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If you’re a man considering marriage, there are some statistics you should know before you go ring shopping.

Today, more than 50% of marriages in the U.S. end in divorce.

What many people don’t know is that women initiate approximately 70% of all divorces. Interesting, since men as a gender are the ones who are typically shamed for being commitment phobic and not willing to settle down.

An article on a marriage support website states that women primarily file for divorce because they feel “neglected.”

Author and researcher Deirdre Bair finds that women are generally the initiators of divorce worldwide, not just in the U.S.

In my opinion, the primary reason women initiate divorces in 70% of divorces cases is because most women stand to gain far more than they have to lose if they choose to divorce.

Even though women initiate approximately 70% of divorces, men are frequently ordered to pay their ex-wives legal costs. So, in addition to potentially losing their assets, their homes and their children, men are also expected to pay for the privilege of being emotionally and financially eviscerated by their ex-wives.

Not only do women initiate 70% of divorces, women are awarded primary custody in 82.6% of custody cases and this figure has remained largely unchanged since the 1994 U.S. Census.

Courts typically refuse to lower child support payments when a father’s income drops. The Bradley Amendment, which was passed in 1986, forbids any reduction in child support arrears, even if the father is disabled.

The amendment ensures that even if a man can prove he is the victim of paternity fraud, that he cannot be absolved from paying child support to a child that is not his biological offspring, which brings us to another disturbing statistic.

Approximately 30% of paternity tests submitted come back negative. That’s nearly one-third of challenged paternity cases proving the woman lied.

What about brave men who marry a second time? Men can have their new spouses’ income held against them and used to extort more child and spousal support to their ex-wives.

This is nothing more than a “backhanded way of tapping into a second spouse’s income” to pay for the ex who believes she shouldn’t have to work because she was once married to her ex once upon a time or wants to maintain that magical and totally unrealistic “marital standard of living.”

However, if the ex-wife remarries, her new spouse is under no legal obligation to financially support his stepchildren. The court’s rationale? Hey, they’re not his children and, therefore, not his responsibility. Yet, it is the new wife’s responsibility to give a portion of her salary to her husband’s ex-wife and children. Can someone please explain to the logic of this to me?

In many states, long after a divorce has been settled, ex-wives can come after their ex-husbands to shake down their retirement plans — even after they received a portion of the man’s retirement during the divorce settlement! This essentially allows some ex-wives to “double dip” into their exes’ retirement savings.

Here’s another statistic: Divorced and separated men are two and a half times more likely to commit suicide than married men. Divorce, however, doesn’t seem to lead more women to commit suicide. Separated and divorced male suicides outnumber their female counterparts by 4 to 1.

Marriage rates are on the decline in the U.S. and worldwide as many men are deciding to opt out of marriage due to the extremely unfair nature of divorce and custody “awards” and the extremely entitled attitudes of many women (MGTOW and the Herbivores) and I can’t say as I blame them.


The above is an abridged version, (due to space constraints), of an article by female consultant, Dr Tara J. Palmatier.

The full article can be viewed at:

I am a materialist girl... but my friend said only broke man and looser call girls who think about material and money as a materialist girl :)

what do you think....

Watching human behavior always become my interest since I was 15 years old.

Once I met a lady blogger who hold psychology degree and I found her very cool and unpredictable. I love her style in writing, so honest and easy to digest. Often, we discussed about the character of other bloggers in perspective of psychology side. From her I learn a lot. Unfortunately, because of my business, I was off for almost a year and so did her….

I believe there are many bloggers in CS who hold special expertise in certain thing, especially about life and daily life.
30 years (I am now 45, I was 42 when I joined CS) is still not enough time to understand people. Everyday I find new character new case on human behavior, especially the “abnormal” character. Watching people attitude and trying to understand why they do this or that, often I come to a conclusion which is not far from what those people admit about their characters.

Now that I join blogs in CS, I continue watching human behavior. But it is always my case that reading is not my strength, so I just read some blogs and comments that attracted me. I really sit and take all my time when I read their blogs and comments. I don’t comment if it is not necessary. The blogs that having the most comments are only 2 : either it is funny, interesting and well presented blogs and people love to participate in it or the blogs that full of unmeaning messages, mean that someone like to keep dropping comments in pieces (the blog’s owner that replying each comment one by one is not counted !!).

What motivated me to rise this blog is that…. I find, some bloggers has special mission to carry (not special mission of finding Mr Right or Mrs right). These blogger seems love to spread hate, putting oil on fire, attacking the writer for no reason and feel victory when the blogger owner starts getting tired with their attitude. My barely conclusion on this case is that they are having psychology problem in their personal life like disappointment in life or never reach their achievement, etc. But for sure, these people have so much energy that pushing their nerve.

