There are things that my parents did right that I do with my kids...they taught me solid values like honesty, being a good friend, helping others. They also taught me to stand up for myself.
However, they never taught me the value of a dollar. Dad was a pilot and made good money, so we had everything we wanted. That didn't do me a lot of good long-term.
Also, there are things I don't wish to repeat. My mom was abusive physically, emotionally, and psychologically. I haven't done any of that to my own kids. Also, mom runs the household absolute, it's her way or the highway, and dad knows he'd better enforce it if he wants peace (and piece). Dad has a backbone...surprises us on the rare times it shows, but he seems to be content to let her rule. I believe in the equal partnership that they espoused, even if it's not 100% the way it is. (There are ways in which it is...it's complex, so I don't know how to explain better...I know I just contradicted myself.)
They raised me solidly Christian...mostly Catholic. I am raising my sons solidly Pagan...in Catholic schools. They have good values, and I get compliments all the time on what great kids I have. I can't take all of the credit, though. Their dad does a pretty good job, too. We co-parent well.
I didn't used to bother...used to have the philosophy that I'm just going to mess it up again that night.
However, since I've remodeled the house and my it's now my Master Retreat, I like to make the bed every morning. I like to see it looking the relaxing retreat it is...a little Moroccan inspired, and it needs the decorator pillows on it to have that full effect of a boudoir.
If I'm running late, I'll skip it, though. I'm not compulsive about it.
I believe both should be equals. Marriage these days is a partnership since usually both people work, so all else should also be divided equally. I have a boss at work, but I don't want one at home...nor do I want to be one.
Chip, your profile is good now...just have patience. It doesn't happen overnight. In the meantime, come on the forums for more than this. Hang out here, join in the fun, relax and make friends. You never know...with time you might meet the right person. There have been several success stories through the forums here, and many have stayed active in them because of the friendships they made along the way.
My theme song for my life is I Am Woman, for the fact that I relate totally to what Helen Reddy sings:
You can bend but never break me 'cause it only serves to make me More determined to achieve my final goal And I come back even stronger Not a novice any longer 'cause you've deepened the conviction in my soul
Oh yes I am wise But it's wisdom born of pain Yes, I've paid the price But look how much I gained If I have to, I can do anything I am strong (strong) I am invincible (invincible) I am woman
Honey, if we could all sue for emotional damage without being in a disfiguring accident, we'd all be rich on here! He has no leg to stand on here. Check it for sure with a lawyer...but breach of promise is something like breaching a rental contract, or some other contract...has nothing to do with contact through a false id. You've done nothing wrong.
Ummm...breach of promise? Did you sign a marriage contract under that false ID? If not, what was the promise supposed to be? I would suggest fighting this, lady. It's not a crime to hide your true identity, or do anything of the above, with a "friend".
Yes, this is my point...everything happens for a reason, and it's all part of our Path.
I believe we choose our lessons and challenges to learn them before we come into this world...and the choices we make along the way either help us or hurt us on that Path...but it all happens for a reason. To me, the whole point of our existence here is soul growth.
However, yes...the possibilities of food w/o calories and transfats tasting good would be great...maybe they'd taste better than the Milky Way bar! Wouldn't that be awesome?!
yep...my idea of a wild time is for my best friend to come over to spend the night, have one hit of weed and one wine cooler while we watch HGTV and then a movie...whoo hooo, we're wild women!
No...if you can't do it after putting it on, delete it and then add it again. When you add you have the buttons below to click on for yes/no for both ratings and comments being allowed.
Because I wanted to nip that one in the bud before this whole thread turned political...I dread those!
Fair enough...and yes, I heard that too...isn't that why we're bringing all of our favorite foods along? What if food with no calories and transfats has no taste to our palate?
Still, nice to repeat, and we have newbies on here and others who don't always come on...so, it'll be different.
There are things that I wish I had or hadn't done...but then, to change the past would change what happened afterward...so, no, I wouldn't change anything because there are things that happened later that might not have.
"Regrets, I've had a few...but then again, too few to mention" ~Frank Sinatra
(thank goodness you can't hear me sing on here, you'd throw me out)
I'll share the sorbet anyway...and I wish I could have the clam chowder. I miss that one a lot...lactose intolerant, Ken. (See above note on GB's menu.)
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Peace.
RE: did your parents bring you up right ? would you raise children the same way ?
There are things that my parents did right that I do with my kids...they taught me solid values like honesty, being a good friend, helping others. They also taught me to stand up for myself.However, they never taught me the value of a dollar. Dad was a pilot and made good money, so we had everything we wanted. That didn't do me a lot of good long-term.
Also, there are things I don't wish to repeat. My mom was abusive physically, emotionally, and psychologically. I haven't done any of that to my own kids. Also, mom runs the household absolute, it's her way or the highway, and dad knows he'd better enforce it if he wants peace (and piece). Dad has a backbone...surprises us on the rare times it shows, but he seems to be content to let her rule. I believe in the equal partnership that they espoused, even if it's not 100% the way it is. (There are ways in which it is...it's complex, so I don't know how to explain better...I know I just contradicted myself.)
They raised me solidly Christian...mostly Catholic. I am raising my sons solidly Pagan...in Catholic schools. They have good values, and I get compliments all the time on what great kids I have. I can't take all of the credit, though. Their dad does a pretty good job, too. We co-parent well.