Single is selfish
I've been in long relationships and I've been single, and I prefer together. I'm not a fussy bloke. I'm tidy, I don't snore too loudly, I notice when she looks good and I couldn't be less bothered if she looks like the Bride of Dracula in the morning. I look a bit of a werewolf myself until the old razor has been wielded. Take me as you find me, and as long as we want roughly the same, we're good.Single is different. I get invited out to dinner with friends, I don't need to say 'I'll check with the government if we can make it.' I want to work late into the night, my choice. I want to climb a mountain, that's between me and my knees.
Distance relationships combine the two worlds. You have the phone calls, the emails, sending texts whenever you want to share something, but you are still living on your own. I made a long-term decision two days ago because the price was right, the place was right, and the chance too good to miss. It hasn't gone down too well with the government.
Made me wonder. Made any decisions lately, big or small, which pleased you, but might have been completely different if you had to take someone else into account?
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I usually get to make the smaller decisions. He prefers it that way. I guess so that he won't be blamed should things didn't go according to my way!
Do you make the right decisions?
TBH, I never had these points you were bringing up when I was with someone. Anyone of us had to work, it's work and that's it. We spend most of our free time together, but if he wanted to go away with the guys for a weekend or I wanted to go home to my family, it was just have fun and take care. We could trust each other and we took each other into account.
I have taken someone into account when I made big decisions. I might have made some different decisions if I was on my own, but I can't say for sure as it's in the past. All I do know if someone made a big decision that would have an impact on both of us without talking or taking me into account, there would be a good possibility that I would make a decision to be without that person.
Now I don't want out of the EU, because I do a lot of work abroad, and sometimes in Europe. That's back to me being selfish, but it could affect a lot of companies badly. Watching the debates will be interesting!
I think someone is either selfish or not, but being content when single, I made better decisions then when being upset and lonely.
Hope you are feeling better today.
I have to go out, back in a few hours. If anyone else could quote an example, especially where it turned out for the best, that would be very welcome.
It depends on what both people want from each other, I just know from past experiences that I didn't made good decisions when in a bad spot. So I don't try to.
There are some things like the health system that isn't as good in Ireland as in other European countries and I would hope that there will be an European system some day.
I actually agree with you that snap decisions usually work out. In fact everything, one way and another, works out in the long run. For sure I've made some decisions myself over time which have had family and friends bewildered, and phew I've been able to point back at them and say 'see? I was right?'
So far, anyway.
Um, the way I read it, Chrome was talking about the government as in the other person in his life. Soppy old romantic. Who wouldn't want to be called the government, eh?
Now I would rather approach the question as to how many people find their blessed existence better when they are alone or when they are with someone?
So hers is my two cents: I have been married twice, one for one year and the last one for 30 years, fathered my lovely three beautiful children (oldest was with my ex, of course) and did pretty good at the decision making. But of course, the obligation to let each other know where you are and what you want to do. No regrets. However, now that I have been single for the last 6 years, I do find my position very well sustained by my freedom and ability to do instantly anything I want to do. Travel and go anywhere that pleases me. Decide on what to eat for breakfast, what movie to watch or simply go anywhere I fancy.
I love my life right now that I will never change it. I can stay on the computer for hours or go to the gym for hours and no fuss about letting anyone know where I am. I find that selfish of course, because it is as it is, no need to let anyone know where you are. Would I want to be with someone and be married again? I am not closing that possibility but for right now, Dear God, I love where I am.
Chrome, I am not saying either is bad or good, just that whatever suits one's preference, is good. If not it is easy to change it, I guess.
Good day.
I'd like to think I've made the right decisions but he's easily pleased therefore it's all good
Anyways, was going to mail you but got called to help another friend. Anyways I can't write you unless in the friends. I had to research the information I wanted to share you.
Thanks GG.
Can't seem to find the falling on sword smilie
Either you lot don't read the question or you are all unnaturally self-controlled or you are fibbers.
Still, some interesting comments. Thanks for that.
It became no fun for me to be alone,and two to 3 yrs after he passed away I did try to find someone in real life but I gave up cause there was no other man good enough to fill his shoes so to speak.
So I've just remained on my own.
Short answer is, if big decision might potentially affect the significant other in your life, it should be discussed in advance of making it.
Being in an relationship means you do have to think of the other person's feelings and plans as well as your own.
If one doesn't want to do that, then they are better off single.
But, governments make mistakes too