If your date has children and a good job and wants you to pay for babysitting what do you do? (39)
What would men do and what do women expect? Please be honest ....
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My children are my responsibilty, I dd have a date offer to pay for my babysitter one evening but I said thank you but no.
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iamsimply: What would men do and what do women expect? Please be honest ....
The person with the child /children should pay for their own babysitter.------ This poll is Archived ------
I don't know why this is even a question, the person with the children should pay, they are their responsibility. Now if a couple has an extablished relationship, and he makes more money than her (or vice versa) I can see offering to pay, but the parent should never ask for or expect that.
Do women actually do that in Canada? I mean someone must have experienced this for it to be an issue.
Do women actually do that in Canada? I mean someone must have experienced this for it to be an issue.
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So, I'm just wondering why it's assumed that the woman has kids & is the one expecting the man to pay. We are in the 21st century, right?
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Yes, I would pay my sitter myself, although I am lucky, I have an ex husband who has our children 50% of the time.
So it is not really an issue for me.
So it is not really an issue for me.
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My kid so my responsibility .Way i do it ,if at that time i dont have enough money to pay for a sitter i make the date for another night but 9/10 times my family watch my boy so iv only ever had a sitter a few times .
good thread tho
good thread tho
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In today's economy, many struggle to make ends meet. Is anything wrong with an offer??
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HJFinAZ: In today's economy, many struggle to make ends meet. Is anything wrong with an offer??
I do not think so, I think that is a very kind thing to do.
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never heard of that one can't imagine i would let someone pay my sitter but i suppose if someone really couldnt aford one, and their date was happy to pay, then it's okay- why not, no diiferent really than paying for a meal or a taxi.
can't imagine i would let someone pay my sitter but i suppose if someone really couldnt aford one, and their date was happy to pay, then it's okay- why not, no diiferent really than paying for a meal or a taxi.------ This poll is Archived ------
HJFinAZ: In today's economy, many struggle to make ends meet. Is anything wrong with an offer??
No theres not, as I said in my previous post I have had that offer but said thanks but is fine
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alabamabebe: I don't know why this is even a question, the person with the children should pay, they are their responsibility. Now if a couple has an extablished relationship, and he makes more money than her (or vice versa) I can see offering to pay, but the parent should never ask for or expect that.
Do women actually do that in Canada? I mean someone must have experienced this for it to be an issue.
Do women actually do that in Canada? I mean someone must have experienced this for it to be an issue.
I dated a caucasian woman from South Africa that now lives in Ontario! I asked if she would like to attend a mutual friends wedding and she told me the gentlemen in SA pay for everything and suggested I pick up the tab for the babysitter! I did but only because I thought her son was a great kid and we had lots of fun together other wise I'm not so sure I would have agreed! I'm not certain because I've been out of the dating scene for many tears! She was not poor and owned two homes ....
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iamsimply: I dated a caucasian woman from South Africa that now lives in Ontario! I asked if she would like to attend a mutual friends wedding and she told me the gentlemen in SA pay for everything and suggested I pick up the tab for the babysitter! I did but only because I thought her son was a great kid and we had lots of fun together other wise I'm not so sure I would have agreed! I'm not certain because I've been out of the dating scene for many tears! She was not poor and owned two homes ....
but you weren't a 'gentleman in SA' why should she expect you to pay for that, if she was obviously wealthy enough??
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jampet: but you weren't a 'gentleman in SA' why should she expect you to pay for that, if she was obviously wealthy enough??
What's done in heaven shall be done on Earth! She just changed the places!
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My kids are my responsibility...period....BUT luckily they're 16 and I don't have to worry about that anymore!!!!!!!!!
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I would offer to pay for the children. If it is someone I am interested in, and they have kids, then I need to warm up to the idea that they are a make or break deal in our relationship as well. I have never had anyone have to ask me to pay for them.
When scheduling the date, I usually ask, what about tommy and susie, do you have a sitter? I will pay for the sitter if you would like.
A lot of times they know someone who is more than happy to watch the kiddos while they go out.
When scheduling the date, I usually ask, what about tommy and susie, do you have a sitter? I will pay for the sitter if you would like.
A lot of times they know someone who is more than happy to watch the kiddos while they go out.
