help me to see if I am so bad a person .

Hiya Lindsey. I'm not Jewish, but I don't think you can lump all Jewish men in the same basket... Quite simply, the guy you were dating does not seem to like or respect women very much. As everyone else on here has said, you are well rid of him. Now you need to spend some time on your own assessing why you felt you deserved to stay with someone who was so disrespectful and downright abusive. Hopefully you will make some sense of it all and realise that we ALL deserve to be loved and respected... Learn to love yourself again and then when you are healed, you will attract someone much more deserving of your love.

RE: please won't you SAY SOMETHING?!

Yum just had the most delicious fresh salad drizzled with olive oil and balsamic vinegar and drinking a glass of blush wine.... I was invited to dinner tonight (at his place) by a much younger guy last night (have known him for ages) but we postponed.... and I must be getting older because I am relieved in a way!!!! Sometimes just chilling at home and doing your own thing is the absolute best thing at the end of a busy week!

RE: what is the problem with sa woman?

Come for a visit Kid!!!

RE: do you believe in "fortune" tellers people who can see ahead?

I think most of them are fakes, but that there are some people who have the gift to 'tap' into our collective consciousness or energy and 'see' things... Almost impossible to predict the future when it hasn't yet happened! I've been to a couple of fortune tellers in the past and I think what they say is a bit of hit and miss - some things happen and others don't. Frankly, I prefer to map out my own future...

RE: have dreams hidden meanings?

Maybe because some think we astral travel when we dream??!!! Apparently dreams do have hidden meanings. The trouble is that they are open to interpretation! Apparently some people do have premonitions of major events before they happen... Glad I'm not one - could be hard to live with....

RE: First Approaches ... when you choose not to have a phoro displayed

No, fortunately I haven't been 'done over' - not even ONCE! So, no obsessions about dishonesty and no bitterness after my 23 year marriage came to a grinding halt (life's too short and anyway we're still amicable), although I do feel honesty is a very important component of a relationship... I have unfortunately witnessed quite a few friends who've been done over. But then again, lots of men are too so no generalising...

So what does being your uptown girl entail???!!! Oh, and where do you hail from originally if you aren't an authentic kiwi fruit - the Land of Oz? ..... and you didn't answer my question about why you choose not to display your pic?!!!

RE: Most Deadly Moment In Your Life???

You obviously have nine lives! Was said accident after a few too many scotches?? Must have been extremely frightening.... Glad you're still with us!

RE: Do you feel obliged to respond...

Yes I agree. Unfortunately, sometimes it doesn't pay to be polite! They may misread it as you showing interest even though you aren't in the least bit interested... Alternatively, if you say thanks but no thanks, some people get really offended. It is a bit of a cop out, but I think we all understand that no response equals no interest.

RE: Are they single or married ?

Yep. That's an excellent point! I've been divorced now for two and a half years and only NOW feel ready to date seriously.... It takes time to come to terms with the death of a relationship, and I believe unless you have processed it and come to terms with it; you will only take the same problem issues into your new relationship.

RE: Most Deadly Moment In Your Life???

Nearly drowned twice when I was a child - once when a freak wave came and carried me away while I was playing with bucket and sand on the beach and the other when a boy pushed me into the deep end of a swimming pool when I couldn't swim.

When in my rebellious teens, hung out with this group of slightly wild teens and one boy drove while very drunk one night in the rain. He pulled up his hand brake while going full speed and we skidded all over the show ending up facing oncoming traffic. He thought it was a big joke! I never got into his car again. Luckily he regained control and we weren't hit.

We were caught in a snow storm on Kit Carson pass in So. Lake Tahoe without snow chains. We were stuck in our little old car for over 4 hours and nearly froze to death before being towed up to the top by a California Highway Patrolman and told to find our way back down. It was a total white out except for the brake lights of the truck in front and the red poles at the side of the road. At one stage my ex changed gear and we spun around and ended up teetering on a cliff's edge. Extremely frightening!

Have also landed badly in a hot air balloon, been in a tandem microlite and done a tandem parachute jump - that was pretty life changing!

RE: Are they single or married ?

Sorry, it was not his EX - he was separated from his wife. I should've made that clear. So not his EX yet!!!

RE: what is the problem with sa woman?

I don't know? What IS the problem with SA women in your view? I didn't know there was one!!!! And how would men in other parts of the world know what the problem is (if there IS a problem)?? Seems like a bit of a quandary!

RE: Are they single or married ?

