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When I am Honest with them, they dont seem to like it!
So I have learned (just like the song)
You cant Please Everyone, so You got to Please Yourself!
Honesty is why several of us are Single!
Smile, Its Free!
Why? Cos the most imp thing to ppl is to feel cared for by the other person.
I think we can handle loads as long as we feel secure the person in front of us love us to some extend.
To which extend? To the RIGHT extend in our mind!
(can't write a book here but that is the first chapter)
Virgo, why thay so slow most of them?
Do thay live to become 1100y old do u think?
Sometimes it is also necessary to keep quiet. I like the quote "If you have nothing good to say, I'd thank you to be quiet."
Having said that, while I do try to be tactful, I have reached a point where I would much rather be honest, without the frills.
For ex..
I would say a lie to a person, I care about, in order not to hurt her/his feelings, and thinking, that maybe by telling her/him the truth would not help at all...!!!
Or maybe I would tell her/him the truth... in order to protect her/him from "something"..
Nothing is absolut... everything is relative,
And It's dependable, of the "situation", of the "person"(character of the person), of the scope (why should we tell the truth or tell lies) , the "correct timing" (when we say the truth or the lie).etc.!!!
So concluding I believe, that the truth and lies are both useful..
You can be honest with someone without being brutal and ripping them to shreds.You can tell someone the truth while still being kind.
@Marina ---
Sometimes honesty, delivered immediately, is too abrupt for your audience. If your approach is perceived as cold and uncaring or judgmental, they may only hear "you're wrong and I'm right" and the result is conflict instead of education.
If you don't know the person well, perhaps steering them towards the better (and correct) answer is more useful than just giving them the truth, not knowing if they are ready to hear it.
The balance isn't easy... Nice blog, onme4u!
Next time you want to say a truth to some1 you care about try this:
.Make sure its a good time and they are in a good mood,
.use sincere humour and give them a wonderful compliment and
.then tell them that truth u need to say.
You must say it in a way that they will be 100% certain that your intention is not to hurt them. If its a harsh truth...let them react and dont say a word to defend yourself. Be a pillar. You just may see that they will come around very quickly. But there must be trust!