Why is it
when someone acts badly we assume instantly that's how they really are, and yet when someone acts in a nice way we assume it won't last?Went out for drinks the other night with a woman I've been getting friendly with at the office - NICE woman. A friendly guy offered to buy us a drink and she changed completely -
ow, go on then and hissed to me, when he went obediently to buy said drinks 'make an excuse and leave, okay?' Okayyy. See ya, wouldnae wanta be ya. Never realized what a tart she was. Huh.
Back to her bright funny interesting self the next day, but now I know. Right? Another colleague, another drinks night, suddenly laughing too loudly at stupid jokes, crude and boorish, what a moron.
Now we know what he really is, right? Then take a guy with a lifelong passion for practical jokes, suddenly being romantic. Oh well, THAT can't be real, am I right?
See, we instantly believe the first two are showing their true colours. Third one, we wait for it to pass, or for the joke to be revealed.
Was that your reaction to the examples as well? Why?
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badum TISH!
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Not surprised...I usually start to recognize their true colours after three meetings...similar to asking directions abroad...third time is the charm...lol...
The man of practical jokes could be irritating but not as bad as the other examples you posed...
Three is the magic number...
Second instance I think the person was perhaps trying to impress (and failing)
As for the practical joker, well, lets just say he has a romantic streak.
We all act differently in given circumstances, likewise, we all interpret the actions of people in different ways, this doesnt mean we see another side of a persons character or how these people may be if we ever got to know them well.
I think it helps to get to know someone over a period of time to make up my mind if it's someone I would want to have hanging around - or not.
Hope all is well with you Mrs Biff.
Hi KN, sorry I missed you!
Red, yeah, that was sort of the point. If normal behaviour changes to bad, it must be real. If normal behaviour changes to good, it must be fake.
Not that any of you will see this but hey. Take care