Absolutely NOT! I just had a friend who'd been dating a guy for 4 months. He claimed she was the absolute love of his life - the ONE he'd been waiting for. Suddenly about 2 weeks ago when they were going away for the weekend (her treat) he kept getting cell phone calls from his ex (about 10 calls over the weekend). When she asked him about it, he withdrew. After the weekend, he sent her an email breaking up, saying that his ex would always be part of his life, and if she couldn't accept it, then that was the end of that. She subsequently found out that he is very torn about divorcing his wife and seems to be having second thoughts. My friend is devastated.

I think until you have ended one relationship, it is unfair to start another.

RE: First Approaches ... when you choose not to have a phoro displayed

Dare I ask why not? I respect your right NOT to put a photo up but since this is a dating site, and most people are visual animals, it is a bit confounding why this would be your choice...

Maybe I am totally wrong, but I assume one of the following and keep a respectful distance:

1) You are in a relationship but you're a bit bored so you're looking for something on the side (dishonesty)
2) You are in a relationship but you're separated or going through a divorce (unfinished business)
3) You are embarrassed of how you look - either you're much older, are seriously overweight, or you're not as good looking as you say you are (implies dishonesty - not a good basis for a relationship)
4) You are paranoid about someone who knows someone who knows you seeing you on an internet dating site (self confidence issues - who gives a toss?)

Don't mind a bit of repartee on the forums, but that's probably as far as I'd go. Btw, looked up Te Puke and Bay of Plenty - and found out you're the kiwifruit 'capital of the world'... Love kiwifruit!

RE: Good places to go in Bali?

When we were there, we also did an 3 hour eco tour trip to a volcano then rode bicycles back to Ubud. It included breakfast and a visit to a place where they make cat poo coffee! It was somewhat tiring as it's all downhill and you have to hold on tight to the hand brakes, but well worth the trip! You get a chance to see how they live in the rural areas.... A word of warning: I was put off meat for weeks! You MUST also spend an hour or two, or entire morning, at one of the spas. Don't go to the hotel spas, they are exorbitant; but some of the local spas are fabulous, inexpensive and the girls doing the massage are adorable - really warm and friendly! ENJOY!

RE: Good places to go in Bali?

Yes, but worth it!!!!

RE: Happy Birthday Mindfful

Happy Birthday Mindfful... Hope you're having a ffabulous day!!! From one Leo to another....

RE: How to conquer the heart of a girl

Your advice is always so sensible!

RE: How to tell if a woman doesn't really like you.

Awwwwww.....

RE: How to tell if a woman doesn't really like you.

You're too funny GH!

RE: How to tell if a woman doesn't really like you.

Well, actually it's almost over - 10pm here and need an early night as school workshop tomorrow morning! Can ya believe it, my bro is so mad about bikes (and cars) that he bought his wife a classic Harley Davidson for her 40th birthday!!!!! She was supposed to have gone for lessons but hasn't touched it, instead HE's the one riding it around.... Boys and their toys - what can ya do?!!!

RE: How to tell if a woman doesn't really like you.

She ignores you! pssst My brother took me for a ride on his 1800cc Suzuki Boulevard today..... Wow, what a motorbike! I'd forgotten how much fun it is to have that much power between my thighs!!!!

RE: Man Vs Woman, Who makes a better boss?

That is true... I've had good and bad bosses of both genders. In my experience, sometimes when women get to senior director level, they feel the need to prove themselves as capable as the men, and can become quite impossible, throwing their weight around. It depends on how comfortable they are within themselves....

RE: Due Diligence, or a Violation of Children's Rights??

Hey Dodge Yes, hope so too... Especially since my boys are at a Catholic private school (even though we aren't Catholic). Whew, getting weary... 01:07 here - time for beddy byes! Sleep tight....

RE: Due Diligence, or a Violation of Children's Rights??

Okay, well having read this a couple of times and clarifying that it is NOT a legal document, I think the good part is: a) it brings this to parents' attention, b) it brings this to childrens' attention and c) it encourages the child and the parent to take some responsibility for safe internet behaviour. What I (perhaps cynically) wonder is whether in doing this the church is absolving itself of any further responsibility should one of those situations outlined in the document occurs (especially with one of their priests or perhaps teachers) and putting the onus on the parent and child to take all the responsibility??

RE: Reading about another person finding a connection, does it make you feel..

I'm really happy you're happy Bella! You're a lovely, articulate and intelligent lady and we ALL deserve to be happy... So here's to you and the new relationship...

RE: whatcha listening to?

Just got a birthday gift from a friend. We were at a coffee shop with lovely french background music. I recognised it was Francoise Hardy, and she kindly bought me one of her CDs. Such a lovely voice and loving the music....