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Under Achiever

At school my teachers thought I would never amount to anything. I haven’t seen any of them since I left so they probably don’t know how accurate their predictions were. None of my achievements in life have been more than minor. This has, from time to time, caused me anxiety and dissatisfaction, but not anymore. I’ve found that since I’ve been living on my own I no longer care about achievement, or lack of it. A bit more money would be nice, but it wouldn’t take much more to spare me the usual end of the month juggling.

This made me wonder how many of the ambitions we have are for the sake of other people.

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smiley963●Johannesburg, Gauteng South Africa

Jan 26, 2019●14 Blogs●101 Comments

Whenever anybody does anything, it must be for them first, then their loved ones/animals. The rest does not matter. You are the one that will be the happy or unhappy one! Pretence?

Bearwoman●Northgate, Ohio USA

Jan 26, 2019●42 Blogs●1,700 Comments

Harbal Maybe you're not a under achiever after all the way you express yourself in the blogs and forums by saying provoking things to some people..I meant my wording in the nicest way possible.

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Jan 26, 2019●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

I wouldn't know, wen, I'm not getting older.

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Jan 26, 2019●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

Smiley, the material things that seemed important when I lived with other people have no attraction now I'm on my own. This makes me wonder how much of what I wanted was what I wanted.

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Jan 26, 2019●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

I suppose it's all a matter of how you measure achievement, BW.

Bearwoman●Northgate, Ohio USA

Jan 26, 2019●42 Blogs●1,700 Comments

Harbel What you said is true.I do think you are a nice person regardless.

smiley963●Johannesburg, Gauteng South Africa

Jan 26, 2019●14 Blogs●101 Comments

Material things are not important at all. The people and animals are all that matter, or who/what-ever are your loved ones, but unfortunately for us to survive at present, we need certain goods. The more comforting they are, the better we do at whatever we do do, and when it's not required anymore, we can leave it with a clear conscience.

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Jan 26, 2019●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

I think you are nice too, BW.

ChesneyChrist●Manchester, Greater Manchester, England UK

Jan 26, 2019●1,393 Comments

A large part of what we do is for the sake of others and that peaks around 35. Retirement and infancy certainly don’t have the pressure to achieve.

BerrySmoothie●My Retreat, Auckland New Zealand

Jan 26, 2019●681 Comments

Adapted somewhat for this blog, but have never heard a dying man, on his death bed, wishing he'd spent more time at work or playing with his toys.

It's about time with family and loved ones at the end of the day.

A measure of success, to me, is not material wealth.

It's in his own success of being a better person.

I doubt you have anything to worry about Harb, you're a good bloke.....I like the way you operate....provoker and all.....

M4_Mischief●Belleville, Ontario Canada

Jan 26, 2019●6 Blogs●604 Comments

I don't see perfectionism as a good thing hard because then comes the other side when things don't turn out perfect....beating yourself up....I think doing the best you can in whatever circumstance is far better with no attachment to outcome...knowing you did the best you could is the achievement....

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Jan 26, 2019●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

It's just a pity, Chesney, that when we are infants we are too inexperienced to appreciate not having pressure, and by the time we retire, at least some of us, are too preoccupied lamenting our lost youth to enjoy its absence.

Nice to see you in the blogs, btw.

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Jan 26, 2019●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

Well I do strive to be better, Berry; better at provoking, that is.

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Jan 26, 2019●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

But I don't think I did do the best I could, M4.

BerrySmoothie●My Retreat, Auckland New Zealand

Jan 26, 2019●681 Comments

A pleasuring experience all round then.

Can't ask much more than that Harb....

M4_Mischief●Belleville, Ontario Canada

Jan 26, 2019●6 Blogs●604 Comments

ahhhhhhh then that just means there is room for improvement...I always told my kids do your best and that's all you can do and its true we can only do what we can do with what we have at that moment and that includes knowledge.....

daniela777●Mi Paraiso, Murcia Spain

Jan 26, 2019●2,126 Comments

Herbie...I think for an "underachiever" you're doing pretty well..
Considering that the purpose of education is to replace an empty mind with an open one!

Also...did they tell you what to think...or they taught you how to think ?

