Annoying Traits of a Nagging Girlfriend
People often strive to put forth their best efforts in the beginning stages of dating and forming a relationship. They usually behave properly and act well-mannered. However, they tend to show their true colors once the relationship is fairly well set in its foundation. At this point, people often take their partners for granted. They behave as they really are because they feel secure and comfortable in the relationship. Although it is good to feel comfortable with your partner, it is not good to take him or the relationship for granted.
It may seem that you are now living with a completely different person than the one you first became involved with. A male partner may say, "She was so much fun to be around when we first met. All she does now is nag." He wonders what went wrong along the way. He may even realize that the traits he once admired in his partner are the ones he now detests the most. Her assertiveness may have turned into aggression. Her frugality may have become greed. Her confidence may have turned into conceit. Her fun-loving nature may have blossomed into full-blown irresponsibility.
The one trait men complain about most is nagging. Nothing gets under a man's skin like a chronic nag. Of course, men that nag can be just as bad. There are all sorts of things to nag about such as household chores or not spending enough time together. The bad thing about nagging is that it is repetitive. Your partner tells you repeatedly that you need milk from the store or that the kitchen sink is dripping. You know these things but she continues to tell you as if to try and burn it into your memory with branding iron. As if to add insult to injury, there are women that will sit there and say, "Did you hear me? Huh? Huh? Did you hear me?" After a few more repetitions, you are ready to scream, punch the wall or reach for another beer.
Most naggers have other annoying traits such as nosiness. Does your partner or girlfriend have to know everything you say or do? Does she ask you where you are going every time you get up from the couch? Does she ask you who you are talking to and why they are calling whenever you are on the phone? Does she go through your cellphone contacts?
The invention of the cellphone has also made it easier to nag your partner. Now, she can nag you wherever you go, even at work. If she can't call you, she will text you, repeatedly. Nagging can be hazardous to your health or your financial security when your partner lovingly nags you at work or while driving. However, she will explain that she is only checking on you out of concern. It is no wonder so many cellphones end up lost or "accidentally" dropped in the toilet. It truly boggles the mind as to what is so important that people can't even relieve themselves without their cellphones.
It is important to realize that chronic nagging is a form of emotional abuse. It can make a person uncomfortable and cause anxiety. Seek professional help if you are nagged to the extent where you dread coming home. Your partner may not realize the extent of her nagging behavior. She may also have other issues of her own such as possessiveness or insecurity. A counselor can help her overcome these behaviors and save your relationship.