JEALOUSY AND ITS EFFECT IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS

I truly believe, our biggest obstacle to happiness is this monstrous feelings, specially when it is beyond control. Yet is there such thing as a positive jealousy?

One of the darkest sentiment ever given to us, humans, when it comes to love, is this feeling, JEALOUSY. At least to me quite parallel to HATE, AND EVEN ENVY. But in a love relationship between lovers, this seems to me the most elaborate reason why our love ends or die even as we declare, proclaim that our love will never die. It will last forever. It will weather all the dark storms we will have to face. Challenges we will confront will not prevail because we love each other so much. In fact, TILL DEATH DO US PART?(not really till jealousy kills our love?) Then one day. Bam! Someone was brave enough to give you the bad news that actually you are not the only one in his or her heart. How do we handle it? Is there a system quite established to follow? So we are not going to be a victim of this crippling, damaging feeling?


All through the years, my personal observation, at least to most of my friends, and those that are known to me, including but not limited to so many famous people is the feeling of jealousy that which eroded that beautiful, heavenly, pure love we once had.

Cheating, triggers, this emotion. Then it escalates to a very hurtful feeling. The problem is, when in the beginning when there is not yet enough and or sufficient evidence, as to the existence of insincerity, or disloyalty or cheating from whom we love, how do we address it? Will our preliminary steps, account to the success and or failure of our goal? Which is of course to either, re cement and or end our relationship. Taken into considerations are the time and effort we have been with him or her that we love. When do we walk away and when do we forgive. And if we do forgive, is there any sufficient success? Or is the passion diminished and dead?

If you stay, why? If you decide not to why?

Thanks all for your participation.

NOTE: IS THERE A CONNECTION BETWEEN OUR FEELINGS WITH OUR REASON? AND OR LOGIC? TO TEMPER AND GUIDE OUR REACTION AND EVENTUAL DECISION? QUESTION? RELIABILITY OF OUR FEELINGS? IS IT A MATTER FOR AND AGAINST THE HEART AND THEREFORE, WONT EVER USE REASON? FOR FORGIVENESS? REMEMBER THAT WE AREN'T PERFECT LIKE SPOCK..OR THERE WOULD BE NONE OF THESE TO BEGIN WITH?

Two of my best relationships ended because of this and I am still finding a way to abate and abridge if I can. Can we?