By the way, Just watched the Paul Potts video...had to search for it...and it was amazing to watch Simon's reaction. He actually applauded and had something positive to say!
I was blown away by his voice, btw. Amazing talent.
Hey, JB, those sound really good. I read a series many years ago by Marc Olden that were so descriptive of Japanese life that I actually used them to write a paper for my Cultural Anthropology class. That's one culture I love to read about, especially in those days. (Ninja, Giri, Gaijin...highly recommend them if you love Japanese history and culture, yet they're murder mysteries written in modern times.)
I grew up in the country, in small towns in NH. The first one that I can remember was a town that was so small that we had a "country store" that sold jeans, boots, hammers, nails, milk, eggs, candy, and had two gas pumps out front. Our school only went to 6th grade, and it was next to the cemetery (no kidding...we used to go over the stone "fence" into it to play hide-and-seek during recess ) We had to go one town over to go to Jr High and High School....or at least, those who grew up there did. We left there for a bit more populated area when I was in 3rd grade. Still, we lived in the more rural part of that, too.
I've been near cities when I was in the Army...Monterey, CA & Tucson, AZ were my favorites, for that more "small town" feeling...and I've lived in Honolulu, HI. That and AZ are two places I would gladly live in again. I now live in the suburbs, in a nice, quiet neighborhood, and I love it here. But I'll always be a country girl at heart.
I go to the gym, work out on the aerobic machines (elliptical, treadmill, recumbent bike), and with weights. Haven't been going as regularly since I started working...also had to give up Tai Chi for now. Going today, though...to the gym. Finally. I miss it.
I don't get to go during the week b/c I don't like to leave the dogs crated for the extra hour that takes.
My longest marriage was to a "bad boy"...very good father, though, and father of my two sons. He's still a bad boy...and the divorce happened because of the medication he ended up on for his back pain. For one week they took him off of that and put him on Valium and I had the man I'd married back...but then he developed an allergic reaction to it. The medicine he took killed the man I'd married...even though he's still very much alive in body. He's still a very bitter, nasty man to me now...even after all of these years.
Never thought of it that way....but you're right. Women always want a man who is stronger...and this is perceived as strength and protection. Maybe that need is what I've outgrown.
Well, see...your mom was a smart lady, apparently!
The badboys always get the women, and nice guys finish last...I think that these are myths.
Have I been attracted to the "bad boys"?...sure! I like risks, though...and there was a certain thrill there. Now, I'd rather have a nice man. I got older, smarter...grew up (sort of).
I love to sing along with songs, but I try really hard to refrain in public...bad enough that I torture myself and my dogs.
I am beginning to play several different drums from around the world...djembe, bodhran, Native American drum, Tibetan Shaman drum...building a collection slowly.
As a child, I tried the Coronet (a shorter, fatter version of a trumpet), but had to give it up because my baby sister was always sleeping (as babies do) and mom would yell at me for practicing. And in NH, you don't go outside to practice in winter. It was a shame, 'cuz my grandfather had promised me his silver trumpet from when he played on the radio in Chicago if I kept it up... oh, well.
Cool that you both remain here for the friends! I've noticed that several do that even after they get in a serious relationship, because they have made true friends along the way as well...and I think that's awesome!
I have successfully dated from other sites, and have one good friend I made recently 'cuz we were too alike to date. I have also had bad encounters in person...but I have to say that there were warnings online and I gave it a shot anyway. (NOTE: if they're pushy online, they're pushier in person.)
I know the feeling. Mostly, I get scamsters. Here's the thing, though...if they're that shallow, you don't want them anyway. You're a good looking guy, and don't appear that overweight. And I understand what you're saying above...I eat healthy most of the time and go to the gym when I can, but I'll never be "skinny". There are women out there who don't judge by weight or looks...keep hope, she'll come along.
I have, the last relationship before my last marriage...(hope I didn't lose anyone there ). I met a guy online that I dated for a few months, and it was great while it lasted. More recently I met a guy on another site that after a few dates, we agreed to be good friends. (We're too much alike for dating...it's like dating oneself.) Who knows, maybe one of these days I'll actually meet the right one online,too...but you never know unless you try.
Physical handsomeness has many different forms...there are the symmetrically handsome (Jean Claude VanDamm), the ruggedly handsome (mastic55 is a good example of that on here), the "oh, they're so cute" handsome(Richard Gere)...however, for me, handsome is as handsome does.
I care more about a man who is intelligent and witty, polite and considerate, compassionate and caring, wise and possessing inner strength and beauty, than I ever will for one who is "handsome" on the outside and ugly and empty on the inside. I know several of those, and they don't understand why they can't get a date with me when it should be the ultimate compliment to me (in their minds)...however, these men also don't want a relationship, they only want one thing...I became chum (shark bait) immediately after my husband died. Thankfully, the word "no" has been heard enough to make them back off. (I played "Fins" by Jimmy Buffet on the jukebox for a long time, but they didn't get it. )
(I used to order one for the boys to split when they were little...they just couldn't eat a whole dinner by themselves. Now, they eat like horses, and I let them get what they want.)
Unfortunately, I'm fatally allergic to bees...or I would help. Yes, the insects are more important than people like to acknowledge.
I got to see Deepok Chopra speak last November, and one thing has really stuck with me that he said:
"If all of the insects died off of the face of our planet, all other life forms would cease to exist. However, if human beings died off of this planet, all other life forms would thrive."
I'll never forget those wise words. And no, I tend not to kill most of the bugs and spiders in my house. If I can't stand to live with them, I try to put them outside.
RE: In the mood for a party, I was going to hire the band but we have lots of home grown talent so
I'll be at your party, Jenny...and I'll bring my djembe and my tambourine! Gotta have music!