leostartingover Forum Posts (1,685)

RE: which female figure in this pic do you hanker after.

I think they've all been airbrushed up the yin yang - no sign of fat on any, which is hard to believe esp on the size 12 & 16 women! Anyway nice to know SOME men like curves!

RE: its hard to find the right man that would take in your kids...

I'm sorry. It's a really hard stage to go through.... I've been there. My advice is to place your children's needs first at this point in time - it is so very important for their future, as divorce is one of the most traumatic events kids can go through.

I know because you feel rotten you feel the need for affirmation from other men, you need to know that you're still found attractive because you feel like you've failed in your marriage; but you will learn in time that it is NOT the answer. You will take all the issues from your marriage into your new relationships.

Take this time to look deep within yourself to heal yourself. It will take time, but it will be worth it. Rushing into dating is not a great idea... It may make you feel better in the short-term, but not for very long. Taking the time and making the effort to make yourself feel whole will have enormous long-term benefits for both you, your daughters, and a healthy future relationship. Counselling for both you and your daughters can help enormously, as can the love and support of friends and family.

Lots of love and strength!
Heather

RE: Inspire me

"Never regret yesterday, for life is in you today, and you make your own tomorrow!" L Ron Hubbard!!!

"Let there be space in your togetherness" referring to marriage -The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran

RE: HEY!!!!

I love... my children, my friends, my family and my animals and LOTS of other things too to a lesser degree

I want... financial freedom and ultimately to find a true life partner

I need... to be fully independent

I have to have... that independence to be truly happy and content

RE: What gift would you take to a first date, flowers?

Nice you think like that Need2clean! There've been some good suggestions. Anything from the heart is good, but I think perhaps something small which is indigenous to your area? Not an animal or anything!! I mean, let's say you're known for your cashew nuts, or exquisite wild flowers, or some kind of unusual fruit? Just as long as whatever you take shows a bit of thought went into it!

RE: Was 9/11 Really inside Job?

Yes, I am with you MerriWeather, especially having lived in America, which for all its problems (as we all have), is a wonderful country. I remember so clearly being at a moms & tots group with my 3 year old and heavily pregnant with my 2nd child, and watching the TV coverage in absolute horror here in SA. We were all in total shock that such a thing could've happened.

RE: what do women really want

That is true! p.s. In my years in the USA, I must confess I thought Oregon one of the most beautiful states.... lucky you!

RE: IF A GUY SPLITS THE BILL ONN THE FIRST DATE, IS HE-DATEABLE????

I must confess, I like that. But, I always offer to pay half. Most times the offer is refused.

RE: what do women really want

I know what I want. I suspect most of us, both men and women, would like much the same things from a relationship.

Someone you feel safe with, and feel comfortable enough to share your innermost self with...

Someone who loves you, quirks and all... actually BECAUSE of who you are as an individual...

Someone who shows they are proud of you, by being respectful, warm and affectionate with you in public as well as at home...

Someone who knows when to offer advice and when to just listen...

Someone who sticks with you during the rough times...

Someone who will laugh with you, cry with you and hold you when you need to be held...

RE: Influence from Parents and Grandparents

..... and some good thoughts they are! I'm a 60s/70s girl, but we also were brought up without TV and playing outside using our imagination, and as mentioned earlier, by neighbours who were friends! I'm so lucky that even though my boys do enjoy some of the new technology of today, they also love playing sport and are mostly outdoors! What they don't have is the sense of community and thus safety, that we had when we were kids... Sad.

Some clever puns!

Thanks LHW - I loved that!!!

RE: Have you ever 2

Not often, tend to be more into fight than flight! But in a non-literal way, yes...

Have you ever done anything really risky and potentially dangerous?

RE: Interview The person Below

Yes a bit! Love Latin music and lavina can play guitar and loved Bali... plus my boys desperate for me to go back and buy them those cheapie Nintendo DS games - 300 in one game kinda thing!!!

In what environment do you feel most at peace?

Some clever puns!

Thanks tubajazz!

RE: Would you date younger men?

Sad but unfortunately true! There are a few exceptions to the rule, but not many....

RE: Start at A end at Z for each letter say a word

synchonicity

Some clever puns!

Glad you liked em CC!

Some clever puns!

Very cute Cambuff! But I have never seen apologise spelt with two Ps - the question is more, is it spelt with an s or z! psssst Weren't those last two lines spoken by Donald Trump???!!!

Some clever puns!

Thanks Zeus! So did I!!! Hope you're having a great weekend....

RE: Would you date younger men?

Sad, that's not much of an age gap at all, especially as you get older! I have dated younger men - much younger men, but having experienced that; I think I prefer men more around my own age... although would consider 10 years younger! As a few other ladies posted - would rather not have to live up to unreal expectations... I may look okay for my age but I am no match for anyone in their mid 20s! It is nicer to feel relaxed and comfortable and be able to discuss things at your same level of experience and understanding. That's not to say there aren't (a few) mature young men and immature older men!

