Double standards with friends
No-one is perfect, we ALL have our flaws. I take a long time to reach the point where I consider someone a friend through thick and thin, whatever they do, there for them when they need a friend, defend them when they behave badly, but here’s the double standard – the day they bite ME on the bum, suddenly that’s unforgivable!How do you react when a friend lets you down in a way, major or minor, you’ve always defended when they did it to others? They haven't changed, after all. Still the flawed but likeable person they always were. You're just suddenly seeing it differently ...
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I got to comment first before you did on your own blog, Biff
It wasn't one major thing going, but succession of small things.
Just one of those was the breaking point.
So I cut them out of my life.
Friendship is too important to me to have bad friends
Anyway, I try to consider that first time maybe it's stupidity , ignorance second , but the third no longer tolerate and....
I see that nowadays people are more changeable than is the weather
Hypocrite! Bad Biff!
A couple of those from here, actually
Three types - the third picks their bite-in-bum moment really badly
Choose wisely is what I've learned so far!
But life's too short to waste time... People come and go
You have to put up with a certain amount. As you say, none of us is perfect.
But then you reach the point of no return.
Of course all situations are different, but no matter what's after, when a friend let you down (minor or majorway, is same size for me for this matter) you feel a biternes even you don't react with same or are not furious...
As I said before....nowadays people are more changeable than is the weather, you must get use with this, even it come from close friends of even family...
others who came along are/were experiences that won't even scratch my LEG
Florence, you too, I'm actually misting up
Scotty, don't be nice, it makes me mistier!
But obviously things are going to affect you more when they actually affect you directly.
But if the circumstances were, for example, you defended a friend's right to have an affair with a married man. I could see how it would affect you a lot if that friend then had an affair with your husband.
Seri, you're wiser than I then. I shall have to learn
just being perfectly honest here with you.
whoever is no more your friend than you are to him/her.
Defending a person that treats others badly isn't a sign of good friendship, I'd call it something else instead.
It was just a flippant remark.
You probably won't get it in August as you're running out of month. I was giving you hope for September.
I'm sorry now
Florence, wise words. What has ravelled can be unravelled (hmm, the spell check does NOT like my spelling there!)
Molly, that is an absolutely perfect example. Way more than the issue at hand, but spot on. You got the way with words, Irish!