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Three body parts, head, thorax and two compound eyes, antennae and a proboscis. Six legs and wings covered in scales. Not approached by other creatures due to its sour taste and is poisonous. Female moths produce scents called pheromones to attract males.

A fictive story, I am calling the man Jack. I must say, this could be in any other household a millions of times over:

Jack adored her, from the day he brought her into his home. She could do no wrong and if Jack was not pleased with something she did, she would give him such a sad face, without a word, Jack knew she was sorry, very sorry, so sorry. He had to love her.

Jack never expected her to do anything in the house, she never needed to clean, not even when she made a mess. She would not be expected to do the washing up or any other kind of household work. Jack would make sure she had good food, only the best for her, sometimes being cooked separately. Jack didn’t mind the extra work, she was worth it.

They would have intimate times together, like when he sat on the couch watching TV, she was quite large and took up most of the couch but she would put her head on his lap and he would offer her some nice snacks which she always appreciated.

At night she would warm his cold feet, during the daytime they would go for nice long walks, he usually suggested the way, but sometimes she wanted to go somewhere else, he would always give in to her suggestion, they never argued about anything, a perfect couple.

Many years later, she became ill and was suffering. Of course Jack brought her to see a doctor but it became obvious she would not recover.
And one day, Jack had to say a final good bye to his beloved.

Today, Jack sits on the sofa next to his wife, who was banned from sitting next to her husband for so long, as Jack darling would not let her get anywhere near them. His wife was the one that keeps the house clean, cooks, does the washing and speaks her mind which does not always please Jack, but then, he did marry her.

Is it better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all? It's like deciding between going on a thrilling adventure or staying in your cozy comfort zone.

When you've experienced love and then faced its loss, it can feel like getting caught in a sudden rainstorm without an umbrella. The emotions can be overwhelming, like a torrential downpour soaking you to the bone. It can leave you feeling heartbroken and questioning whether it was worth the risk.

But here's another perspective: love is like embarking on a breathtaking journey. It's like setting off on a hike up a challenging mountain, where the climb is arduous, but the views from the top are awe-inspiring. When you've loved, you've likely experienced moments of immense joy, connection, and personal growth that are like glimpses of paradise along the way.

Even when it ends in heartbreak, the lessons learned and the memories made become part of your life story. It's like collecting unique souvenirs from different destinations that shape who you are. Each relationship leaves an imprint on your heart, teaching you valuable lessons about yourself, relationships, and what you truly desire.

On the other hand, there's the alternative—never having loved at all. It's like staying indoors, cozy and dry, while others venture out into the unpredictable beauty of the world. You might avoid the pain of heartbreak, but you also miss out on the exhilarating experiences, deep connections, and personal growth that love can bring.

So, is it better to have loved and lost? Well, that's for you to decide. Some may argue that the joy and growth they experienced outweigh the pain of loss. Others may prefer the comfort of a safe and predictable life.

Ultimately, it's a personal choice, and there's no one-size-fits-all answer. Love is a risk, but it's also a source of profound fulfillment and richness in life. Just remember, whether you've loved and lost or chosen a different path, what truly matters is finding happiness and living a life that feels authentic to you.

Cheers

Emm, unrequited love, the bittersweet symphony of the heart. Let's dive into this tender topic and find some clarity amidst the emotional rollercoaster, shall we?

1). Assess your heart's budget. Loving someone who doesn't reciprocate can feel like investing all your emotions in a one-way street. Take a moment to evaluate how much love you have to give and whether it's worth spending it on someone who can't offer the same in return. Remember, emotional investments should bring joy and fulfillment, not leave you bankrupt.

2). Remember, you're a precious limited edition. Consider your own self-worth and value. Loving yourself should always be a priority. If someone doesn't appreciate the amazing person you are, it might be time to redirect that love towards someone who will treasure it as fiercely as you do.

3) Don't be a dog chasing its own tail. Pursuing someone who doesn't love you back can feel like running in circles without ever reaching the finish line. It's important to assess if this pursuit is preventing you from finding the happiness you deserve. Sometimes, letting go is the best way to create space for someone who will love you wholeheartedly.

4). Keep your heart open to new adventures. While it may seem daunting, being open to new connections and opportunities can lead you to unexpected paths of love and happiness. You never know what amazing person might be just around the corner, ready to appreciate and reciprocate the love you have to offer.

5). Prioritize your own happiness. Ultimately, you deserve to be with someone who loves and cherishes you in return. Focus on activities and relationships that bring you joy and fulfillment. Surround yourself with friends and loved ones who uplift and support you. Happiness starts from within, and when you radiate that happiness, you attract the right kind of love into your life.

Love should be a two-way street, with both parties investing their hearts and souls. While unrequited love can be painful, it's important to weigh the emotional cost and prioritize your own happiness. Keep your heart open, value yourself, and trust that the right person will come along to reciprocate your love and make it all worthwhile.

Cheers

Name that tune started as a TV game show in the 1950's where contestants competed to correctly identify songs. It had gone through changes over the years, but the main part of the game had contestants stating the lowest number of notes to be played for them to identify the song. The host would then say "Name that tune."

In my travels this morning, I came to an exit on the highway where street beggars would usually stand on the corner holding signs usually stating they are homeless, some actually saying they were willing to work for food. Today, it was somewhat different. Technically, he was a beggar, but he came with a guitar and portable amplifier.

The thought came across my mind...is he a beggar or a street musician busking?
He was mumbling and I couldn't guess what song he was playing, but I considered his status as a busker and not a beggar.
I reached into my pocket and pulled out a $5 bill, folded it and when the light changed to green, I was able to roll the window down, move up, and handed it to the guy.

Five bucks is enough for breakfast at McDonalds.

