Intellectualism, Intelligence & Marriage
I did a previous blog entitled “The Intellectual and the Intelligent”.The first comment I received (from a prominent blogger) stated:
“I see you are not intelligent even if you are an intellectual”.
When I queried the basis of that assessment, I was told:
“My one teacher friend has a lot of intellectual ways of being, but she has no intelligence when it comes to capture a man as she nags about all the time...so I say you can be intellectual on many things in life, but you do not have to be intelligent at the same time...”
(My CS profile lists my marital status as Never Married)
I responded saying I agreed with the last part of the statement:
"...so I say you can be intellectual on many things in life, but you do not have to be intelligent at the same time..."
and continued:
"But does that mean my having been a teacher, like your friend, automatically make me not intelligent? Or is it also because I was never married, perhaps like your friend whom you say has no intelligence to capture a man? However, I do not think I am a nag(at least no one, so far, has told me that I am).
Oh well, poor unintelligent(or should I say dumb) me!"
Is there a relationship between being intelligent and getting married?
Any Comments?
Comments (23)
I consider myself intelligent enough to see that marriage was not for me...not one to be a follower...common sense maybe what your friend is talking about...many cannot participate in life because they are in their heads too much...just a thought!!...oh was that puny?...
Reminds me of something funny .
I was hit up by a guy once who was trying to impress me how " inteligent " he was , he mentioned it three times, in a note to me once , I had to tell him if he was so " inteligent" why is he spelling the word with one "l"....... I did not hear from him again.
I think that you are a very intelligent woman who knows what she wants and does not want, and I respect and admire you for that.
You do not appear to be interested in "capturing a man" which my blog commenter uses as a measure of intelligence.
Best Regards!
Thanks for your input.
I agree with you that it may not be a wise idea to get married in the situations you have mentioned.
However, the focus of my question:
"Is there a relationship between being intelligent and getting married?"
is on being intelligent and the actual act of getting married.
The question is being asked based on the blogger's comment that I have mentioned.
(The issue is not who one should marry, but on the act of getting married itself.)
Thank you for all the nice things you have said about me. I am not sure I can live up to them but thanks nevertheless.
I think your last comment stole the show.
Poor guy! I feel sorry for him.
He underestimated your intelligence.
In "About me" in my profile, I mentioned a possible factor, though not a reason, for my current marital status.
I am almost certain that blogger must have viewed this blog.
(see my previous blog “The Intellectual and the Intelligent” for more details)
I do not think there is any exclusive link between intelligence and getting married. However, there are several reasons why people get married. One of those reasons may be because one may find the other intelligent and love them for that. Then, you have the countless other reasons why people get married: personality, style, physical attributes, money....etc.
The bottom line, you do NOT have to be intelligent to get married. :)
My 2 cents.
Thanks for your comment.
I believe I have elaborated on the question quite clearly in my response to Nidifugous.
In what way is it loaded?
Remember, I am asking it based on a specific comment by a blogger which I have mentioned.
Thanks for your comment. I agree with your stated bottom line:
The bottom line, you do NOT have to be intelligent to get married. :)
I hope that the person whose comment prompted this blog would take note.
I am still hoping for a response comment from that person.
A simple common error which makes a statement subjective rather ran objective.
What would you know about women and their IQ?...and why would you make such broad statements?...you reek of chauvinism...JMO...
Thanks for the semantics exercise. Re:
"there is no such thing as an act of marriage",
My words are: "the actual act of getting married", not "an act of marriage". To become married, one must go through the action(act) of getting married. At least, that is how I see I and this is what I am referring to.
I will leave it up to you to view the previous blog:
“The Intellectual and the Intelligent”
to determine the answer to your question yourself.
"I don't think getting married has to do something with intelligence"
I support your statement fully.
I know of cases where very well-educated, successful and economically independent women deliberately chose to "marry down", that is, to men "less smarter" than themselves.
Thanks for your "woman's perspective" on ob's comment.
I certainly would like to know what others, especially women, think of ob's comment,
He does not hold the key to understanding women nor can he pretend like he is the more intelligent man...rare as he put it...women make their way in society...money and the pursuit of career leads women to marry later on or decide not to and have children later on in life...another factor...birth control...my how I think obs lives in a land that time forgot...