You're so right! We are far too critical about ourselves! One of the good things about getting older is more of an acceptance of our bod including the 'flaws'!!!
BC (before children) my ex and I had two little miniature daschunds or wieners as you Yanks like to call them!!! We were kinda homesick, so we named them Zulu & Xhosa (the names of two of the major tribes in SA)... We adored those doggies and brought them back to SA with us when we returned - they lived for about 14 years.
Had a gorgeous black cat when I was a child called Mona Lisa. She had a very long love affair with Felix (the cat over the road) and we kept two of their kittens. Bertram (or Bertie) was the one and Smokey the other.
Off the subject of pets, but have always named cars. The best name was this old heap of an American tank we bought which kept breaking down. It was called URIAH - get it?!!
So as you say does YALL's stuff get saggy and unslightly and sometimes downright disgusting! It is NOT limited to females! Good luck with your quest for perfection when you eventually get there... Shallowness is so unappealing.
Yes I have skinny dipped! It can be a lot of fun! The last time was after my ex's 50th birthday party.... Would never reveal who I might consider going skinny dipping with on CS.... the very thought!
Well, I think the "for better or for worse" bit covers a lot! Perhaps better to leave it to the imagination? I mean otherwise, we'd have a lot more men making a dash for it on their wedding day!
Well that sounds like fun! It isn't quite 3pm here and a public holiday (Heritage Day). Going to join a couple of my friends later for sundowners - actually the one who invited us has a jacuzzi AND some left over French champagne from her recent 50th!! Should be a fun evening!
Yes ME! Having been in one long-term marriage (23 years) and being divorced for 3, I see absolutely no necessity of getting hitched again! I like my independence, and it would have to be a very special person for me to even consider co-habiting and not a decision I would take lightly. I kind of like my space...
I agree! Yes this is a dating site, but the forums are for expressing our varying opinions on many different subjects. It is an opportunity to grow and learn but I have noticed some people find it difficult to state their opinions without being rude or obnoxious. It is so unnecessary. Trying to railroad someone to look at something from your perspective doesn't work... Debating in a respectful way does.
Yes. Excellent advice Jac. It is understandable that any mother or parent for that matter would want to take back control and feel the need to express the outrage, anger and helplessness she feels that this happened. But, handling it the legal way and staying in control is the only way to go. When you're ready, you can also get some help/therapy for both you and your daughter to deal with this. Love and strength to both of you
But also, being courteous and polite, talking to her as an equal, standing up for yourself and your opinions in a respectful way (agreeing to disagree). In short, if you behave like a gentleman, she is much more likely to behave like a lady!
Don't know the answer to that one. We're all different... I guess some people find it hard to accept others who do not conform to what they perceive to be socially acceptable standards?
I wouldn't say it is socially unacceptable, but just not sure why one would feel the need to control positive emotions? Would that come from feeling insecure? Even if, as mentioned above, these emotions are only shared with a select few. I mean, being able to express our joy, our fear, our feelings is what makes us human and what attracts us to one person and not another. It is what adds depth, colour and meaning to life.... Just my view!
I agree with you! It is very important to learn to control negative emotions - such as anger, jealousy, hatred, etc. That is what EQ or emotional intelligence is all about - and many people believe it is even more valuable than having a high IQ. Being able to share your emotions, both positive and negative with other people, whether it's a select few or many; is also important. I mean, otherwise we wouldn't have a sounding board, or a way of knowing where our emotions are on the scale... Everyone's different, but psychologically healthy people are able to share their emotions with other people, and are able to control - NOT repress negative emotions.
I used to have, but now only occasionally! I also like chocolate now and again and cannot resist a good lemon meringue. Other than that, prefer savoury!
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RE: How does men see our body?
You're so right! We are far too critical about ourselves! One of the good things about getting older is more of an acceptance of our bod including the 'flaws'!!!