Some clever puns!

My li'l sis and I both love words and enjoyed this recent email with clever puns... Do you have any to add?

1.The fattest knight at King Arthur's round table was Sir Cumference.

He acquired his size from too much pi.

2. I thought I saw an eye doctor on an Alaskan island, but it turned out to be an optical Aleutian.

3. She was only a whiskey maker, but he loved her still.

4. A rubber band pistol was confiscated from algebra class, because it was a weapon of math disruption.

5. No matter how much you push the envelope, it'll still be stationery.

6. A dog gave birth to puppies near the road and was cited for littering.

7. A grenade thrown into a kitchen in France would result in Linoleum Blownapart.

8. Two silk worms had a race. They ended up in a tie.

9. A hole has been found in the nudist camp wall. The police are looking into it.

10. Time flies like an arrow. Fruit flies like a banana.

11. Atheism is a non-prophet organization.

12. Two hats were hanging on a hat rack in the hallway. One hat said to the other: 'You stay here; I'll go on a head.'

13. I wondered why the baseball kept getting bigger. Then it hit me.

14. A sign on the lawn at a drug rehab center said: 'Keep off the Grass.'

15. The midget fortune-teller who escaped from prison was a small medium at large.

16. The soldier who survived mustard gas and pepper spray is now a seasoned veteran.

17. A backward poet writes inverse.

18. In a democracy it's your vote that counts. In feudalism it's your count that votes.

19. When cannibals ate a missionary, they got a taste of religion.

20. If you jumped off the bridge in Paris, you'd be in Seine.

21. A vulture boards an airplane, carrying two dead raccoons. The stewardess looks at him and says, 'I'm sorry, sir, only one carrion allowed per passenger.'

22. Two fish swim into a concrete wall. One turns to the other and says 'Dam!'

23. Two Eskimos sitting in a kayak were chilly, so they lit a fire in the craft. Unsurprisingly it sank, proving once again that you can't have your kayak and heat it too.

24. Two hydrogen atoms meet. One says, 'I've lost my electron.' The other says 'Are you sure?' The first replies, 'Yes, I'm positive.'

25. Did you hear about the Buddhist who refused Novocain during a root canal? His goal: transcend dental medication.

26. There was the person who sent ten puns to friends, with the hope that at least one of the puns would make them laugh. No pun in ten did.

RE: Influence from Parents and Grandparents

You're lucky Katt! My mother was very loving when she was compus mentis or not institutionalised. Sadly, she was manic depressive and an alcoholic and my stepfather also had a serious drinking problem. We also had very little money. We were very lucky though - we had a marvellous 'nanny' who looked after us and loved us like her own. I felt she was my 'second' mother. We also had neighbours who were always kind and helpful and looked after us when we needed help. As they say: It takes a village to raise a child!!! I learnt a lot and have an appreciation for people and life that I may not otherwise have had, so I choose to feel grateful for my experiences.

RE: Is a relationship the secret to happiness?

You are a wise woman GingerBe!

RE: puuuuRRRR!!!! robbie williams is hoTTT!!!

What are you talking about?

RE: Adolescent antics

Boys will be boys!!! ..... and what would we do without you?!!!

RE: puuuuRRRR!!!! robbie williams is hoTTT!!!

He is very cute and I love his music, but a bit too troubled for me!!! I am over my rescuing era! It will be interesting to see if married life and maybe starting a family will calm him down? Or if making up with the Take That boys will make a difference? I hope so!

RE: write a...

You forgot your word!!!

RE: Matured????

You look lovely! Take no notice of those silly boys...

RE: IF YOU WIN 100 MILLION USD WHAT U GONA BUY?

First of all, I'd love to travel the world and go to all sorts of unusual places, meet unusual people and have lots of adventures!

I'd love to take my boys to Disneyworld....

When I eventually come home to roost, very similar to Scoutmaster's idea, I would love to get a youth "village" going in the countryside. I would buy a large property/game farm, buy a few wild animals(no carnivores!) some chickens (for eggs), some cows (for milk), a veggie garden and fruit orchard, make lots of hiking trails, build some bungalows around a central "communal" area where teens could stay. There would be a large thatched area filled with comfy poofs/large cushions and shelves upon shelves of books, where teens could discover the joys of reading. There would be a large media centre where they could listen to music and play interactive games. There would be a large kitchen where different cooking courses would be offered. Self development workshops would be offered. Part of the workshops would include going for hikes and on game drives to see the animals. There would be poetry readings, creative writing classes and dance movement/yoga and hip hop classes. Teens could book in for weekend or week long workshops which would encourage them to do some soul searching and self discovery while interacting with others...

RE: IF YOU WIN 100 MILLION USD WHAT U GONA BUY?

You are very definitely special and unique!!! .... and a very loving daughter... I hope you win the money AND find someone wonderful for your dad!