What's the best method of treating convicted murderers? Should they be given life in prison, or sent away to a penal colony for hard labor, or maybe a life sentence in traditional prison. Maybe it depends on the particular case in question. If the circumstances were unclear as to the intention, but a life was taken and found guilty, perhaps prison only. Murder of a child, perhaps death penalty. Murder of anyone, which sentence and does it matter? Or maybe the death sentence should never be used as the taking of life as a punishment is behaving like the criminal.
Which punishment would make the best deterrent to crime?
What form of death should be used? Hanging, electrocution, drugs?
What about sending person to a penal colony away from normal civilisation?
Can you ever be sure of the guilty verdict?

Trolling through the blogs today for use of a better word i found nothing new or of interest so I decided to post this blog of useful and or useless information.

Feel free to add your own bits as I intend to update this blog on a regular basis.


"In certain circumstances, a hedgehog may froth at the mouth, twist its head backwards over its shoulder and throw a vile-smelling foamy saliva onto its back. This behaviour is known as self-anointing."

Isn't it strange how a collection of CS members have joined in a 'clique of maturity' going around making negative comments about other members they dislike.
The beginning... A text message from a friend told me about Connecting Singles and invited me to join. The site we were on had closed.
I was greeted with comments of "We don't want your ilk around here" in reference to the site that closed.
How strange.. What ilk? I'm a newbie to an unfriendly site.
Why? You don't know me, how did I instantly qualify to be ilk?
I'm thinking, where did the few hundred of the other members go?

Greeted by:
Agentbob, Willy, dong, UnFayzed, JimNastics, bluewind37, texasgirl8585, korn, xquseme and a handful more who's names I cannot recall.

They were here weeks, possibly months before I arrived!

Got it... the 'ilk' title came from their appearance that changed the happy blogland that one was prior to them joining.

Going to other blogs and openly making negative comments to them or about other members you dislike is pretty low. Maybe gossip is important in your lives.

If you repeat a lie about someone enough, others will tend to believe you.

The quote "On the fleas on the back of rats" wasn't mine. It was said by another member and directed at me.

Some people claim that they are willing to sell their soul because... they say, 'I don't believe there is anything after death, and I don't believe in the existence of a soul because it has not been scientifically proven. Besides, I believe in what I can see, touch, and feel.' That concludes their statement.

On one hand, I understand their perspective because it is known that the human body is in control most of the time, while the soul is in a state of slumber or dormancy for the most part. Therefore, we feel drawn to the present moment, and although some claim to believe in God, the soul, and an afterlife, if you know how to challenge them, you can shake their faith and make them question how much they truly believe.

And this is the weak point of humans, upon which the devil relies and grasps first. Sometimes I wonder if it is indeed true. Can the existence of the soul not be proven? Can we not feel, touch, or see a soul? Because if we were to look at things from a broader perspective, if we were to imagine for a moment that we could pose these questions about the soul... if we could treat them as objects placed on a chair and step back a bit to observe the bigger picture, as they say, or the overall picture, as we shall call it for non-English speakers... wouldn't we be able to reach the following conclusions?

We can touch the soul if we know how to do it.
We can see the soul if we know how to do it.
We can feel the soul if we know how to do it.

But for all of this, like in any mystery, the initial questions will bring forth more questions, and to obtain answers, we will need to answer a multitude of questions. But even for that, we will need to ask the right questions. Because you cannot obtain a correct answer by asking the wrong questions. So, what questions should we ask, some of you may wonder... well, here they are:

What is the soul?
How does it look?
What is it made of?
Why can't we see it (or can we?!)
Why can't we touch it (or can we?!)

And now, let's see what we can do with the answers, right?

The soul is that spiritual part that most living beings have, whether they are animals, birds, or humans. (I will not comment further, as I know many will have other questions, but humans always have questions...)

The soul has the same shape as the body that carries it, only in a spiritual form.

The soul, as mentioned above, is a spiritual matter that exists in a different, yet undiscovered, form and frequency by humans, which is why its existence cannot be proven.

We cannot see it because... and here there are several reasons:
Firstly, although the human eye has the ability to see souls, the human brain has not been trained to do so.
Secondly, humans are not allowed by God (the one in whom many no longer believe but who is as real as you, me, and anyone else).
Thirdly, we could see the soul if we attempted to do so in a spiritual manner rather than a physical one (for this, observe a terminally ill person before their last moments, observe their reactions, and you will see the soul leaving them, not with your eyes but with your own soul, with the eyes of your mind, as some would say).

We can touch a soul, but again, not in the way we expect... physically, but spiritually. Look for a person when they are at their lowest point in life, speak to them from the soul (the one you believe neither you nor they have), help them cheer up, help them overcome, and you will see that although they had a sad face before, at the end of the conversation, their face will be brighter, and their eyes, which initially seemed dark, will now emit a ray of light in the darkness... that is proof that you have touched a soul, not with your body as many expect, but with your soul. Therefore, we want to know these things, but we ask the wrong questions. On the other hand, we may rely too much on the material world and too little on the spiritual one, yet we still expect answers regarding the spiritual world. The problem is that you cannot:

Ask the wrong questions and expect correct answers.

Solve spiritual problems based on solutions and laws from the material world.

I am sure that many will continue to have questions and arguments of all kinds, but I have said it in the past, and I will say it again: those who do not wish to believe will not believe, regardless of the arguments presented to them. However, those who desire to believe will search and find the necessary arguments and reasons to believe.

In conclusion, I would like to advise you to keep your soul intact and pure because that is the true 'self' within each and every one of us. The soul will continue to live even when the body can no longer do so. And if you abandon it now, or its goodness... you are giving up on yourself and the goodness that resides within you.

Thank you for your attention and time, and may you have a beautiful life."