How much more important is material possessions to keeping a relationship? ( Archived) (32)

It's not necessarily possessions, but a life I have built up and like very much the way it is.

I have built up something myself in another country and I wouldn't just pack up and move somewhere else - not knowing anyone other than a guy and maybe even being dependent on him if there isn't a job straight away etc.

From experience - I wouldn't be interested in a LDR or even meeting someone who lives a lot further away than a half hour drive. It gives the possibility to spend time and get to know each other and that worked well for me in the past.

Not being smart, but if your life is that bad that you just could drop it and move away, maybe someone should improve that first and work on their own happiness instead of hoping someone else makes them happy?

It also helps if you are already secure in your relationship before the downturn in fortunes happens.

It is easier to have cheap nights in, just enjoying each other's company at that stage.

It is nice to have the few euro in your pocket for the initial wining and dining stage.

As I see Life, it is the reverse for the most part. In this day and age we are all just disposable amusements for others while they search for someone they think is more compatible for themselves. Expect to be nothing more, as most of us go from one so 'ever lasting relationship' to another, be it as simple mates or as husbands or wives. We humans have more than just one chance; more than just one partner through life. Saying that does not make anyone obligated to treat others as disposable, temporary significant others for the time being however, as I'm sure most of us do not like being treated as 'disposable and no return' drones, so why perpetuate this amoral behaviour. As an old saying goes, 'Love where you find it and be be happy while you can' ,and when it is over, get over it . The ending of love is said to be the chance for a new beginning love sometime, somewhere. For all I know, it sounds like 'an old wives tale'...Some may find solace in it while for many, it is pure BS...
No one finds a potential 'love' on a 'either or' basis and any potential mate would never resort to giving you such an absurd choice and if they did, they wouldn't be worth your time. Real love just doesn't work that way.

Too true, but at least you see their true colours in that it shows what they wanted from the relationship. Mine took the car I paid for and the dog too !

But possessions don't mean much to me, the only things I couldn't bear to lose are my photo albums of my children - other than that everything is replaceable - even my ex !

I'm a bit of a gypsy, so don't care for "material things"..my children are most important, will never lose them..and the few "material things" that are sentimental to me could fit into a suitcase

Don't see the point

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Yet you did

Morning! How are you today?

I'm still trying to figure out how material stuff would keep a relationship

There was a guy on the blogs who's fantasy was to be locked in a woman's boot (trunk).

I'm thinking full moon. Look at this....

I am a easy going man with out much drama. I like all kinds of activities from Burning Women to Country dancing, sports, music and romantic movies.

Am I missing something?

Not sure about that... btw I often heard lots of peoples (any color) out there always talk about future, future and future... and I have never heard anyone who wants to bring their $$$ to cemetery 'till todays...