I never expect a woman to read my mind. Indeed, I would appreciate it, if she would stop trying and not expect me to do this either. When people attempt to 'read between the lines'. they make up stuff, that is most often wrong. Indeed, instead, good communication (by both people) is critical for long term relationship success.
Hey Dennis. Rather than inflict my usual comedic drivel upon you, I wish that you feel much better about yourself and the past.
However, in the future I advise you not to give so much, where it is unappreciated and un-returned. Instead, give a tiny bit and SEE if that is returned/appreciated. If so, give a tiny bit more and slowly raise the intensity and investment (of time, emotions, etc..) If not reciprocated and appreciated, invest your time & efforts where it IS appreciated & reciprocated (elsewhere). Otherwise, you are more likely to push someone away from you, than convince them that they should reciprocate.
To love someone is to truly understand them, not overwhelm them.
May your future relationship be mutual & long lasting.
I would be happy to relocate to Hawaii. I do not have any children. If you already have kids, that is not a problem as long as they do not interfere with your job responsibilities. Indeed, part of your salary can go towards a Swedish au pair.
I'm not sure why you think that you let him down. But, hang in there. There is nothing that can be done to reverse time. Try to accept this as not your fault, but an unfortunate part of the life cycle. Indeed, it is eventually the fate of all. Feel lucky that your life continues. However, it is limited, so do the best to enjoy it while you still can. I'm guessing he would have wanted you to do so.
Later that evening we celebrated Amanda's (my cousins' youngest daughter) 20th birthday with cake & song and then taking her out dancing. She likes C & W line dancing. There were 6 of us (Guy, Amanda, Doug, Roxanne, Kaycey and myself - 3 guys & 3 gals). My cousin joked that we greatly improved the quality of women there and tripled the IQ of the place just by walking in. I don't know about the IQ thing, as I didn't get to talk with many of the guys. However, I will say this, the women there were some of the biggest, fattest women I have ever seen in my life. I joked that locally perhaps not only the horses were strapping on feedbags. Since I was the only single guy of us 3 men, Guy looked at me and joked that he "was very glad he was married, because if he was single, he would be mighty worried about now." Although I got lots of smiles from the local heifers, I made sure, that I was occupied for all slow dances with the three ladies we came with, especially the birthday girl.
On Easter I headed back north starting with the mountains of South Carolina & North Carolina, where I hiked to 5 different waterfalls; Wildcat, Lookout, Cove Creek, . Then, the next morning I drove to Baltimore and spent several hours photographing their National Aquarium. Luckily, I had bought a spare memory card for my camera, as I ran out of space on it after the dolphins show. On the way back, I stopped along I-95 in Maryland and was somewhat surprised to see about 200 Phillies fans dressed in Phillies shirts & hats. Apparently, a bunch of them drove down to Washington to see the Phillies wallop the Washington Nationals 11 - 1.
On the way back to the car in the parking lot, I saw an elderly man placing a bag of potato chips in the trunk of the car. The top was rolled up to prevent spillage. I said "aha ! I see you sneaking the chips while she's not looking." He let out a real bellylaugh and then said, "yep, you got me".
While driving home, my Mets won their home opener 7 - 1 versus the Florida Marlins. Lets go Mets !
I arrived home late last night and am just now catching up on phone & e-mail messages. Nonetheless, I hope you all had a terrific Easter and enjoyed my trip.
RE: Why do men die first?
I never expect a woman to read my mind. Indeed, I would appreciate it, if she would stop trying and not expect me to do this either. When people attempt to 'read between the lines'. they make up stuff, that is most often wrong. Indeed, instead, good communication (by both people) is critical for long term relationship success.