Settling, or growing up?
When you’re a kid, love is a fire bomb. It shakes the world. She was 16, a giggler with long blonde hair and the kind of figure that suddenly emerges from puppy fat and turns every boy in the area into a cartoon character. Boyooong!
When you marry it’s serious, grown-up, family-building love. Forever stuff. It burns like a steady fire, with occasional flares, but sometimes – the fire goes out. No-one’s fault but you both want flames.
The next time round, chances are she has kids already. The fire burns for the two joined families, but the kids get the seat nearest the fire. Sometimes you have to give up your seat to them.
Central heating looks good. No firebombs, open flames,upheavals, uncertainties, quarrels, there’s warmth instead of fire. You like being together, like each other’s friends, want the same things for the future.
Settling, yes, settling down. My fire-building days are over.
CS has an opinion on everything, but probably not on this.
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Maybe he has gone to gather more fire woods?
Why can't you have flames again?
Maybe when you actually shift to Malta, we won't be seeing you spending a lot of time on here, eh?
Watch out pal. Those bloody swimmers can land you in trouble pretty quick.
I find central heating to yes do the job, but without some definite focal point .
It would heat me, but I never look forward to it being on. It just does the job, end of.
A real fire makes me happy. It is never the same, it changes. Sometimes needing more fuel to burn even brighter.But never boring.
And I keep it in a stove so it will never burn me.
CS has an opinion on everything, but probably not on this."
When men are younger, they get to, and are even encouraged to, spread their wild oats freely.
Women on the other hand, are restricted by both their biology and society in doing this. They have to be more circumspect.
However, as women grow older, the biological impact (aka pregnancy) is taken out of the equation, children are reared, and caring what society thinks is also greatly reduced.
Therefore, some men are ready to do the 'settling' thing when they reach a certain age as they have done it all, but women are often just starting off their carefree lives, and are not.
They need to feel more alive. They need to live. They need that spark.
Errr....can I have some of what you were having for brekkie please??
It is a glorious day here, so I got up at 6.30.
I had a friend staying over so I had smoothies, as well as pancakes with strawberries and blueberries, made before she had even got up!
I feel my job is somewhat winding down....and i want to feel that excitement again...those butterflies....romance....kinda..before its too late....
I got parole and I stopped reporting to my parole officer a long time ago
Changing of criteria can up chances of success
Can I come over and stay with you?
We eat breakfast at 7am
You make the pancakes
AND
I eat 'em??
Then, I go back to sleep
And you walk the dogs
Your wish is my command
And I'll supply both the pancakes and wine