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What is a relationship really?
Is it just an interaction between two people with all the rules, the yes and no, the can and can't that follows ?
Or is it a feeling, a feeling of belonging, regardless of the rules, distance, spaces and characters in between?
A relation as a sense of belonging is so natural, it needed no complicated rules.
Just many of willingly given understanding from both side.
When you come home after a long day at work, after life has been harsh on us, after a long boring parents meeting, after a nice dinner with families, after a long happy shopping with friends or after a girls night out, what is it exactly that we expected to find??
What is it exactly that we are looking for?
Many long to find a lover, a friend, a spouse, a protector, a family when they get home.
But others, they want to find a home to their heart.
A home to connect and shielded the love from the world outside, a home to share and to feel but most of all a home for the heart to grow together.
But you see, many people mistaken love with interest,lust and desire.
They build rules to guard and protected their homes.
So that no one could escape or come in and steal what institutionally belongs to them.
But relationship is not a cage for the heart
Love needs no boundary, no rules...
BECAUSE LOVE IS THE RULES...
And the intitution and status that follows are the casing,a system that made with rules, which we could switch and customize according to the love and not the other way arround.
One can be married their whole life but never felt the love
but many that stands outside the relationship finds rainbow in their sky...
All im saying is a relationship should be felt not kept, should be build not guard ...
It is a natural giving feeling that it should be stress free...
Love is the real gift of life.

I sit here and think. Sure you all must think I am a desperate man trying to rush-rush things. When in reality I am a practical man. I've been through the heart hurt locker too many times. Several times throughout my life I have invested myself, my energies, and yes my money into relationship that failed. Each time I have gotten up, dusted myself off, and moved forward in hopes that the next time would be the last time.

Realism tip: A person cannot truly know someone from emails or online chats. Face-to-face has to be accomplished somewhere, some time. Sure the Internet is great for screening likely candidates but how many weeks does one email back and forth (especially being in same country) before they finally meet.

Yeah, I have done the 4 month chat through messenger thing, I have done the email back and forth thing for months only to be told when I ask just to meet the person over a cup of coffee in a public place "I'm not comfortable.." I even suggest bring a friend with you "Your a nice man with good heart but..."

So did I waste my time? Or was it all a game from the beginning?

How many weeks does it take to truly decide whether the person you are talking to through email is real enough to meet or not?

In my mind, 1 month of constant emailing and chatting should be pretty much enough to make an informative decision for that 1st public meeting. If a person needs more convincing after 1 month then they were never interested in the 1st place and it has all just been a game. I say this because one should not put a profile online that says they are looking...if they are still recovering from the pains of their past.

Yesterday, I bought myself this shiny new saucepan. So I thought what a great blog idea, a saucepan blog. where people can share their saucepan stories, pictures, and ideas.



I thought I'd start out with something simple, so I boiled a few potatoes and carrots. It seemed to go alright, so we'll see how we go.

Happy happy hump day its hump day what does hump day mean to you?hump day to me is party time boom boom in the houseits party time out

How's the unemployment issue around the world? Finding a job here in Oklahoma is slim to none for me right now. Especially since I want to stay in town. But it may be better if I look more places.

ONLY FROM THE HEART YOU CAN TOUCH THE SKY.

Do it anyway.
A poem by a great woman