Sorry, I stopped reading here...I really lost interest in the post once I realized the intolerance you have for other beliefs that may differ from that of your own... G'day.
We are in the same ballpark...I'm very upfront with that as well about myself. I figure they either understand it for what it truely is, and stay or they don't & they leave.
I do however understand those that choose to not get involved because there is alot of misinformation about such things and a stigma attached as well or maybe even they've had a past history that had a negative impact associated. Whatever their reason may be, I always hope they understand that friendship is always an option as well. If however they are close minded and choose not to accept either friendship or more, I bid them a goodbye because they never could have had an impact on my life anyways.
I'm the same way...I'm not sure why in your situation, however I can say from experience in mine, alot of it has to do with the hurt that came from past loves...and in a sense that isn't fair to the one you like now, but it is what it is...I think there is always that little voice that says "OMG...what if she doesn't like me like that after I just confessed how I feel" and even though the voice is in the back of our minds, it's loud enough to affect how we express ourselves...Again, that is from my personal experience.
Yet another factor not taken into consideration...faith...and honestly there is no way to measure that except within ones self....
This is why I like topics to be somewhat vague when I ask them...It really turns out different thoughts on what people feel without directing them in a particular direction...
And Wizard, I agree if it is meant to be, it will happen, if it isn't then it won't.
Very true and point well taken (and agreed with)...However...Due to the miscommunication, one person may not realize the blurry grey area and wrongly be thinking that there is more, when in fact, there is not.
I think it would behoove the other person to clearly define that for them...(Have had to do that before, and it sucks to have that feeling that you may be potentially shattering someone like that)...
Really this conversation stems from something I saw in the last night or two...I don't want to go into detail, because I don't want to "out" someone so to speak. They ended up broken hearted, simply because the intentions were not clearly defined. In a sense, I guess, it just touched me because I myself went through a similar situation in the past. Although I've learned to communicate better since, it just kinda pulled at the heartstrings to see someone going through it as well.
Well...I'm sure both parties do when they involve each other with one another...but the question is, are the intentions defined clearly amongst those involved? or do you feel there is an area of grey that leaves room for misinturpretation?
Ok, well, I guess it's only appropriate for the OP to share his thoughts as well.
I would have to say in relation to dating...There are times where I have questioned the intentions of someone I was talking to or flirting with, as to what they wanted out of it. Whether it was just friendship or more. But the thing is, when it got to a certain point..I would simply ask. Because after all, I do go on & on that communication is the key to any relationship that you have with someone, regardless if it is business, friendship or romance...And sometimes even if the other person can't be initially clear on their intentions, you have to take the initiative to be the one to ask & question what exactly is going on. I did this previously and we actually had a very serious conversation about what it was we were both seeking and what we both thought was going on.
I discovered, because of that conversation, that it was something we both wanted at the time as a romantic relationship. This relationship became something I considered successful because it's something we continued with one another for a while and it flourished as long as it could. Yes, we broke up, but we broke up and remained friends for the longest of time and with no regrets of having tried something romantic with one another. I definitely to this day, do not regret the relationship we shared with one another regardless of the fact that in the end, it did not work out.
Ever notice sometimes when we may talk to someone, we find ourselves wondering what their intentions are. Do they want just friendship? Are they interested in more? What are they trying to say? Are they being cheeky? Are they serious?
I find this to be in a sense intriguing to try and understand...Of course we'd all like someone to be upfront and clear about their intentions, but in a sense, the reality of it is, that we try for the most part, try to beat around the bush about how we feel or what we are doing. We either are afraid to get hurt, are afraid to hurt someone else, are trying to be humorous or other various reasons.
What is something that you'd like to make clear or be upfront about? Why do you find it difficult to be so?
Well..in all fairness...whenever you get a group of people together, there is going to be groups that congregate with one another...and of course those groups aren't always going to agree with one another...It's how we deal with our disagreements that help determine what kind of person we are.
There are those that I talk about in discussion with other people, however, it isn't "gossip" they are just simple observations that we discuss in a rational sense.
I agree 100%...None of us know who we truly are and has never walked in one anothers shoes and knows what experiences we have had in life, where we've been and what we've seen...That also has alot to do with perception or lack thereof.
I agree as well....Alot can be lost how we percieve one another through words read. It's not quite as expressive as actually hearing the tone of voice & words from a person face - face.
In a sense, I do agree, however, I am also the type that gives respect unless disrespected....So in a sense, unless a thread has malicious intent, there really is no reason for someone to disrespect the OP. I do agree however, that to get respect, you should give it.
If someone comes off as malicious, I would first seek clarification of their intent (if it isn't already clear) and if their intent is to be malicious, then I would in turn, reciprocate disrespect.
I'm the type of person, I respect someone unless given a reason not to do so. I don't require the fact that someone respect me initially, I do however ask, if they are the first to communicate with me, that they do in fact, be respectful (if that makes sense).
Well...call me materialistic...but there is one thing I am dying for Christmas...but I know I won't get simply because, it's going to be a short month(gonna have Christmas in Jan. to make it up).
I am a HUGE videogame player, it's one of my few vices in life. Please Santa...I wish with all my heart...That you leave Call of Duty: Black Ops Prestige Edition under my tree....Noone plays the old game now that Black Ops is out Santa...and well..I know it's nothing cool like a football Santa, but ...it is to me. Things could be worse, I could have asked for a car, money or something else...But Santa...I really want this game...I really really do....The kid inside of me is sighing because he knows he won't get it Santa...but he understands....
Santa...I understand there are those that are needy in the world and need necessities ...and that comes first by all means...Just remember Santa...if there is one Call of Duty Black Ops Prestige Edition that slides under your seat...remember where I live ok?
P.S. Santa...I REALLY REALLY REALLY want this...I've never wanted something materialistic like this since I was 5 years old and wanted He-Man action figures and Castle Greyskull....And Santa...you & I both remember how much I wanted that...and you came through for me then....
P.S.S. Santa I usually don't resort to bribes...And to be honest, I never will...But just so you know...I remember that Snicker Doodles are your favorite kind of cookie...Just sayin...
I find people to be more impressed with the truth more so, than intimidated by it. I just feel, as I've told a few here I talk to on a regular basis, if someone feels a question is important enough to ask, then it is twice as important that if I ansewr it, I be truthful about it.
I feel if the truth intimidates someone, then they shouldn't ask the question.
JSuburbia Forum Posts (2,518)
Exactly, and so true...Always swings back to one of the BIG 3..Communication.
RE: I Don't Like Your Answer....
No , I didn't take it that way, I was just in turn making a sociological observation.