What should I do as my feelings haven't changed? ( Archived) (27)

Sep 18, 2012 6:46 AM CSTWhat should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
Solamente
SolamenteSolamenteAdeje, Tenerife, Canary Islands, Spain28 Threads 21 Polls 215 Posts

What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?(Vote Below)

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Wait and see if she writes, then reply
9
32%
Write a groveling mail of excuses
0
0%
Write a heartfelt mail reiterating my feelings
2
7%
Send a text .... (tell me what I should say)
2
7%
send a text to say "suit yourself!"
5
18%
Write a critical mail telling her to get a grip
2
7%
Other ... please explain.
8
29%
Total Votes
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received this in one of the woman mail's
"If you get time please write to me as I love to hear from you even if I haven't written to you"

So for the last three days have been doing just that, then after sending today's mail, received this text.....

“Hi yor e-mails have changed beyond all recognition over the last week, in there tone, love and warmth. I feel confused and hurt and u obviously feel different 2 so don’t feel it necessary 2 send more. See ya x”
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Sep 18, 2012 7:12 AM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
serena123
serena123serena123durban, KwaZulu-Natal South Africa44 Threads 2 Polls 2,821 Posts
She fell in love, got hurt and broke up in 3 days! The woman is a wacked!! My advice... Run! :)
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Sep 18, 2012 7:21 AM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
newinsouth
newinsouthnewinsouthAiken, South Carolina USA26 Threads 2 Polls 1,039 Posts
She's not literate and wacked besides. You're probably one of many to which she sent the canned first message. professor sigh
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Sep 18, 2012 8:02 AM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
Maybe she is contacting too many men and lost treack of who you are...sent the email to the wrong man.
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Sep 18, 2012 8:26 AM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
vodla3
vodla3vodla3Rockhampton, Queensland Australia282 Posts
Solamente: received this in one of the woman mail's
"If you get time please write to me as I love to hear from you even if I haven't written to you"

So for the last three days have been doing just that, then after sending today's mail, received this text.....

“Hi yor e-mails have changed beyond all recognition over the last week, in there tone, love and warmth. I feel confused and hurt and u obviously feel different 2 so don’t feel it necessary 2 send more. See ya x”


Well it appear that both of u'r confused n perhaps stupid.

Just for u : U have to wake-up, n then u be able to make rational decisions !
comfort
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Sep 18, 2012 8:36 AM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
Scubadiva
ScubadivaScubadivaNew Jersey, USA106 Threads 11 Polls 2,689 Posts
Solamente: received this in one of the woman mail's
"If you get time please write to me as I love to hear from you even if I haven't written to you"

So for the last three days have been doing just that, then after sending today's mail, received this text.....

“Hi yor e-mails have changed beyond all recognition over the last week, in there tone, love and warmth. I feel confused and hurt and u obviously feel different 2 so don’t feel it necessary 2 send more. See ya x”
Solamente: received this in one of the woman mail's
"If you get time please write to me as I love to hear from you even if I haven't written to you"

So for the last three days have been doing just that, then after sending today's mail, received this text.....

“Hi yor e-mails have changed beyond all recognition over the last week, in there tone, love and warmth. I feel confused and hurt and u obviously feel different 2 so don’t feel it necessary 2 send more. See ya x”


With all due respect, but have you lost your mind? She says write to me even if I don't write back and you actually write to her???
If she doesn't find the time to send you a txt or a short mail or a short phonecall... guess what: She is not into you.

Cut it off immediately and don't make more of a fool of yourself than you already have. What she wrote back to you smacks of an uneducated person... but I guess she is great looking doh
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Sep 18, 2012 9:42 AM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
22W00
22W0022W00Antibes, Provence-Alpes-Cote d'Azur France1 Threads 313 Posts
Solamente: received this in one of the woman mail's
"If you get time please write to me as I love to hear from you even if I haven't written to you"

So for the last three days have been doing just that, then after sending today's mail, received this text.....

“Hi yor e-mails have changed beyond all recognition over the last week, in there tone, love and warmth. I feel confused and hurt and u obviously feel different 2 so don’t feel it necessary 2 send more. See ya x”


I voted other - Don't waste your time and effort even bothering to respond.

Someone who is "confused and hurt" does not end a message "see ya"
This woman, who can't be bothered to write to you, is either confusing you with someone else, or is not right in the head - either way, you deserve better...look elsewhere
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Sep 18, 2012 10:01 AM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
Boban1
Boban1Boban1bigplace, Central Serbia Serbia144 Threads 5 Polls 18,789 Posts
Solamente: received this in one of the woman mail's
"If you get time please write to me as I love to hear from you even if I haven't written to you"

So for the last three days have been doing just that, then after sending today's mail, received this text.....

