Why is it
when someone acts badly we assume instantly that's how they really are, and yet when someone acts in a nice way we assume it won't last?Went out for drinks the other night with a woman I've been getting friendly with at the office - NICE woman. A friendly guy offered to buy us a drink and she changed completely -
ow, go on then and hissed to me, when he went obediently to buy said drinks 'make an excuse and leave, okay?' Okayyy. See ya, wouldnae wanta be ya. Never realized what a tart she was. Huh.
Back to her bright funny interesting self the next day, but now I know. Right? Another colleague, another drinks night, suddenly laughing too loudly at stupid jokes, crude and boorish, what a moron.
Now we know what he really is, right? Then take a guy with a lifelong passion for practical jokes, suddenly being romantic. Oh well, THAT can't be real, am I right?
See, we instantly believe the first two are showing their true colours. Third one, we wait for it to pass, or for the joke to be revealed.
Was that your reaction to the examples as well? Why?
Comments (92)
Rolf
I think that we pick a night... well all get a drink and chat about nothing.
The way only women can do
First one sounds shallow....'you'll do until someone I think is better comes along". Not someone I’d socialise with again but would enjoy being around her in the office.
Second one maybe just can't hold his booze. I'd enjoy his office persona and avoid his drinking man persona.
Third one, the practical joker hides behind that persona to cover up his needy and/or shy persona. I might go out with this chap again if he COMPLETELY understood that romance wasn’t part of the evening....now or ever. But he'd only get one more opportunity.
Only trouble is I am also supposed to be in Portugal in April. 4 flights in one month? Yikes
Oh.
Hmmm.
I'm a closet romantic, LOVE romantic, but do not love practical jokes so I was very wary. Just found it odd that I made my mind up instantly when the first 2 changed familiar behaviour, but was totally bewildered by the 3rd. So I thought I'd ask the collective
The "nice" office friend? I dont know.
Your practical joker suddenly being romantic, easy, he was always a romantic but hid behind jokes, maybe didn't want to look soft in front of his mates.
No.2 . This type is a dime a dozen. Some people just don't react well to alcohol and shouldn't drink.
No. 3 . I actually find this one a bit endearing. Maybe the practical jokes were to cover up insecurities, and the true person is the romantic.
The first one did apologise the next day and said she's been eyeing him for months, but that she must have showed her hand a little too openly, he didn't hang round long. Well, I found her scary, he must have been terrified!
But yup, user alert. No more drinkies.
I'd never do that. Well, unless Jeff came over with offers of drinks ..
Nah. Not really. I hope.
If you had to describe yourself in only one word, what would it be?
(I can see a new blog idea here
One word? Hell. That's a challenge. Whacky?
Hey, I came up with the word for you. Maybe your blog should be summing up others in a word.
But then whacky would work for most ...
You're the blogger here.
As you've said, I don't fully understand blog culture
If not, the gauntlet is down. One word for me.
perspicacious
Now, back to Blog topic: Enemies.
Let's face it, we are all jealous
Oh dear. Where's a practical joker when you need one?