Who is dating who here in CS? ( Archived) (948)

but Morgan we are all pleased for genuine folk who have met or

will meet thier love.

However this list business has caused upset for a few.

We are all talking on CS ,that is good

But dating

I began dating "Rhianeleri" after a couple of exchanged messages here on CS. Though we originally made contact through plentyoffish.
I'm delighted to say she is now my fiance

I just don't like lists here of any sort. Never have, never will. Not when it comes to listings about people here. I've been on some and have been left off of many, and I don't really care for it in either case. As I've witnessed over my time here, no good is ever served. Someone feels left out and pops into the thread with a "what about me?" sort of plea, invariably followed by that person's name being added next to the current list. I haven't read through all of this, so I am not referencing ANYONE if, during the course of this thread, someone had a "what about me?" entry. I didn't see it, ok? And early on in this one, I echoed another post by saying that I, too, was dating "Account deleted" because at that time it was still seemingly innocent. Maybe I'm in the minority here, and I know the initial posting was light-hearted and meant nobody any harm. But they always go afoul or someone always feels neglected. It just isn't worth it in the end.
Just my opinion, of course.

And this is exactly what I am talking about....I don't like this, I don't like that ...blah blah blah! If you don't like a particular thread subject...don't get into it?


I am outta here....I will come back after next week and send messages to my friends to tell them about the face to face, but I don't think I will come back to the forums, too much negativity.

Hi, Morgan.
Yeah, I know...."hottest woman on CS"..."hottest man", etc. I took some heat awhile back for asking to be excluded from a poll or voting process for something I found to be rather ludicrous. I didn't choose to be in the list and I wasn't interested in watching how the numbers stacked up for or against me. Some thought I was rude, I think, but I respectfully asked to be removed and I would do so again.

It really wasn't so negative, Spicey. It was an expression of opinion, such as you have done. I'm not angry, upset, hostile, annoyed, bothered, or anything of the kind. Just expressed an opinion. This is unacceptable??

I'm totally with Jlleb (sorry can't remember your name) that lists that include vs exclude people are rude. I sometimes venture to Twitter but started to get REALLY annoyed with the mentality of hoarding followers and having a #followfriday where you suggest cool people to follow. I was never mentioned... finally I barked loud and clear and deleted anyone who was doing this. Funny thing, one lady who was supposedly spiritual said she did it OUT OF LOVE! For Christ's sake... I'm sorry but what is the world coming to? I've been around Americans a lot and everything has to be so uppety, loveydovey and sugarcoated all the time, so maybe what some people are feeling is simply what the Americans perceive as European negativity while in actual fact a lot of it is irony. I'm not making this up; I think there's a real problem there. We really seem to have a very different way of communicating and socializing, so when Americans and Europeans are put in the same pot... well in my experience the outcome is not always so peaceful. Not saying there isn't real negativity on forums as well and I certainly had my fair share of bashing when I came, still it's also a question of respecting other people and not bringing them down by playing games that are maybe better suited to high schools (if even there - luckily none of that in mine). So sure I was a bit flattered at first to be ON A LIST FOR ONCE and tried to take it as a fun thing but on second thought I didn't think it was fair and it can actually do serious damage.

Oh and I forgot to mention that I don't get Spicey's quote at all??? How could this thread HELP anyone get together????

Thanks, yes your statement is well put too!