Maybe your next blog should be "define achievement or success"?

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Jan 26, 2019●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

They didn't really try to do much at all with my mind when I was at school, daniela. What you see before you is primarily a DIY job.

daniela777●Mi Paraiso, Murcia Spain

Jan 26, 2019●2,126 Comments

I could do with a DIY man.

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Jan 26, 2019●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

Well you wouldn't want to put anything breakable on the shelves I put up, daniela.

daniela777●Mi Paraiso, Murcia Spain

Jan 26, 2019●2,126 Comments

Never mind the shelves...we have a music project remember?

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Jan 27, 2019●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

Yes, how's the piano practice coming along, daniela?

daniela777●Mi Paraiso, Murcia Spain

Jan 27, 2019●2,126 Comments

Certainly better than the guitar which I've given up because of my fingers in the left hand.

As for the pan flute I'm still struggling with the blowing.

But..strangely enough...the piano is good for finger gymnastics.

Also...compared with how I learned over 40 years ago...now I can't be bothered reading music. I get on better playing by ear..when I'm inspired.
There are many good techniques on YouTube.

I've made really good progress within a week and I'm getting ready for my first concert.

So Herbie...you'd better get your music sorted so we can play in harmony

Elegsabiff●Motril-ish, Andalusia Spain

Jan 27, 2019●358 Blogs●9,358 Comments

Harbal, I'm sorry your blog went phoof but lots of people read it and lots of people agree and the mods are being fair-handed and active again which is WONDERFUL

And your opening comment on the poof blog just went to the top of the list of my favourite CS comments.

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Jan 27, 2019●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

3 blogs gone in as many minutes, it looks like an establishment crackdown, Biff.

mollybaby●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Jan 27, 2019●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

1to1to1●nbattleford, Saskatchewan Canada

Jan 27, 2019●11 Blogs●1,778 Comments

Hello Harbal

Interesting blog. I consider myself an under Achiever. Due too some health issues, I ve toned down my hopes and aspirations, and am glad . I ve learnt to appreciate so many of the little things in life I was too too busy to take time an notice. I might have given up a lot, but have gained so much more. And the main thing is I know I m a lot happier doing it,

mollybaby●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Jan 27, 2019●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

So maybe only post about the members of members in future so

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Jan 27, 2019●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

I totally agree, 1to1to1, achieving stuff is so overrated. Aimlessness is the new ambition.

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Jan 27, 2019●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

Yes, molly, but perhaps avoid the upstanding ones, at least in public.

mollybaby●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Jan 27, 2019●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

I am getting confused as to what to avoid and what not to

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Jan 27, 2019●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

I'm a firm believer in letting common sense by my guide, molly, and always try to have someone who possesses some on hand.

mollybaby●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Jan 27, 2019●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

That's as rare as hens' teeth.

MiMiArt●Omaha, Nebraska USA

Jan 28, 2019●38 Blogs●1,664 Comments

At school, I was every teacher’s nightmare!

I’ve come up with this formula. Your teacher can only remember you by these 2 things...these 2 things only..

1) You were the smartest student

2) You were the difficult one, always playing truant.

Well, MiMi was the latter

MiMi not only poor in studies, she distracted her classmates with her silly antics while the teachers were teaching!

smiley963●Johannesburg, Gauteng South Africa

Jan 29, 2019●14 Blogs●101 Comments

Harbal: I do not give complements easily, but in your case I always tend to make that exception:
You are a really lovely person, that is an asset everywhere!!!

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Jan 29, 2019●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

I was fond of silly antics at school too, MiMi. It couldn't have been such a bad thing; just look at how great we both turned out.

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Jan 29, 2019●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

Now you've just made my day, Smiley.

smiley963●Johannesburg, Gauteng South Africa

Jan 30, 2019●14 Blogs●101 Comments

Hi Harbie. How was your day?

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Jan 30, 2019●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

Hi, Smiley.

Just a dreary day at work, but now I'm having to rush for my child minding appointment. The fun never ends.

smiley963●Johannesburg, Gauteng South Africa

Jan 30, 2019●14 Blogs●101 Comments

Enjoy!!!

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