How do you build trust ? (50)
galradsDublin, Ohio USA2,264 Threads 279 Polls 36,283 PostsI think validating others is a good start 
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galrads: I think validating others is a good start
Validating people in my eyes means walking in their shoes ,so I fail to see what trust has to do with this.I take time before I truly trust another person nowadays. I've helped people financially and been let down. It isn't about the money either Galrads, it's the fact that there is no respect or acknowledgement toward the helping hand offered.
There is a very old saying "Never bite the hand that feeds you" which is apt in some cases.
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germanspitz: Validating people in my eyes means walking in their shoes ,so I fail to see what trust has to do with it
Yes..so do I ? 
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Trust is built over time by starting off with small things such as:
sharing little secrets, lending small amounts of money,
asking for help without expecting anything in return,
Someone you can rely on
Etc..
If they let you down then trust is lost!
IMO
sharing little secrets, lending small amounts of money,
asking for help without expecting anything in return,
Someone you can rely on
Etc..
If they let you down then trust is lost!
IMO
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Trust is earned over time. You have to give some trust at the start of any new friendship but real trust takes time.
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Track16: Trust is earned over time. You have to give some trust at the start of any new friendship but real trust takes time.
Very true! 
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galrads: I think validating others is a good start
I stamped you're passport last night, so you're good to go..
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galrads: I think validating others is a good start
I don't understand what you mean Gal... I think validating oneself would be a good start … If I feel and know I can trust myself then I'm more likely to recognise people who can be trusted …
Unless I have a gut feeling about someone, or I think they behave in ways to raise red flags, I usually trust people unless they give me a reason not to during our interaction …
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Confessing your sin with a bottle of gin. You don't care what anyone thinks; very very nearly, nearly nearly almost, a disgrace.
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Trust takes time but feeling like you've know someone all your life can be done in an evening. Particularly when frequenting lots of venues and it feels like you've been through so much together.
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Through actions moreso than words, and consistency.
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Depends on what kind of trust you mean. The common view of trust could be described as relying on someone for a further action. The dictionary definition is, "having a confident dependence on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something." It's something we assess from past experience and project into the future but it's open to appraisal and subject to change.
It's totally necessary in society, personal relationships and many of our day to day interactions.
I've heard it described as 'transactional trust', you do this for me and I'll do this for you. Within relationships this trust could build over a period of time but could end in an instant. Transactional trust is an emotional response to what you've experienced in the past and is subject to change by future experience....it's fundamentally fragile.
Another form of trust could be termed, 'Innate trust' which is built on more solid foundations.
Its when you have the intention to act according to your values even in difficult or confusing situations, you trust your life will unfold in the most harmonious manner possible....below is a short extract about Innate trust by Phillip Moffitt...
"Implicit in innate trust is the understanding that external conditions are in the end not a reliable source of happiness or meaning because they are always changing. You don't get what you want, or you get it and then it goes away or you no longer want it, or else something happens to you and you can no longer enjoy it. Innate trusts accepts the hard facts of life that things are always changing in this manner, the future is uncertain, and wants and fears are endless."
Then there is always what you might call, 'demand trust'. It goes something like, I'll trust you to do as I'm asking. Its trying to force what can only be freely given. Ironically, it icould be called, distrust disguised as trust. Beware of that one...
It's totally necessary in society, personal relationships and many of our day to day interactions.
I've heard it described as 'transactional trust', you do this for me and I'll do this for you. Within relationships this trust could build over a period of time but could end in an instant. Transactional trust is an emotional response to what you've experienced in the past and is subject to change by future experience....it's fundamentally fragile.
Another form of trust could be termed, 'Innate trust' which is built on more solid foundations.
Its when you have the intention to act according to your values even in difficult or confusing situations, you trust your life will unfold in the most harmonious manner possible....below is a short extract about Innate trust by Phillip Moffitt...
"Implicit in innate trust is the understanding that external conditions are in the end not a reliable source of happiness or meaning because they are always changing. You don't get what you want, or you get it and then it goes away or you no longer want it, or else something happens to you and you can no longer enjoy it. Innate trusts accepts the hard facts of life that things are always changing in this manner, the future is uncertain, and wants and fears are endless."
