leostartingover Forum Posts (1,685)

RE: Cutting contact without saying a word...

I think it happens a lot. It's the nature of the beast (the internet)... Not that it's right, but people become desensitised. I think internet dating brings out the best (sometimes) and the worst in us. The best because that's the side we show most of the time on here, and the worst because we do sometimes lose touch with the fact that these are individuals, actual people at the end of the day... People with feelings who can get hurt. As Gin said, we get into click/delete mode and move on sometimes without stopping to think.

I think sometimes people get caught up in the fact that someone else is interested in them and it's a huge ego boost, so they go along with it; then suddenly when reality hits (like the person decides they want to visit), they realise they aren't ready, or the person who is pursuing them is not actually the right one. It IS cowardly not to be honest and communicate that, but I guess some people feel it would be more hurtful to be honest than just NOT contact you again, and send the message that way...

RE: Does a SNAKE have KNEES ??

Oy! No need to be rude...

RE: Does a SNAKE have KNEES ??

Obviously! No, actually I just felt like being silly!

RE: Does a SNAKE have KNEES ??

p.s. the snake in Harry Potter definitely had knees!

RE: Fill the blank..., be creative

brrrrrrr. Thanks SM, but there's a reason I'm living in the Southern Hemisphere!!!

RE: Fill the blank..., be creative

I love the cocker spaniel thought!!!

RE: Does a SNAKE have KNEES ??

did ya mean knees or needs? I should imagine a snake definitely has needs! Certain types of snakes especially the very common trouser variety has many needs. Actually, they may even have knees I suppose if they were really desperate???!!!

RE: Fill the blank..., be creative

Yes and I have my ceiling fan on and sleeveless top!

RE: Fun Laugh

Ha ha! The joys of speedos! They really ought to be banned apart from when the Olympic swimmers wear em!!!

......Then of course, we want em even smaller!

RE: Fill the blank..., be creative

Aw JS!

RE: Fill the blank..., be creative

here? or her?

RE: Fill the blank..., be creative

Oy next time you may want to quote me, or we'll all get the wrong idea about you if you know what I mean!!!! But in answer to your veiled question... After sipping the delicious wine with the lovely man later I would dine on him (I don't think sipping is the right word somehow)...

RE: Trying to give up smoking

Congrats Trish! Not an easy thing to give up....

RE: Why is it......

Yes, but you have PERSONALITY Kid!

RE: Why is it......

Hi Scoutmaster! I wouldn't take this personally. We all know you are a lovely guy, and personality definitely counts for a lot. I think SM and others were trying to say that it isn't just about men taking care of their looks as they get older (balding is NOT a capital offence) but also about them showing a bit of spunk and zest for life! I think all the women on here would agree with your last statement, at least I would. Shallowness does absolutely NOTHING for me. If he's plain but has depth, I am far more likely to find him attractive.

RE: confess your sins! Im waiting! (Im doing this one a gain coz it's funny)

Now now you two. No airing your dirty laundry in public. Sure that must be a sin!

RE: Why is it......

What does "corn fed" mean anyway? But sorry if you've taken offense. I don't think any of the women on here mean it that way... In fact, I think most of us are talking about other dating sites - not the men on CS!

RE: Why is it......

Thanks gals for giving me a laugh! I agree with you wholeheartedly, and the thing is that it only gets worse as you get older! I mean, the men who contact me (not on this site, but on a local dating site) are generally either a lot older OR look a lot older than they should for their age. The ones around my age (50) are all going after women in their mid 30s to mid 40s... My ex is a prime example. He's 57 but says he is 54 (gone up from 48 I might add) and is not interested in the least in dating someone my age! At least he DOES take care of himself, but there're so many that don't... and yet they STILL want much younger women! Then there's the opposite end of the spectrum, the guys who are a lot younger but only looking for a fling. My married compatriots say I should rather go for them than the paunchy old pervs!

We were discussing it at a ladies lunch today, and one woman said that there is a woman who runs a successful and upmarket dating site here and makes good matches BUT aside from it being quite an expensive investment, she will not take women over 45 because "there isn't a market for them"!!!

I do think women take more care of their appearance because we HAVE to... Society expects us to look younger and younger as we're getting older. If we had to let our hair go grey and put on weight (which happens anyway during menopause) people would shake their heads and say/think: Shame, she's really let herself go! On the other hand, it is deemed quite acceptable for a man to look middle aged, greying hair, paunch, etc. and still be regarded as attractive. Double standards I reckon!

RE: Trying to give up smoking

Yes go for hypnotherapy... If you WANT to give up, it'll work! I do it so.............



at the sound of my voice you are feeling sleepy.....



as i count to 10 slowly, your eyes will get heavier and heavier........



1......


2......

Okay wake up now. I can't do it over here! But seriously, it does work! You could also try talking yourself into giving up. That's what I did, but you do need to want to. I just kept telling myself all the bad things about smoking... The horrible smell on my hair and clothing, the nicotine making me addicted, the tar clinging to my lungs... you get the picture....

Good luck!

RE: Fun Laugh

....or something of the sort! He certainly got lots of attention, that's for sure!!!

RE: Fill the blank..., be creative

was in Tuscany right now staying in a beautiful villa near the sea with all the earthy scents and the velvety night sky, sitting outside on the patio, sipping on some delicious wine with a lovely man next to me... no need to talk, just enjoying the moment!

RE: What are the chances?

Awwwww. You have to be realistic WP... You are in Tasmania! Just as I am in SA and have little to no chance of meeting all you lovely men living far away from here. Much more likely to happen in USA or Europe, I think. Still, it's still fun on here and I enjoy the laugh and email contact with some really nice people!

RE: What are the chances?

Hi there and welcome! I've met some lovely people on here although not in person... Doesn't help to live so far away from everyone! Still, it's fun and interesting on the forums, so enjoy...

RE: Is treating everyone the same...

Well I would say so, but not the same as treating everyone fairly...

RE: FINDING OLD GIRLFRIENDS OR OLD BOYFRIENDS ON DATING SITES

I didn't mean to necessarily date - just to find out what happened to them....

RE: Music of the 90's....

Good words JS!!!! I must say, I also prefer the 80s..... I guess partly coz that's when I was in my "prime"!!!

RE: FINDING OLD GIRLFRIENDS OR OLD BOYFRIENDS ON DATING SITES

No, it's never happened to me! I wouldn't mind if a couple of old flames were on here, especially from my youth!

RE: Who Draws the Line?....

So true... but if I was asked a direct question, I would give an honest answer. As they say... the truth will out! I'd rather it comes from my mouth.

RE: Music of the 90's....

Some great dance music JS, that's for sure!

RE: Nap Time...

....bit early for me... it's not quite 5pm here!