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RE: .....Beauty comes from inside....here´s the Proof.........

Shame those poor girls/women walking around in that HEAT covered in black from head to toe. I have a friend living in Muskat who teaches English there, and she says that the girls have beautifully made up eyes but underneath that hijab their skin can be really awful from all that perspiration. With temps often reaching the 50s, I cannot even imagine....

RE: G'day Squared

NO NO It's a GOOD thing silly! and obviously when he was younger.... Used to love him particularly when paired up with Walter Matthau!!! Please, not George Clooney. He's pretty ok looking but a bit too smoooooooooooooooooooooth in my view...

RE: A Life emergency

Good decision! Sometimes being away from the situation gives you a better perspective.... Good luck to you with everything....

RE: A Life emergency

Well maybe you need to take the opportunity while you're away to do some thinking... and gain some perspective? Rather don't make a decision until you return....

RE: A Life emergency

It sounds like you're scared of being rejected by this girl you like, and afraid that if she doesn't feel the same way about you, that you'll then ruin your friendship. I can understand your turmoil but if you don't take the risk, you'll never know.

It isn't fair to keep your current gf hanging around though if you aren't feeling the same way about her. Just be sure that this isn't just a physical attraction and that you're not ruining a good relationship for a "grass is always greener" scenario...

You may find you just need a good injection of spontaneity and excitement to spark your current relationship off again. It doesn't happen without effort. Those of us who have had long-term relationships kinda learn that, but you're still young... Only you know if your current relationship is worth trying to save or give up because you like someone's lips!!! Or is it more than that?

RE: WTF when i looked into your eyes,i saw a angel smiling back at me

....anyway still a good poem!

RE: WTF when i looked into your eyes,i saw a angel smiling back at me

.... and me!!!

RE: Would you tell your best friend?

Yes ditto. Even if they were fogging up the room with their snogging! It would be such an awful thing to tell your friend and chances are he'd be mad at you too... I'd first try to talk to the wife and find out what exactly is going on then try to persuade her to work it out with her husband.

RE: G'day Squared

Hi there! Has anyone told you that you resemble Jack Lemmon??? Nice smile.... Welcome to CS and the forums....

RE: A Life emergency

I agree! Chances are if there really IS something more than just friendship with the girl you fancy, it will blossom once your current relationship has ended.... or not... some friendships are better left as friendships.

RE: FRIENDS

So I see!

RE: Relationship patterns

It hasn't happened to me, but I see it with a few people I know. I think it is partly to do with choosing what you "know" and are comfortable with (habit), despite the fact that they may be bad for you, and partly to do with not really taking responsibility for mistakes you may have made in the past and bad choices. Also not doing the necessary work to come to terms with that and then put it firmly back in the past where it belongs. Have you heard of Imago therapy? It's quite big here. The theory goes that we choose people to heal ourselves, and we may continue to choose the wrong people until we heal ourselves fully and make ourselves "whole" again. Then we are more likely to choose healthier partners.

RE: G'day

Hi there! I guess it's evening there by now.... Welcome to the forums!

RE: What is your favourite cheese?

Love most cheeses except the really stinky ones...

RE: Nutcase with time to spare

Ha ha!

RE: Happy Birthday OutofAfrica

Yes happy birthday to both of you!

RE: MAIL ORDER BRIDES

I know what you're saying. Bars are not my thing either. And as for internet dating - well I haven't had any luck when it comes to meeting the 'right' person, but I've met some nice people IN person, and although they aren't right for me, some of us are still in contact. It gets even harder as you get older. I either seem to be hit on by much much younger guys looking for 'cougars' or much much older guys...

RE: MAIL ORDER BRIDES

Well, I think a lot of these women are desperate. Sure there are some desperate women on any dating site, but perhaps for different reasons? As one of the previous posters said, you would just have to be a bit more careful and realistic about your expectations. Just saying that it can be easier to meet women if you are nice looking - so shoot me! Jeez....

RE: MAIL ORDER BRIDES

So true. Also, I should think there must be a certain amount of desperation to get out of their situation, and "sell" themselves to a total stranger in a faraway country. I'd imagine that there must be a lot of sadness to deal with too. Having said that, I know of a wealthy guy here who got himself a lovely, young Russian wife and started a new family after an acrimonious divorce. He seems happy, I don't really know about her! How long the relationship will last I don't know. OP you are still young and good looking, surely there are better and more realistic options available to you? Unless you like the idea of being in control?

RE: Do you think single life is a better lifestyle?

Ssssssssssh - Didn't you see? We've changed the subject!!! We're back to single life... where we were supposed to be....

RE: hello

ello ello? bad connection but yes there are a few life forms out here in the southern hemisphere.... the jury's out on whether we're all human!!! anyway welcome all of u newbies...

RE: Do you think single life is a better lifestyle?

.... and with that I shall bow out and let the single life thread get back on track!!!!

RE: Do you think single life is a better lifestyle?

I love dancing!

RE: Do you think single life is a better lifestyle?

Yes I agree. It isn't that I think communism or socialism is the answer, but certainly here in SA and I suspect in a lot of countries there is a move away from social programmes - very little help for the elderly, the poor, the unemployed, the mentally challenged.... and our education system needs a total overhaul. Although there are more opportunities for well educated former disadvantaged people, there aren't enough of them... because the vast majority of people cannot afford a good education - they're in survival mode.

The good ole days??!!!

Ha ha! We didn't have baths in those big old kitchen sinks, but we had a funny old tin bath that we got bathed in outside when we were extra dirty (as did the dogs)!!! Sounds like fun playing in the hay.... We also dug secret holes in the empty, overgrown plot down the road and had secret codes to enter! Explored abandoned houses which we convinced ourselves were full of ghosts and once found an empty office which still had a telephone connection, which we used to call strangers all over the world - must've run up a HUGE phone bill!!!

RE: Do you think single life is a better lifestyle?

Hey nice pic Estate!

RE: Do you think single life is a better lifestyle?

Yes you have both made good points and DeadButWhy. Come on people, can't you just admit that although Western democracy and capitalism have many great things about it, this striving for more and more stuff that a lot of us do - accumulating material wealth, is sometimes at the expense of our own spiritual growth and understanding and tolerance of other people with different belief systems... and it is sometimes at the expense of less fortunate people who don't have the same opportunities we do and are taken full advantage of. Sad but true.

RE: FRIENDS

I absolutely agree with you, and amazingly enough, our illustrious OP!!!! Good post MM!!!

RE: Do you think single life is a better lifestyle?

Very true! You're quite a wise old soul for such a young whippersnapper!

RE: how long will i have to wait,,,,,

.... and how long exactly have you been on here? Think I'll give this mathematical quandary to my boys to work out the answer!!!!! Have you ever thought about hopping on one of those yachts you fix up??!!!