Then there is always what you might call, 'demand trust'. It goes something like, I'll trust you to do as I'm asking. Its trying to force what can only be freely given. Ironically, it icould be called, distrust disguised as trust. Beware of that one...
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germanspitz: Validating people in my eyes means walking in their shoes ,so I fail to see what trust has to do with this.
I take time before I truly trust another person nowadays. I've helped people financially and been let down. It isn't about the money either Galrads, it's the fact that there is no respect or acknowledgement toward the helping hand offered.
There is a very old saying "Never bite the hand that feeds you" which is apt in some cases.
I get the life experience that rain on trust issues. I take time before I truly trust another person nowadays. I've helped people financially and been let down. It isn't about the money either Galrads, it's the fact that there is no respect or acknowledgement toward the helping hand offered.
There is a very old saying "Never bite the hand that feeds you" which is apt in some cases.
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ChesneyChrist: Confessing your sin with a bottle of gin. You don't care what anyone thinks; very very nearly, nearly nearly almost, a disgrace.
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TheDino1: I stamped you're passport last night, so you're good to go..
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Having integrity
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Selenite: I don't understand what you mean Gal...
I think validating oneself would be a good start … If I feel and know I can trust myself then I'm more likely to recognise people who can be trusted …
Unless I have a gut feeling about someone, or I think they behave in ways to raise red flags, I usually trust people unless they give me a reason not to during our interaction …
Well, don’t we all try developing different levels and kinds of trust with others on professional and personnel different levels? A dentist wants patients to trust his abilities differing from a pilot flying you on a private flight. We want our more intimate relationships to trust us in a different way to. By validating I mean being thoughtful and listening to opinions and I think validating oneself would be a good start … If I feel and know I can trust myself then I'm more likely to recognise people who can be trusted …
Unless I have a gut feeling about someone, or I think they behave in ways to raise red flags, I usually trust people unless they give me a reason not to during our interaction …
Selenite: I don't understand what you mean Gal...
I think validating oneself would be a good start … If I feel and know I can trust myself then I'm more likely to recognise people who can be trusted …
Unless I have a gut feeling about someone, or I think they behave in ways to raise red flags, I usually trust people unless they give me a reason not to during our interaction …
Well, don’t we all try developing different levels and kinds of trust with others on professional and personnel different levels? A dentist wants patients to trust his abilities differing from a pilot flying you on a private flight. We want our more intimate relationships to trust us in a different way to. By validating I mean being thoughtful and listening to opinions and maybe disagreeing with someone without shutting them down. Diplomacy has never been a strength of mine which has been a problem developing trust with some people. I’ll shut up now. I think validating oneself would be a good start … If I feel and know I can trust myself then I'm more likely to recognise people who can be trusted …
Unless I have a gut feeling about someone, or I think they behave in ways to raise red flags, I usually trust people unless they give me a reason not to during our interaction …
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galrads: Well, don’t we all try developing different levels and kinds of trust with others on professional and personnel different levels? A dentist wants patients to trust his abilities differing from a pilot flying you on a private flight. We want our more intimate relationships to trust us in a different way to. By validating I mean being thoughtful and listening to opinions and
Well, don’t we all try developing different levels and kinds of trust with others on professional and personnel different levels? A dentist wants patients to trust his abilities differing from a pilot flying you on a private flight. We want our more intimate relationships to trust us in a different way to. By validating I mean being thoughtful and listening to opinions and maybe disagreeing with someone without shutting them down. Diplomacy has never been a strength of mine which has been a problem developing trust with some people. I’ll shut up now.
How did that double take happen? Well, don’t we all try developing different levels and kinds of trust with others on professional and personnel different levels? A dentist wants patients to trust his abilities differing from a pilot flying you on a private flight. We want our more intimate relationships to trust us in a different way to. By validating I mean being thoughtful and listening to opinions and maybe disagreeing with someone without shutting them down. Diplomacy has never been a strength of mine which has been a problem developing trust with some people. I’ll shut up now.
Oh well, written communications has never been easy for me to use and develop trust with others.
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KNenagh: Having integrity
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Don't lie. Walk the walk. Back up words with deeds. Follow through on your promises. It ain't rocket science.
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