“Hi yor e-mails have changed beyond all recognition over the last week, in there tone, love and warmth. I feel confused and hurt and u obviously feel different 2 so don’t feel it necessary 2 send more. See ya x”


Women... ay...grin
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Sep 18, 2012 10:55 AM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
pisceslady7online today!
pisceslady7online today!pisceslady7Kincumber nr. Gosford, New South Wales Australia21 Threads 4 Polls 1,910 Posts
I am stunned you have to ask. If you respect yourself.....do not have any further contact, BLOCK her and forget her.
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Sep 18, 2012 1:09 PM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
Wildflowerbabe
WildflowerbabeWildflowerbabeSanta Cruz, Canary Islands Spain12 Posts
Solamente: received this in one of the woman mail's
"If you get time please write to me as I love to hear from you even if I haven't written to you"

So for the last three days have been doing just that, then after sending today's mail, received this text.....

“Hi yor e-mails have changed beyond all recognition over the last week, in there tone, love and warmth. I feel confused and hurt and u obviously feel different 2 so don’t feel it necessary 2 send more. See ya x”


I honestly think you have missed the point as to what she wanted you to write to her. You can write every day but if you don't end the message with some loving then the whole thing just doesn't work for her. See ya was not the right ending to any message to a woman - it can be taken as a flippant goodbye and not the friendly way you obviously meant it. Having said that I would ignore the text message for the moment and send another message to her but make it a more personal one in which you focus more on memories of your time together, how much you are looking forward to seeing her and use all that charm to make her feel good again. You obviously have deep feelings for her or you would not have written as she asked so don't give up instead try to mend the bridge between you both. I am sure it was a knee jerk reaction on her part to your "see ya" and she is just a little hurt right now.
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Sep 18, 2012 1:24 PM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
Solamente: received this in one of the woman mail's
"If you get time please write to me as I love to hear from you even if I haven't written to you"

So for the last three days have been doing just that, then after sending today's mail, received this text.....

“Hi yor e-mails have changed beyond all recognition over the last week, in there tone, love and warmth. I feel confused and hurt and u obviously feel different 2 so don’t feel it necessary 2 send more. See ya x”
tell me more. I don't have enough info to make a salient comment.
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Sep 18, 2012 1:45 PM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
crazyblondeone
crazyblondeonecrazyblondeoneNo Scammers, California USA39 Threads 3,164 Posts
confused I have no idea what we are all talking about....help
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Sep 18, 2012 2:04 PM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
crazyblondeone: I have no idea what we are all talking about....
Good morning. I know. It appears this guy got snookered into a little love-note exchange, the woman either got tired or bored, found a way to blame him and brush him off. He really must have developed some kind of feeling for her, as he doesn't seem able to just let it go. Silly, if you ask me. JMO
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Sep 18, 2012 2:34 PM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
crazyblondeone
crazyblondeonecrazyblondeoneNo Scammers, California USA39 Threads 3,164 Posts
rohaan: Good morning. I know. It appears this guy got snookered into a little love-note exchange, the woman either got tired or bored, found a way to blame him and brush him off. He really must have developed some kind of feeling for her, as he doesn't seem able to just let it go. Silly, if you ask me. JMO


Good morning sweetie hug Thanks for the run down, doesn't sound good for him. Hope he can move on!!

teddybear
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Sep 19, 2012 3:04 AM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
Solamente
SolamenteSolamenteAdeje, Tenerife, Canary Islands Spain28 Threads 21 Polls 215 Posts
Thank you to all for the comments posted and to all those that sent private mails.... I shall take them on advisement.
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Sep 19, 2012 3:47 AM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
jac379
jac379jac379pontyclun, South Glamorgan, Wales UK25 Threads 3 Polls 12,293 Posts
Solamente: received this in one of the woman mail's
"If you get time please write to me as I love to hear from you even if I haven't written to you"

So for the last three days have been doing just that, then after sending today's mail, received this text.....

“Hi yor e-mails have changed beyond all recognition over the last week, in there tone, love and warmth. I feel confused and hurt and u obviously feel different 2 so don’t feel it necessary 2 send more. See ya x”

She thought she liked you.

Then she decided she didn't.

Leave her alone.

Its not appropriate to think you can change someone's feelings towards you by harassing them. You only have control over changing your own.
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Sep 19, 2012 11:31 AM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
Solamente
SolamenteSolamenteAdeje, Tenerife, Canary Islands Spain28 Threads 21 Polls 215 Posts
UPDATE............

Replied to the text saying..... "Just received your text" I didnt elaborate.

Exactly 5 mins later received the following reply....
"Sorry, forgive me, I was having a bad day will explain in a mail.XX"

This kind of reminds me of what people mean when talking about other people they say .... "they are having an on and off relationship" Well at least I now know what and on and off relationship is!!
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Sep 19, 2012 11:36 AM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
aramaya
aramayaaramayawiltshire, Wiltshire, England UK7 Threads 559 Posts
Oh Dear,,,,really?
Do you really want any kind of a relationship with someone you have only known through a few mails and then comes back with that..i think you are in for a roller coaster ride..i would walk away,good luck.
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Sep 19, 2012 2:14 PM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
22W00
22W0022W00Antibes, Provence-Alpes-Cote d'Azur France1 Threads 313 Posts
Solamente: UPDATE............