In the other hand, I like to have these people. I am using their character to test my patient and wisdom, also to enrich my knowledge of human behavior. Not to mention, to know the reaction of other bloggers when these people start commenting one blog and I am impressed that many bloggers prefer to either just commenting on the topic or drop one short comment on these special behavior.

Finally, I present my most appreciation to this special group with special mission. Without you, the CS blogs would not be that colorful !!!

Keep it up !!!

Why I am supporting my president on death penalty to the drug dealer....?

Here is my view for those who is busy in criticizing my decision :

1. Indonesia is a rich country naturally. With 300 million population, it is good market for the drug dealer better than China and India even China or India has bigger population number.

2. Geographically, since Indonesia has more than 130.000 Islands, it is easier for the drug dealer to enter the country from many directions to smuggle the drug as Indonesia doesn’t have enough army and police to cover the entire country. While India and China are having 1 big main island and small island here and there.

3. We learn from the case of illegal fishing problem (Illegal fishermen from foreign countries who fishing illegally (steal our fist) in Indonesia sea territory) caused Indonesia lost USD 25 Billion every year. We have policy to bombing every single illegal ship that enter our ocean territory illegally and put the fishermen (most of them don’t even know that their ship is illegal) in jail. The purpose of it is to give the deterrent effect to other and to make them think 100x before they do stealing fishes in our ocean.

4. My personal experience when a smuggler hit the head of Amorthep using a big axe with cold blood (we were just 19 years old) and she could lost her life if we were late to find her. Thanks that the police arrested him. We met in the court and he did and beg mercy from the judge with poor face for not having long period of penalty and he got 3 years in jail. 3 years later he again did worse criminal and even killed the victim. The court sent him to death penalty as he killed planned with cold blood and cruel…

So, sad story about the dealer doesn't work for me. Every criminal will show their poor face to the world, especially the drug dealer. They spread the sympathy for not having death penalty but is there ANYBODY can guarantee that they would STOP the business? Can the government of their country of origin could guarantee that his citizens would never come back to sell drug in Indonesia? What kind of punishment they would give to the drug dealer if Indonesia agree to have extradition policy with them?

5. Putting them in jail (alive) is not stopping them in doing drug business EVEN from inside the jail. Silvester Obiekwe (foreigner), Fredy are 2 of those king of drug dealer who operate the drug distribution from inside the jail…. Not to mention how many people they kill in the operational of drug distribution. JAIL DOESN’T STOP THEM !!!

6. The fact that only with 5 gr of drug could kill one man, how many men would be killed when 1 dealer smuggling over 10 kgs and please have a look this article if you want to know how much drug they smuggle to Indonesia.

http://posmetroglobal.co.id/baca/inilah-usaha-sindikat-masukan-narkoba-ke-indonesia/

7. Death Penalty is necessary for Indonesia to give the deterrent effect to other foreigner as well as local drug dealers. As long as we keep this death penalty policy, we expect they erase Indonesia as their market.

8. Please see this picture and imagine if she is your daughter, sister, friend, good friend, niece, grand daughter, neighbor... will you say " please do not give death penalty to the people who has succeeded supplying drug to her...." ?



I hope my justification would make you understand why I am in my position with my president to keep the death penalty for drug dealer.

I am watching a history drama of a diligent Korean King. And as this king was the 3rd son of the former king. As in ancient Asia, mainly the position would be given to the eldest son from the wife, look, here ,also not from the son of the concubines. Position almost decided everything in ancient Asia. As Korea also adopted some tradition from China, that is Ru jia, which was thought to be founded by a Chinese scholar: Confusious.
So at the beginning,this king future to be, since he was the 3rd son only,even his teacher didn't want to teach him well. As you know, a capable brother of the eldest successor would be a big danger. So the total environment was not encouraging this 3rd son.Anyway, he grew up, with good education, and very well setup way and idea to do things. As he still showed good sign of capabilities, so that he was envied by the eldest brother. So this adult 3rd son left the capital and lived together with the poor people in a distant area.

Hi everyone

I would like to have your opinion...

Imagine you accepted someone to live with you in your house. let her/him sleep in your guest room, you feed her/him, let her/him become part of your family and society and in return she talks bad about you, criticize you, calling your daughter as a f*cking insane and acting simply she knows better than you -as the owner of the house and the family- how to manage your house hold !!

