sweetkitten4

Brighton, East Sussex, England, UK

Aug 2011

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Patience.

You know if there's one thing I've learned in recent months it's to be patient. I'm not exactly known for my patience. In the past I've rushed into relationships purely out of loneliness and quite naturally they never worked because I went into those relationships for the wrong reasons. May be it's because I'm older and wiser or because of those experiences I've decided let's be patient and enjoy being single. Put myself in situations where I'll meet people, make new friends and when the time is right that special someone will come into my life. I will also trust my instincts more than I've done in the past. By not trusting my instincts in the past I've got myself into some unpleasant situations. By doing this I feel more content and a whole lot happier in myself. Life is good.

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virgosingle●greymouth, West Coast New Zealand

Aug 2, 2011●409 Blogs●8,106 Comments

yeah its a tough world we live in !! here have a hug on me

particolor●Inverell, New South Wales Australia

Aug 2, 2011●9,376 Comments

I'll go with that..cheer up,you sound a bit down to me ??

Sailfree●Heidelberg, Baden-Wuerttemberg Germany

Aug 2, 2011●122 Comments

Hi honey, well gut instincts do at times save you a lot of grief.
Take things easy and as they come. You just do not know when or where that special person will pop up. Patience with oneself is paramount. Why the hell not enjoy your time honey and do things you love to do. Lots of hugs to you today from Germany.

lana1234567●Nowheresville, Michigan USA

Aug 2, 2011●77 Blogs●663 Comments

sweet,
I've learned that same lesson....rushed relationships are not worth the trouble in the end . Not only do they end up not working but they are usually not healthy relationship which leave you feeling emptier than ever before. I have learned to cherish my friendship more so and I have learned to distinguish the real ones from the others.... and you know that you have many friends right here on CS

survivor1969●West Flanders, West Vlaanderen Belgium

Aug 2, 2011●4 Blogs●68 Comments

sweetkitten,

Somehow along the course of life, you learn about yourself and realize there should never be regrets of the choices you made. With your life experiences you will become strong and wiser to make decision. Patience is very important. It's best to wait for the one you want than settle for one that's available. Best to wait for the one you love than who is around. Best to wait for the right one because life is too short to waste on just someone.

Someday, the right one will come along.

baltus67●Kolkata, West Bengal India

Aug 2, 2011●7 Blogs●811 Comments

As long as pation issen`t confused with resignation, it might be a good thing... have a great day, Sweetk.

sweetkitten4OP●Brighton, East Sussex, England UK

Aug 2, 2011●92 Blogs●471 Comments

Thanks for your comments. Parti I'm not down just reflecting. Every now and then I do reflect on the past to see what I've learned and then I move on. I've found that some pretty positive things have happened because of me doing this. For a start if I hadn't done this I wouldn't have had the courage to approach that guy a few weeks back to ask if he was single and then ask if he'd like to go for a coffee. yes he turned me down but I can look back and think well at least I did something that I never thought I'd do and if I can do that I can do anything. I've recently got into the habit of going out in the evenings when I'm not working and just sitting in the pub with a book or a magazine. I generally go alone and I know most of the staff and regulars and I come away feeling totally relaxed. The book I'm reading at the moment is Many Lives Many Masters by Brian Weiss M.D. Now my son's more independent I'm getting out more and for me it's like walking into a whole new world. A bit like being a teenager with a lot more life experience. Something did make me smile yesterday though. Walking through the valley in the distance I could see a young couple moving apart like a pair of startled rabbits,the young girl adjusting her top. Then they got on their bikes and rode away. Somehow I don't think they expected to see me there at 9 am.

Hugs to all my friends on here.

sweetkitten4OP●Brighton, East Sussex, England UK

Aug 2, 2011●92 Blogs●471 Comments

Don't worry baltus I won't resign myself to anything. I'm a typical Aries---I never give up hope. As Survivor says throughout our lives we learn about ourselves.

coffeeminx●Cape Town, Western Cape South Africa

Aug 2, 2011●67 Blogs●1,242 Comments

@Kitten
A lovely reflection and something i do often, but it sounds to me like you're in a good place right now and I know that things will only get better for you from here on in

Have a beautiful day

particolor●Inverell, New South Wales Australia

Aug 2, 2011●9,376 Comments

Sweety...It sounds to me like neither one of them expected to get lucky at 9am either

sweetkitten4OP●Brighton, East Sussex, England UK

Aug 2, 2011●92 Blogs●471 Comments

Thank you coffeeminx. I am in a beautiful place right now. I've decided to make changes in my life, be more positive and work on my confidence. Yes it will take time but you know what by taking it one day at a time I'm already noticing how good I'm feeling because of these changes. The key to making changes in your life is to want the changes in the first place, do it for you and nobody else and to take it one day at a time. Also don't be put off if you have a bad day. Each day is a chance of a fresh start. This is something that I've learnt and it's getting easier each day. Have a good day yourself.

oceanfaith74●Bandar Seri Begawan, Brunei and Muara Brunei Darussalam

Aug 2, 2011●21 Blogs●83 Comments

@sweet....we hv same zodiac Aries! we are adventurous you know..
hv a great day sweet

sweetkitten4OP●Brighton, East Sussex, England UK

Aug 2, 2011●92 Blogs●471 Comments

What a coincidence Ocean. You know I saw a friend of mine tonight and told her that I was going to the pub on my own and she seemed rather surprised. She said how brave I was. Funny thing is a facebook friend said the exact same thing. For me the pub is somewhere where I can go and relax for a short while in the evenings when I'm not working. But then I suppose that's typical of us Aries, we like a bit of adventure.

blanad●dublin, Dublin Ireland

Aug 3, 2011●7 Blogs●5 Comments

I can gree with you

was in a relationship for over 2 years when he took a step back,have bin on my own since and only beginning to see the light now,Was the same as you did not trust my instincts and was left devastated as I loved him a lot.......and still do

.......but...I love myself a lot more now he wants to be friends,,,,and have met up a few times...but its too difficult for me as it leaves me very sad..soooooooodont think I will do it again

sweetkitten4OP●Brighton, East Sussex, England UK

Aug 4, 2011●92 Blogs●471 Comments

With the guy who we mutually agreed to end our relationship he said let's stay friends and keep in touch. Turned out to be just words and nothing more. He deleted me from his facebook friends list and after he had picked up the few clothes he had left here when we together has ignored me since. It doesn't bother me though as it enables me to move on. I'm still on friendly terms with the guy I asked to meet for a coffee. I'm enjoying being single at the moment. When the time is right I will meet that special someone. Meantime let's have fun and make new friends.

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