Help me! My partner is impotent but nevertheless I love him (66)
fritzy99Batam, Riau Islands Indonesia40 Postsmnowsa: Are you taking this poll for yourself or for a woman?
he felt impotent, with the poll results,but she still loves him
Bauksi: Sometimes it happens that a partner is no longer able to fullfill your physical need. What would you do in such a knotty case?
Thx for your comments
bauksi
Thx for your comments
bauksi
I was in a relationship like this for six years. I stayed because I loved him. Lack of intimacy in a relationship will eventually be the downfall of the relationship no matter how much you love someone.
The thought of cheating behind his back never crossed my mind. I wanted intimacy, he didn't. I asked him many times to go to the doctor but he refused. It was the last straw and I packed my bags.
secretagent09: I was in a relationship like this for six years. I stayed because I loved him. Lack of intimacy in a relationship will eventually be the downfall of the relationship no matter how much you love someone.
That exactly describes my point of view too.You suffered for 6 years`? Unbelievable.
mnowsa: Are you taking this poll for yourself or for a woman?
for my girlfriend. she is too shy presenting herself on a datingsite. she asked me to make the poll for her. so i did as a helpful partner.
marijuana trip maybe help....
Leo_7: so how many SC women in that stage now ,i wonder?
Mine's like Miss Haversham's wedding reception.
jac_the_gripper: Mine's like Miss Haversham's wedding reception.
You have a long way to go.Was in this situation a few years ago.
We separated.
I thought I could live with it(the issue), but couldn't.
We separated.
I thought I could live with it(the issue), but couldn't.
LadyDiz2: Exactly!
Physical intimacy is so much more than the act of penetration. Unfortunately, many seem to think that ED means the end to all physical intimacy and that is when relationships start to falter.
Physical intimacy is so much more than the act of penetration. Unfortunately, many seem to think that ED means the end to all physical intimacy and that is when relationships start to falter.
Hiya Diz
Unfortunately when it comes to ED, men throw all physical intimacy out the window, for fear of what that intimacy can lead to, and their own insecurities over their failure to penetrate, comes to surface....in their minds.
I agree. Penetration is not the be all, end all. Other means of physical and emotional intimacy is important though.
...JMO from my own personal experience.
BerrySmoothie: Hiya Diz
Unfortunately when it comes to ED, men throw all physical intimacy out the window, for fear of what that intimacy can lead to, and their own insecurities over their failure to penetrate, comes to surface....in their minds.
I agree. Penetration is not the be all, end all. Other means of physical and emotional intimacy is important though.
...JMO from my own personal experience.
Unfortunately when it comes to ED, men throw all physical intimacy out the window, for fear of what that intimacy can lead to, and their own insecurities over their failure to penetrate, comes to surface....in their minds.
I agree. Penetration is not the be all, end all. Other means of physical and emotional intimacy is important though.
...JMO from my own personal experience.
Hiya Berry
Yeah, I think that is where the problem lies, not the actual ED but how some men allow it to effect the way they interact with their partners.
LadyDiz2: Hiya Berry
Yeah, I think that is where the problem lies, not the actual ED but how some men allow it to effect the way they interact with their partners.
Yeah, I think that is where the problem lies, not the actual ED but how some men allow it to effect the way they interact with their partners.
Yes, sadly.
I'm sure not ALL men are like that and can be just as giving in other ways.
Just wanted to clarify that.
It's important to be able to continue to express one's love physically and emotionally.
ED does not spell the END.
Jeez....that was clever, if I do say so, myself.
BerrySmoothie: Yes, sadly.
I'm sure not ALL men are like that and can be just as giving in other ways.
Just wanted to clarify that.
It's important to be able to continue to express one's love physically and emotionally.
ED does not spell the END.
Jeez....that was clever, if I do say so, myself.
I'm sure not ALL men are like that and can be just as giving in other ways.
Just wanted to clarify that.
It's important to be able to continue to express one's love physically and emotionally.
ED does not spell the END.
Jeez....that was clever, if I do say so, myself.
It was!!
secretagent09: I was in a relationship like this for six years. I stayed because I loved him. Lack of intimacy in a relationship will eventually be the downfall of the relationship no matter how much you love someone.
The thought of cheating behind his back never crossed my mind. I wanted intimacy, he didn't. I asked him many times to go to the doctor but he refused. It was the last straw and I packed my bags.
The thought of cheating behind his back never crossed my mind. I wanted intimacy, he didn't. I asked him many times to go to the doctor but he refused. It was the last straw and I packed my bags.