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alabamabebe: I don't know why this is even a question, the person with the children should pay, they are their responsibility. Now if a couple has an established relationship, and he makes more money than her (or vice versa) I can see offering to pay, but the parent should never ask for or expect that.
Do women actually do that in Canada? I mean someone must have experienced this for it to be an issue.
Do women actually do that in Canada? I mean someone must have experienced this for it to be an issue.
Yep.. thats what I was going to say.. But I'm glad you did.. I saved me having to type
Helloo Bev
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Claayer: Yep.. thats what I was going to say.. But I'm glad you did.. IT saved me having to type
Helloo Bev
Helloo Bev
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If I hired a sitter to watch my own child it would be my responsiblity for me to pay...... for my dates baby sitter that would be his responsibility of course.
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somechick: If I hired a sitter to watch my own child it would be my responsiblity for me to pay...... for my dates baby sitter that would be his responsibility of course.
Wow.. somechick.. I like your new piccy!.. You look like a MODEL!
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Claayer: Wow.. somechick.. I like your new piccy!.. You look like a MODEL!
It's called a glamor shot. Ever heard of them? I figured it was about time I looked like a lady.
You're not the first one who told me this. Thanks.
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My boss if from South Africa...I'll have to ask him if this is true that "gentlemen pick up the tab"...on things like babysitting. Sounds kinda bizarre to me...but then, maybe that's how she got two homes!!
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somechick: It's called a glamor shot. Ever heard of them? I figured it was about time I looked like a lady.
You're not the first one who told me this. Thanks.
You're not the first one who told me this. Thanks.
I wonder if I should get a glamour shot.
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kidatheart: I wonder if I should get a glamour shot.
Naw you're already handsome.
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somechick: Naw you're already handsome.
Awww, thanks
Sure glad you didn't say I need to look more lady like.
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I realize it is kinda late, but I did ask my boss about your question, and he said it is totally false, and he'd never heard of such a behavior there. Just wanted to let ya know.
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Ok,
I just saw this as a tag line while I was exiting CS. Now I don't normally come into the General Forums, but this one really got my attention.
DUDE... WALK AWAY.
It's that simple.
First of all, if a guy DECIDES to pick up the tab while dating or going out with a woman, that's fine.
That bull that in SA "all the guys pick up the tab" ? Maybe they're all nice guys, but that she should COME TO EXPECT IT FROM ALL GUYS? and HAVE THE NERVE TO ASK YOU FOR IT???
I hate to say it, but personally.... I hear....
GOLD DIGGER.
Just my 2c
I just saw this as a tag line while I was exiting CS. Now I don't normally come into the General Forums, but this one really got my attention.
DUDE... WALK AWAY.
It's that simple.
First of all, if a guy DECIDES to pick up the tab while dating or going out with a woman, that's fine.
That bull that in SA "all the guys pick up the tab" ? Maybe they're all nice guys, but that she should COME TO EXPECT IT FROM ALL GUYS? and HAVE THE NERVE TO ASK YOU FOR IT???
I hate to say it, but personally.... I hear....
GOLD DIGGER.
Just my 2c
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I wouldn't even dream of asking my date to pay for a sitter for me. If you can't afford a sitter... especially if you are with a gentleman who is willing to cover the tab at dinner, then you have no business dating. Personally, I'd rather postpone the date than ask him to pay for the sitter.
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The children are my responsibility, and if mine were young enough for me to need to have one for them to go on a date, so would paying for the sitter.
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2CBeyond: I realize it is kinda late, but I did ask my boss about your question, and he said it is totally false, and he'd never heard of such a behavior there. Just wanted to let ya know.
First of all, regarding the question presented by the Op, i think it's crazy and unfair for that woman to ask of such a 'favour'.
Now, your boss may not do it, but a man taking care of more than a woman's baby sitter's pay, is no big deal in Africa. Remember, things in Africa are done differently. In my country, men generally want to be the providers. People may deny it as much as they want, but that's part of the culture. Some still want to practise it, some don't. It's a matter of personal choice.
I don't approve, i'm just saying things are done differently everywhere, and i'm not generalising either.
Some things are just the way they are, i guess. It's up to people to accept what works best for them. No big deal.
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