Replied to the text saying..... "Just received your text" I didnt elaborate.

Exactly 5 mins later received the following reply....
"Sorry, forgive me, I was having a bad day will explain in a mail.XX"

This kind of reminds me of what people mean when talking about other people they say .... "they are having an on and off relationship" Well at least I now know what and on and off relationship is!!


Surely your messages should have brightened up her "bad day" not got you dumped!
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Sep 20, 2012 1:25 AM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
Wildflowerbabe
WildflowerbabeWildflowerbabeSanta Cruz, Canary Islands Spain12 Posts
Solamente: UPDATE............

Replied to the text saying..... "Just received your text" I didnt elaborate.

Exactly 5 mins later received the following reply....
"Sorry, forgive me, I was having a bad day will explain in a mail.XX"

This kind of reminds me of what people mean when talking about other people they say .... "they are having an on and off relationship" Well at least I now know what and on and off relationship is!!



I knew she would go for that - keep it up there babe and ignore the people who just don't know the whole story - ahhh sweet romance
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Sep 20, 2012 2:09 AM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
Solamente
SolamenteSolamenteAdeje, Tenerife, Canary Islands Spain28 Threads 21 Polls 215 Posts
aramaya: Oh Dear,,,,really?
Do you really want any kind of a relationship with someone you have only known through a few mails and then comes back with that..i think you are in for a roller coaster ride..i would walk away,good luck.


I had a 4 year relationship through 4 countries with this woman 30 years ago. She renewed her contact with me a couple of months ago.
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Sep 20, 2012 2:12 AM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
Solamente
SolamenteSolamenteAdeje, Tenerife, Canary Islands Spain28 Threads 21 Polls 215 Posts
22W00: Surely your messages should have brightened up her "bad day" not got you dumped!


One would have thought so...
Perhaps the content of the mails I was sending her were not sufficiently heartfelt for her needs.
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Sep 20, 2012 6:02 AM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
22W00
22W0022W00Antibes, Provence-Alpes-Cote d'Azur France1 Threads 313 Posts
Solamente: I had a 4 year relationship through 4 countries with this woman 30 years ago. She renewed her contact with me a couple of months ago.


This changes things slightly, all previous comments were based on the belief that the "relationship" only consisted of a few emails.
Only you can decide whether to go down this road again, you have to consider why the relationship went wrong last time and whether these problems can be overcome a second time around, sometimes the damage runs too deep
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Sep 20, 2012 1:49 PM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
Solamente
SolamenteSolamenteAdeje, Tenerife, Canary Islands Spain28 Threads 21 Polls 215 Posts
22W00: This changes things slightly, all previous comments were based on the belief that the "relationship" only consisted of a few emails.
Only you can decide whether to go down this road again, you have to consider why the relationship went wrong last time and whether these problems can be overcome a second time around, sometimes the damage runs too deep


The relationship was as strong at the end as at the beginning, it was circumstances that forced us too part as I needed to return to the UK for family reasons, whereas she was committed to work in South Africa.
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Sep 20, 2012 3:01 PM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
aramaya: Oh Dear,,,,really?
Do you really want any kind of a relationship with someone you have only known through a few mails and then comes back with that..i think you are in for a roller coaster ride..i would walk away,good luck.
Totally. I always wonder about people who still continue to hang on, pester, stalk, etc... after the sheets are split. I know it's tough to lose someone, and no one likes getting dumped, but what's the reason for clinging to a wilted vine? (I've never understood why people can't just move on...)
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Oct 7, 2012 12:57 PM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
Najdi
NajdiNajdiSkopje, Macedonia3 Threads 4 Polls 22 Posts
Solamente: I had a 4 year relationship through 4 countries with this woman 30 years ago. She renewed her contact with me a couple of months ago.


Why did she renew contact with you?
What had changed in her/her life to make her contact you?
Did she do this more than once?
What did make you take her back?
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Oct 8, 2012 10:05 PM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
rohaan: Totally. I always wonder about people who still continue to hang on, pester, stalk, etc... after the sheets are split. I know it's tough to lose someone, and no one likes getting dumped, but what's the reason for clinging to a wilted vine? (I've never understood why people can't just move on...)


hey roh! sometimes that vine will stiffen up in a nice sturdy fashion again with a little patience....

no need to stalk tho - so true

but all of this business about moving on blah blah....why would you eve nget involed in the first place with some one who you would not at least want to remain friends with even if the romance doesn;t work?????
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Oct 8, 2012 10:15 PM CST What should I do as my feelings haven't changed?
cloud747
cloud747cloud747winnipeg, Manitoba Canada130 Threads 27 Polls 2,947 Posts
Najdi: Why did she renew contact with you?
What had changed in her/her life to make her contact you?
Did she do this more than once?
What did make you take her back?


that's how it is ..she goes back to her prey to see his suffering.

sometimes they act like that..they pull first then slash him..then come back..just to taste the sweet! taste of revenge for men in generaal
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