Will you let her… ??

As a small experiment of women’s uniqueness and the special bond between a mother and child, we met up with 6 wonderful women, and asked them to let us blindfold their most precious loved ones. Their children!

How we did it:
The children were guided towards the group of women, and using their senses and intuition asked to try to find the one they believed to be their mother. Anxiety, love and a bit of heartfelt tears filled the room as children from the age of 3-9 tried and succeed in finding the one and only they could call mum!

All women are unique in shape, personality and heart, and so is the beautiful connection and precious love we saw this day.

Celebrate the woman in your heart



Incredibly heartwarming and beautiful.......

Over the years a sister that has since past away met many people in her lifetime that she helped in various ways. One such man was this fellow from "Cabo" that was trying to gain a foothold in a handyman business he had started in Pasadena, CA.

The man from "Cabo" did several odd jobs for her and my sister also referred her to others that hired him too. Years passed and he did well and the purpose of his working here was to improve life for his family in "Cabo" surely succeeded.

My sister finally retired and she moved back to our hometown, Ordway, CO. I have mentioned this before but for clarity I will mention it again. My family had a group of about 5 siblings (there were 12 of us) that always had to bully the rest of us around. This sister and I were the main recipients of this absurdity.

My sister would take it and take it. I did when I was a child but as I grew up I got back in "their faces" and defended myself. I never interfered with the tongue lashings the other siblings gave this sister because her humility overshadowed the "tongue lasher's" stupidity.

As the years went by the man from "Cabo" moved to Florida. He respected my sister and I am sure that my sister invited him to visit if he was ever passing through. It was apparent that he did not know this sister had passed away. But in remembering the invitation to visit one day, recently, he passed through Ordway and he looked my sister up. He spoke to a nephew.

Well upon hearing of her passing away he asked the nephew for directions to the cemetery and he apparently visited her grave. When I heard this I was happy because if our siblings didn't think too much of her the man from "Cabo" certainly did. I was so happy when I heard this.

My thoughts about this meandered about this nice gesture and my sisters passing on. You see, I didn't go to the funeral. I couldn't go because all the brothers and sisters that used to rip her apart when she was alive attended the funeral. I didn't want to be present because I knew they would carry on with the trash talking.

I am certain of this: I knew my sister would understand my not attending and she would be happy once again to see "The Man from Cabo San Lucas" once again. Her face smiling and talking to "Cabo Man" in her sweet voice!

I just reported a fire on my four plus acres grass and it was windy and by time I was done it was close to my truck on my paved drive behind my home one of my canines was in the truck with me the other I hoped was inside as I started to call for it very glad as it came running out I left the doors open by time I drove to the front it was spreading fast as a first responder met me moments later and ten minutes later Mn DNR helicopter was in a field across the road from my rural property hooking up a bucket they use then 3-4 reg fire trucks and other trucks with trailers of personal atv's of all sorts and them a semi trailer with a hugebbull dozer oh their was a fire fighting air plane also but they let the helicopter do its job it wasn't needed the pine trees I thought were a goner mine almost Twp acres of and the floor 6inches of dried pine needles in the end it took a few hours only lost a few trees out of hundreds and my outhouse burnt to a crisp and my septic drain field damaged the property is mostly black from the fire and my pets are restricted to there huge fenced in run till the rains of spring wash the property sure would be a mess to have black paw prints everywhere .so thanks to four fire Dept's and all the responders it didn't end so

Abandoned Magpie Roams Free but Always Returns to Family that Rescued Her



It was a cold and windy day when Cameron Bloom’s son Noah spotted her, a 3-week old Magpie that had fallen out of her nest and been abandoned by her mother. “She barely had any feathers … and she was close to dying,” Bloom recalls.
The Sydney-based family took her to their local vet where they were told it was possible to raise the chick but that magpies required a lot of time and care and needed to be fed regularly and often.
The family of five (three boys) were up for the challenge and nursed the abandoned magpie back to health. They named her Penguin and they made her a nest in one of the trees in their backyard. She comes and goes as she pleases but she always seems to come back to the family that rescued her.
Bloom, who is a professional photographer, has been documenting the relationship between Penguin and his family on the wildly popular Instagram account @penguinthemagpie, which now boasts over 68,000 followers. Be sure to check out the incredible feed that already features nearly 100 beautiful portraits of Penguin and the Bloom family.

























HAPPY SUNDAY TO MY CS PEEPS WHEREVER YOU ARE!

I'm enjoying mine tremendously coz I'm having the whole house to myself until the kids come home tomorrow