My thoughts exactly. Nobody who is sincere leaves just willy nilly, but sooner or later, it becomes too big of a problem to stay.
Just thinking of someone in the past - yeah, I would have stayed because I simply loved him.
If I meet someone now and this would "pop up" (or not), I wouldn't hang around.
If I meet someone now and this would "pop up" (or not), I wouldn't hang around.
@ jac
I think that would be a very frightening place to be in, both feeling threatened by the 'need' to be analysed, plus the internal feelings of 'lacking'.
I think that would be a very frightening place to be in, both feeling threatened by the 'need' to be analysed, plus the internal feelings of 'lacking'.
quote=Bauksi]Sometimes it happens that a partner is no longer able to fullfill your physical need. What would you do in such a knotty case?
Thx for your comments
bauksi
Talk
Thx for your comments
bauksi
Talk
as we grow older ,our bodies change......both men/woman.....things happen....that are beyond our control......and must accept that we cannot compete....with the younger generation.....we had our time....and hopefully used it right.as one door closes....another one opens........jmo......(ps)....thank god....I still function.
truheart1941: as we grow older ,our bodies change......both men/woman.....things happen....that are beyond our control......and must accept that we cannot compete....with the younger generation.....we had our time....and hopefully used it right.as one door closes....another one opens........jmo......(ps)....thank god....I still function.
Tru, your words are gold, wise and insightful
As we grow older, we come to realize that what we wanted and thought we needed no longer matter .. we can embrace where we are right now and live a beautiful and meaningful life
serene56: Incredibly honest and open Jim and very brave of you to share that And you're right, being able to go 'on and on' is not every woman's cup of tea, but being honest with an understanding partner would surely be a positive experience
I can't believe I wrote that actually!
Yes I've learnt to talk about it before we get to the point of being intimate, I don't want to make the same mistakes of the past, a heads up on my condition eases the tension. Honesty is always the best option.
........@ justjim 63.......I,m sorry to hear of your accident.....hope you are well......pete.
justjim63: I can't believe I wrote that actually!
Yes I've learnt to talk about it before we get to the point of being intimate, I don't want to make the same mistakes of the past, a heads up on my condition eases the tension. Honesty is always the best option.
Yes I've learnt to talk about it before we get to the point of being intimate, I don't want to make the same mistakes of the past, a heads up on my condition eases the tension. Honesty is always the best option.
If one is relaxed and feeling at ease, what will be will be
BerrySmoothie: Nothing wrong with "on and on" at all.
Communication helps.
Communication helps.
The only problem is when the lady starts to question her attractiveness to me, I hate them doubting themselves because of me. Other than that it's all good.
justjim63: I can't believe I wrote that actually!
Yes I've learnt to talk about it before we get to the point of being intimate, I don't want to make the same mistakes of the past, a heads up on my condition eases the tension. Honesty is always the best option.
Yes I've learnt to talk about it before we get to the point of being intimate, I don't want to make the same mistakes of the past, a heads up on my condition eases the tension. Honesty is always the best option.
Thinking incredibly gutsy of you to reveal that.
It not only helps you, but could possibly assist others as well.
truheart1941: ........@ justjim 63.......I,m sorry to hear of your accident.....hope you are well......pete.
Thanks Pete, all good now!.....only I'm a bit too much of a stayer!..
@jac
It could possibly be a matter of not getting the mental/emotional/physical connection required
It could possibly be a matter of not getting the mental/emotional/physical connection required
justjim63: The only problem is when the lady starts to question her attractiveness to me, I hate them doubting themselves because of me. Other than that it's all good.
You just need to convey to her how pleasurable it is for you.
If she's into you, she'll understand and relax.
BerrySmoothie: Thinking incredibly gutsy of you to reveal that.
It not only helps you, but could possibly assist others as well.
It not only helps you, but could possibly assist others as well.
Thankyou so much Berry, I don't get embarrassed about things like that and having worked in the medical field I find it easy to talk about such things, if it helps others in some way then I'm happy to have said it.
BerrySmoothie: You just need to convey to her how pleasurable it is for you.
If she's into you, she'll understand and relax.
If she's into you, she'll understand and relax.
That's lovely.
serene56: @jacIt could possibly be a matter of not getting the mental/emotional/physical connection required
Yeah, that's what I'm thinking.
In which case, handling it poorly is likely to have the opposite effect of what we want.
.......@ Jac........hi Jac, its just a simple solution...for me...just pop over......so I can get my leg over you.......
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